Is this a good way to "ask" my dad...?

Question

Okay, please be open minded about this situation. I am 16, and i want to get a SMALL nosejob. My nose's tip is HUGE, especially when I smile. It really effects my self esteem; & i feel like i wont be able to move onto my life until i get something done to it. My mother is perfectly fine with the idea, but i have to convince my strict father that its a good idea. Is the following a good way to ask him about it? "Dad, I have changed alot this past year and i was wondering what you would think if i wanted to get a small procedure done to my nose.I have saved up alot of money this past year to get the procedure done, and it's really not a huge deal. I just wanted to get your approval. The nose procedure would really help boost my confidence" any more advice on how to ask? PLEASE DONT DISCOURAGE ME. :] i already emailed a plastic surgeon and he said the procedure most likely wouldnt even need general anastethic in my case. yes im aware of the risks, but ive done HOURS of homework.Thank you.

once again, dont discourage me out of getting it done. its something ive wanted to do since i was ten, and if my father says no ill just wait until im 18.

Answer 1

You have done your homework good for you! I had a problem like that and also my eye due to an accident one was lower then the other. But my dad let me have it. But here is what you should do go get one of those exam folders with the clear side and the other color? Write a proposal for what you want to do show your dad a picture of what you want, that you have saved the money and how important this is to you. DO NOT WHINE! That will not help. Hope that helps if not get him to promise that when you turn 18 you can get it no questions asked. Good luck.

Answer 2

I find this very sad. I mean, face it, you are only a kid and you have no idea where the experience in life will get you. Maybe (hopefully) later you will realize than an extra millimeter on the nose does NOT make the person more or less attractive, at least to the people that matter.
Also, you never get guaranteed results with any plastic surgery, so there is a big chance you will end up with something that will need more fixing. Not to mention it's absolutely true that people grow into their noses, and you have a LOT of growing to do yet. I can't understand why your mother would allow this. Don't be obsessed with tiny details like that! Be yourself and be proud for god's sake. There are tons of GORGEOUS attractive women out there with big noses, just because they have the courage to stick up for themselves and work with what they've got. There's nothing more attractive than that. You cut your nose, you'll be another cookie cutter boring face same as everyone else. Do you really want that?? If you can't see that you are too young for this kind of thing, then you are definately NOT mature enough to do it.
Trust me, people ALWAYS KNOW it's fake. They will always know. And that is not a good thing.

Answer 3

first start off by mentioning your nose EVERY day.
make a subtle comment to him (you need to plant the seeds a little ) then in a few weeks tell him that youve been looking it up online and talking to some doctors about it and that you found a procedure that is perfect for you. It wont change the nose drastically, just tastefully sculpt it. tell him what you told us show him how much you want it because you convinced me! you seem very serious and concerned about this. you have to show this to your father. tell him that this isnt just some attempt at making your face plastic and uniform. say you are getting a procedure done that keeps your character and just REFINES your nose .print out paperwork on it. and the emails with the doctors. give him prices. and show him a printout of the doctors information. email even more doctors about it. you have to prove to him that you are mature enough to make the decision responsibly.

dont whine though.

just if he says no, keep mentioning your nose to him.. but be smart about it. dont be obvious or pushy. you have to slip it in there.

good luck sweety i hope it all works out! keep me updated

Answer 4

Waiting until you are 18 might be the best idea. Your face changes dramatically in your later teen years and early 20s. If you do want to get it done however, that does sound like a responsible and courteous way to approach it. You are approaching the discussion as an adult rather than having a typical teen temper tantrum and I should hope that he would treat you with the same respect you are showing him.

As for your confidence hon, appearance is not as important as high school thought makes it out to be. You seem intelligent and responsible. Your nose could be purple and it sounds like you will succeed at whatever you desire.

(except modeling.... never seen a model with a purple nose...)

Answer 5

Sounds okay to me but IF he says no don't get whiny or angry or pouty. Ask him if he might consider it at a later time. There's a chance that if you react like an adult to whatever he says he may relent. Stay calm and collected so you can actually talk to him about it. He needs to see some maturity in order to believe it isn't a whim on your part that you might change your mind about. But also be aware that in a couple of years you may grow into your nose. It happens all the time. You're not through growing until you're about 20 and sometimes that little bit of growing puts everything in proportion. Does anyone else in the family have a large nose so you can get an idea?

Answer 6

Since you have already pretty much sold your mom on the idea, let her help you convince your dad. The two of you can discuss the matter with him together, and use your combined persuasive powers to bring him around to your way of thinking.

You don't want me to discourage you, but I will tell you this: If you can't convince him to let you do it wait until you are old enough that you don't need his permission. Don't go against his wishes if he prefers that you don't get the nose job.

I don't know you and have never seen your picture, but I have seen myself in the mirror and to me I look uglier than Cinderella's sisters--which is rather a leap since I am a guy. But I know not everyone sees me the way I see myself in the mirror. I will bet you are a sweet and pretty girl who has no reason to have low self-esteem.

If the nose job will help your self-confidence and your dad agrees, get it. But if he doesn't agree wait until you can do it without his agreement and keep your family happy. And learn to like yourself the way God made you--God doesn't make anything that isn't top quality.

Answer 7

DO NOT CRY OR WHINGE!

This is the time to show your Dad every bit of maturity you have. To show him how serious this is to you is a big thing. Talk to him like you would a good friend. Explain how much it effects you. Tell him about the research you have done. Plastic surgery in todays world is seen as something we do in our adulthood, so he needs to see the calm, patient and sesnsible side of you to really take it seriously.

If it helps, suggest to him that before you have the proceedure done that you would be willing to talk to a professional, to make sure you are mentally ready for it. Even invite him along.

The more serious you are and act about the situation the more he will listen.

Good luck with it all - Cheers.

Answer 8

I think what you plan to say to your dad is good. It sounds mature and responsible.
I'm not going to discourage you because I understand how our looks can affect our self-esteem. But I do have to mention that your nose is still changing, and it might be better to wait until you're 18 anyway. I'm sure a good plastic surgeon can tell you more.
Good luck, whatever you decide. :)

Answer 9

Ay this is a dilema because the first thig that would concern your father is your health and the dangers that having a surgery involves. You know there are major risks...Being under anesthesia is not something to take light. I think that the best way to approach your father is by gathering all the information you have, drs, their success stories, and then you can tell him that you understand his main concern is not economic but your wellbeing and that you want his support in this because you feel that is affecting your the way you feel about yourself. I am sure that your father will understand you and with all theinformation you will present to him and letting him know what this means to you, i am sure he will support you in it.

dont go against your parents will, we never know how much they know about life until we get older. Parents who put the wellbeing of their children first are always right.

Answer 10

I have a long nose tip...

i just made a style i love and a style that makes my nose look cute and really good hair styles...


dont get a nose job ppl will say ur prettier or something but itll e fake it wont be natural just trust me.