My son ran away to Europe when he was 15. He's 17 now and recently came to visit with his girlfriend for xmas. I was seriously consider try to make him stay but my husband would never forgive me if I did. So I let him go.
I got back from visiting him in Croatia a week ago. He's doing very well, he have a very nice house, he and his girlfriend are very happy with eachother. He's working as a high fashion photographer assistant. I've seen some of his works and they were really good and couple of pictures of the photographer he work for is in some of Croatia biggest magazines.
I can't help but I feel really guilty about not keep him here and make him stay home when he was here for xmas. I feel like I should have made him stay and finish high school and go to college. I feel like he should have a normal teen age life and do things like dating, go to prom, finish school, get accept in college and other things. Am I wrong? Is this feeling normal?
2007-03-19 18:07:54 · 5 answers · asked by Pink R 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
is it guilt ? or you miss him and want him as your baby, which is normal by the way :) sounds like he is just fine, no sense in making him go back in time, he obviously chose what he wants and what he wants to be :) i know it hurts, that's what growing up is all about in a mother's heart :) each step takes them further away :) i was depressed when one day i told my 11 year old son, let's go to the movies, and he replied, no i am going with friends...
2007-03-19 18:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sahar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel guilty, that's what being a mother is all about. But it's too late to make him stay. He left home at 15 why would he stay now? Sounds like he's made a good life for himself, be happy, you must of instilled some good qualities in him when he was a child.
2007-03-20 01:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by Rizza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal for a parent to want the best for their children. But from what you've just said, I think he is doing fine right now. You raised him the best way you knew possible. Time will heal your saddened heart. Just be happy he did not get hurt when he ran away. Many kids do this to their parents, and the end result is terrible. I'm glad yours is okay.
2007-03-20 01:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though your feelings are understandable, you did the right thing and I am glad that your husband helped you do the right thing. You are feeling guilty because you are comparing him and you (as his mother) to the others who constitute the normal society. But very successful people are also not normal just as failures are not normal. And your son is doing well, so be grateful to God (whatever you prefer to name).
2007-03-20 01:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom, the job of a parent is to raise your child to be self assured, independent and able to stand on their own. The only thing you need to let go of is guilt, you my dear have done a fine job; your son sounds like he is flourishing, and it is because you trusted him enough to make the right decisions. Well done! Now all there is to do is love him! Now let yourself be happy my dear, you deserve it and so does he.
2007-03-20 01:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋