When you were once ugly and become pretty, do you ever get over being ugly?

Question

When i was in grade school, i was chubby, weird, kids would say im the ugliest girl in the whole class. i also dressed like a dork.
when i turned 15 i would run into these kids and they could not believe it was me, i got pretty somehow. None of the kids at my new school would believe i was ugly.
I am 25 years old now and in college i was one of the most prettiest, popular girls. I even model now.
But honeslty most of the time i feel like that ugly chubby weird girl. When i look at my modeling photos, i cant believe thats me. When i see photos of myself i go "oh thats me".
I feel insecure.. i want to feel like the girl in the photos but i cant.
what is wrong with me?

I'm not superficial, i was tormented in grade school for being ugly.

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with you... you're just too used to being the way you were before. A lot of girls I went to school with started out funny-looking and became drop-dead gorgeous by the time they hit high school; it's just the way some things happen....

Me, for instance-- I'm sure you can tell by my avatar, I'm a guy. When I was in grade school, to be completely honest, I wasn't all that bright. I didn't understand the subjects, I didn't like my teachers, and I hated the other students. They called me dumb and ugly all the time, and after being called ugly and dumb so many times, I started believing what the students were saying. A lot of years passed, and I started going to high school.

The teachers at the high school didn't really know what to do with me, so they tried to put me in special education classes and had an IQ test administered... which came back to be 125 points, which is well over most students IQ's, or so I was told. The teachers didn't really know what to think; I was failing my classes, but I had an IQ that was on the high side of average. Once it started sinking in that I wasn't as stupid as I was led to believe-- it might've been psychosomatic-- but I started doing tons better in my classes. The turnaround was so drastic, that the kids and students that thought they were so much better and smarter than me all those years, started hating me for a new reason: I began to turn the tables on them and started making them look dumber and dumber....

Then, something in my brain snapped just a little bit... and I wound up going in and out of mental hospitals for the next four and a half years. I'm straying a little far from the point, so I'll get back to it immediately.

The point of this answer is simply this: It doesn't matter what other people think, or what they tell you... it's their flawed, human opinion. Just because someone says something, doesn't make them right.

So, you were a chubby girl... you grew out of it. So, maybe you were a funny-looking child... you grew out of it. All that really matters is what you feel like on the inside. If you let people drag you down, and if you believe what they say, you'll find a way to make them right, and letting someone have that kind of power over you takes away your God-given right to live and feel the way YOU want to live and feel. I let people have that power over me for too long, and I'm still struggling with getting over my own insecurities... just the same way you're struggling over yours. I guess that makes us somewhat alike.

So, the facts don't change themselves... you were who you were then, and you are who you are now; the road you took has brought you where you are, and looking back is just going to make things harder on you, just as they have me; I spend a lot of time looking backward, too. But, if you'll do your best to just be who you are now, then I'll do my best to do the same, even though I was planning on doing that anyway, at least this way gives me a little incentive to stick with it. Be who you are, and be who you've become... the past may have brought you where you are, but doesn't define who you can be for your present and future. You ARE the girl in those photos... and I'm a guy who now has a borderline genius IQ. It seems everyone was wrong about us both.

Answer 2

Okay, from a guys perspective, I had the same situation. In 6th grade, I busted up my knee pretty bad, at the same time I hit puberty, long before other kids. In 6th grade, I was wearing a full leg cast, on crutches, I was a major "Pizza face", kind of fat, and greasy hair. I was going through a shoe size every six months. I was sporting a leg brace between 7th and 8th grades. And yes, still fat, greasy hair and zit faced. Once that leg brace came off, I was able to move again, run, workout, shower easier, etc.....By 10th grade, I wasn't too bad looking, standing in at 6'0 even, and 220 pounds. I lifted more than the super jocks, beat them in arm wrestling almost on a daily basis, and turned out to be a lot smarter than most of them. I knew girls like you, where in grade school they really were butt ugly, but turned out to be totally hot. I have never gotten over feeling ugly, or feeling like a loser, regardless of the current situation. I don't think that feeling ever goes away. Those types of feelings are engrained into who you are. I do think that it keeps you down-to-earth, and makes you more compassionate towards others who experience a similar situation. Young or old. That's my thoughts anyway.

Answer 3

I totally know what you mean. In grade school I was the skinny knobby kneed clumsy girl with ears that were too big for my head. But...16 came along and suddenly I was cute. Then college came along and I was voted hottest girl on campus. But I don't feel sexy sometimes, and the insecurities of childhood all come back to me. Cuz, like you, I was teased too. I was made fun of for everything from my hair to my clothes. It was really hurtful and hard to get over.
I don't know if there is an answer to how to stop feeling this way. For me, it's not an all the time thing. But when it happens, boy do I feel ugly.
But at the end of the day, I just have to remind myself that the clumsy knobby kneed little girl that everyone made fun of is gone forever.
be confident in yourself. Cuz remember, the ugly chubby weird girl is gone.

good luck girl!

Answer 4

I think that will always be with you. But you've evolved... A whole new you! You'd have more of a clearer view of how ugly/chubby kids feel and the difference of how pretty kids are treated by comparison.

Congratulations to you... You'd have that little bit more wisdom than some of the others.

Answer 5

No I don't think you really will get over that all the way.... You will always feel like the kid kids made fun of.... Just look at yourself every day and try to build up your self esteem and hang out with people who make you feel good on the inside and that will shine through to your outer beauty.

Answer 6

I believe it makes you stronger. Then maybe you see someone who is shy, unsure, low self esteem, and then maybe you could help them.. Encourage their other gifts and talents. "Pay it forward" so to speak, then from inside you'll feel a warm glow from helping others and not focusing so much on looks. I'm sure EveryBody has had moments of oh my , that was me back in school days with glasses, braces, back braces, speech problems, the funny,wierd clothes and they have learned to overcome those moments. Just be glad you're not a celebrity, wouldnt you hate being photographed taking your garbage to the curb! Be happy with who you are now and what you've accomplished.!!!!!

Answer 7

You have to learn to love who you are on the inside. You have to know that your worth is much more than your looks. It's hard because people are treating you special due to your out side but you need to find friends who would love you even if you were that geek again. Be yourself and try to fall in love with every inch of you inside and out. Your worthy of a healthy life. Search your soul and be set free:)

Answer 8

nothing is wrong with you.
you've just got ugly duckling syndrome.
i really hear ya, i know where you're coming from.
you just have to understand that the girl you were back then and the girl you are now are two very different people.
don't worry. you'll be alright. <3

Answer 9

I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder . I dont think anyone is ugly . There is someone for everyone

Answer 10

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.