How do get over regret and mistakes?

Question

This may sound crazy- i have never told anyone this but i feel tormented everyday with regret, i stay up at night feeling sick about some boyfriends i broke up with, mistakes i made, theres one guy i met 7 years ago- i feel i messed up everything with him, 7 years later and i think about how i messed up everyday.. i think of another ex i chose over him who was a loser and i couldnt see it.
whats wrong with me?

I messed up everything because he told me loves me and to move to his city, i said no because i was scared he would dump me. I realize now how great this guy was and i never will meet anyone like him and have that chance again

Answer 1

You need to make better choices. Before you break up with one guy for another, think about it. By making snap decisions, you may be walking away from the best relationship of your life. Show some disipline or you will find yourself a 45 year old woman longing for what all of your friends have in life. A career, a home, a husband, and a family. You can't be a party girl all your life. You don't state your age but I'm thinking you probably are in your early 20's. Do yourself a really big favor and don't go out with losers. If you know they are a loser already, why do that to yourself? You just may get stuck with one someday. And then you will spend the rest of your life unhappy. Remember you can't go back and you can only go forward. Get out there and find a nice guy to date. You will be glad you did. Good luck, Sweetie.

Answer 2

How old are you?? you sound like your a young teen. If i am wrong then you need to start appreciating you as a person before anyone else can. Value your love and life. Stop worrying about fixing things, nothing is broken. Don't say i could be better or do better like you are broken. Say it in a way where you are loving yourself first. improvement does not mean something is broken, just means it can be better.

Love you for you. Don't live life in regret, you are only denying your beautiful self to this wonderfull world. The world can not accept you if you can't accept your self.

Chin up honey you will be ok.

Answer 3

We all "blow it" from time to time... -And have to deal with the consequences. It's a part of life. But once the "milk is spilled"- and the "mess cleaned up", -it's time to get over it & move on. There's NOTHING you can do about what happened 7 years ago (and there's no guarenteeing that even if you COULD- the result would've been better- anyway!). And there's nothing wrong with you now- either. You just learned a hard lesson... Now it's time to let "go" of what happened & move on with your life.

Answer 4

You're human and those are the consequences of your choices that you just have to live with. Geez, I get those kinds of thoughts during stressful times in my life and it's just something that I learn to live with in realizing that every choice that I make has consquences for myself and others sometimes for a lifetime and that I need to be careful in my speech, actions and behavior to make the things I do and say count in a positive way. You can't make up for your mistakes and erase the past, but you can change the here and now and you can change your future.

Answer 5

You are probably single now and lonely right? If so, then you are probably missing the companionship of a guy. You may not be missing the guy you left 7 years ago. If you left him 7 years ago, there must have been a reason...think about it...and try to move on.

Answer 6

You need to remember that you can learn from your past mistakes to help make you a better person today. Dwelling on past wrongdoings wont help you at all. You will constantly have fear the next time you make a mistake.

Remember noone is ever perfect and it doesnt matter what age you are people are prone to making them. Its just a matter of what you learn and what you do with the rest of your life that counts.

Answer 7

You need to start thinking positive.
What is the point of dwelling on these mistakes? Where is it getting you? NOWHERE and NO POINT!!!
You have to see beyond these things and get out there in the real world and find someone new. It's been 7 years, and it's time to move on.

I hope everything works out for you,

Answer 8

All you can do is learn from your mistakes and let it go. The past is unchangable and everything happens for a reason. There is a lesson to be learned in everything look for it. How do you know you messed everything up for him?

Answer 9

there is nothing wrong with you... you're human!!! we all have regrets and make bad decisions in our lives... but you can't live a full and happy life on regret... you can't go back and change it, you can't fix it today... you won't be able to fix it tomorrow... life has to go on... now you can choose to live every day in the past and never see things right in front of your eyes... but won't that just be another regret later... or you can choose to let go of the ghosts that haunt you and move on and enjoy today... they are just guys... you live and you learn... but if i may say so...it sounds like you're living with loneliness as well...you have to love yourself before you can share that love with another... i truly hope that you find a way to move on and find peace in your heart... I've been there and know the pain that eats at you... but all that is just a ghost in your past...
best wishes

Answer 10

nothing you took a right instead of a left and obviously you had to choose. We have to make choices every day wether they are right or wrong we always have to take a chance. But you must chaulk it up to experience and maybe someday you will choose the other route down that road.