When i was 22 (and unmarried), I met a married woman at a bar/ club. She was older, but still relatively attractive and our personalities just clicked. she was out with her friends. seemed to be happy enough about her life, and wasn't outto pick up a guy - she was taken aback by the whole thing.
It turned into a romp in the back seat of her truck.
So now my wife, 43, and a 7 out of 10 for her age, goes out with her freinds dancing once a month, more or less. They have a real blast. She’s come home tipsy. At least one of her freinds, I know, has a small reputation for fluziness. I come to learn she carries a rubber in her purse. i ask why . . . she said she and her freidns agreed they'd all always carry one because of a scare that happened to a mutual freind. its not to use, she assured, it 'just in case'
just in case of what?
i think about it - we’ve been married 17 years and we are very stable, but we don't have a whole lot of sex anymore. I know this seems like heressy to the male religion - but I just don’t want it all that much. I mean, even if we broke up, I can’t see myself being anything but a bachelor and loving it. But I love being with her, and i highly highly doubt she'd ever leave me -she’s not going to throw it all away - and I know there are moralists who would love to have me believe this is the death knell for me and her, but I know in the worst case scenario its not. but with all of that said, could she have gotten boinked or be open to the possibility?
and if so should i get mad? On the one hand, I think what goes around comes around. More importantly, crazy as it sounds, I feel like good for her . . . don't she deserve some?
I kind of feel like I’d like to talk to her - like tell her that if ‘just in case’ has happened or happens its not the end for us, but I want her to observe some minimum ground rules that are important to me. But how does a woman react to that sort of thing?
2007-03-19 17:30:26 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
If you have no moral scruples and it doesn't matter to you what she does and you just want a few ground rules - why in the world did you marry in the first place? Just to have a piece of paper to put in a scrapbook and some nice photos? You can do that without getting married. But, even if you're amoral and you're happy with that - why would you put yourself at risk for HIV and AIDS - will you get to interview every guy she sleeps with? Would you believe them if they said they were clean and let them hop into your bed in your house? Your answers to those questions should help you.
2007-03-19 17:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell her IF she strays it won't be over, sounds like you wouldn't mind or care and then she's liable to do it IF she hasn't already. I don't and wouldn't carry a condom in my purse, and I'd never even think I MIGHT need one. And if I did I know my husband would throw a fit and I sure couldn't blame him. I know I'd be ticked if he carried any.
Sounds like you could be headed for trouble.
2007-03-20 00:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatta u kiddn? if i found a rubber in my wifes purse shed be looking for a place to stay right now.you probably found a new rubber .ask her how many old ones she had to replace.if your married and faithful there is never an exuse to carry a condum in your purse
2007-03-20 00:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋