1 year ago i asked for theories as to why my husband was not ready for children.....Still apparently wants one!!! Well it seems he is still on the same path. Still have the 2, 9 and 11 year olds and i am still getting the answer i am not ready. Its affecting our sex life(withdrawel method) as you could understand, and just last week, no withdrawing. (So i though hhmm) But i was supposed to know that he wanted me to go and get the morning after pill.... ???? So confused... Any suggestions.....
2007-03-19 17:25:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No i have 2, a 9 and 11 year old. He has said that he wants a baby of his own and even given me timeframes but when they come around it changes again. Been together for 5 and 1/2 years.
2007-03-19 17:54:47 · update #1
I'm 51 years old and with the same woman 30 years. In all honesty I still don't feel ready to be a father. But, my wife and I - using the 'timing method' - have had 10 children together now; and I adore every one. I think, at the end of the day, this is a woman's decision; because we men are scared to death by fatherhood and someone has to have some good sense (smile).
2007-03-24 02:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The withdrawal method? How disrespectful! The morning after pill? So you had to risk being sick all day so he could be too lazy to even pull out? Look, it's time to sit down with your husband and let him know that you're done waiting. Either you need to decide to have a child or to not have a child, but making you responsible for enforcing a decision that he is making on his own just isn't right. If he doesn't want to have kids, fine. Go have a vasectomy or use a condom. Why should you have to take pills so that he can do whatever he wants? It's just not fair, respectful or right.
2007-03-26 11:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 3? He simply doesn't want more...kids are expensive, a lot of work and a huge committement-I'm guessing your 3rd by the difference in age was a "happy mistake" but possibly your spouse felt like you tried to get preggers-celebrate the 3 you have, love the man and get past this-why ruin what you have pining for something one of you CLEARLY(by his actions) doesn't want? It would be a huge bummer to wake up a single mom to 4 kids...
2007-03-20 00:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he wants a baby of his own then he just might...but there may be some issues of actually having that baby..meaning the idea sounds great but actually having one is another story altogether....maybe you to need to sit down and cover that topic...is that he likes the Idea or does he actually want another baby..
2007-03-24 23:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by Dennis J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he doesn't want any kids then maybe you need to figure out is this what you want for your life. if not, then it might be time to move on. and by the way, whose 2, 9,and 11 yr. olds?
2007-03-20 00:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't sound like he's wanting one at all if he can't at least tell you when. I hope you can be happy with the 3 you have and forget another one. If it happens that is great. If not ,
you are blessed right now!!!
2007-03-27 18:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Di LV E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to lay it on the line to him. Do you or don't you want a child with me? Tell him your clock is ticking, which it is and that the older you get the more likely the child is likely to have Downs Syndrome. In addition to this tell him you want to get your child raising years over with and enjoy life when you get older.
2007-03-27 15:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make someone ready to be a father, at least he's letting you know now. he could have just made you a single mother like so many other women. enjoy the kids you have already, they grow so fast...
=)
2007-03-27 16:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Graham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you already have 3 kids? Am I missing something?
Maybe he thinks he has all he can handle emotional and money wise. Don't know, good luck
2007-03-20 00:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ruthie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to check his background,,,and try to explain to him whats confusing you,go to a marriage counselor,seek advises and ask for prayers
2007-03-27 17:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋