Spoiled my hubby's b'day! Help!!?

Question

Hi! I spoiled my hubby's birthday, I got mad at him because he has the habit of telling every thing about our lives to everybody and he did that on his b'day. I threw the cake that I made, tore the card that I bought and then returned all the gifts I bought for him.
Now looking back, I feel very bad and at least i shouldn't have done that on his b'day. How to patch up!! Kind suggestions please from married persons only.

Answer 1

I understand your problem, as women we tolerate and compromise many things that we shouldn't and when it reaches a certain limit we burst.

I think your behavior in this case is childish! If your husband is not listening to you, also implies you haven't train him how to take your words. May be you are too lenient or always wanted to please him , which made him take you lightly.

If you have shown your anger on his B'day, I'm sure he'll remember it forever. But as it happens in marriage, you can just take him to shopping again and buy his favorite stuff. Things will get better, but its really important to know how to handle stuff when they are not going well. You must develop some skills that will portray you as a matured and understanding person in front of others. From your question it seem you are a very lovingperson, you made cake, bought card and gifts. But something in your mind is not clear.
Have an open hearted conversation with him and sort out the thing thats's really bothering you.
Don't proceed for the next step(love or hate) until you sort out the current problem. And yes, never try to please him at the cost of your own happiness. HOpe it helps

Answer 2

I'm not being mean; I'd suggest enrolling in an anger management course as your patching-up gift for him. You really flew off the handle, and it wasn't just losing your temper. Collecting the gifts, getting in your car and returning them all shows you have some difficulties dealing with anger.

An anger management course would be great for you, a wonderful gift for him (and your children, if you have any) and would help strengthen your marriage.

Answer 3

I hope you told him exactly why you got 'a little upset' with him.

How you make up kind of depends on how well you communicate, how long you've been married and how solid your marriage is.

The best way to handle it is to wait for him to make the right move first. He needs to promise to NEVER do it again and apologize, Then you can give him a memorable special gift, NOT everything he wants.

The way I see it is, he didn't show you proper respect for your wishes and privacy, and you gave him a very important "learning experience".

He needs to apologize to you (soon) for his behavior BEFORE you make up with him.
(Married 28 years next week)

Answer 4

i doesn't experience free. yet at the same time, Im no longer one in all those females who ought to sit again and enable him ignore it in the first position. i opt to be in touch in the plans for my birthday, after all it really is MY birthday. So I start up talking about it with my bf weeks formerly about what i'd love to do for it. i be conscious of he's a forgetful guy and that i dont carry that adverse to him, so I be particular you enable him be conscious of what day it really is and how some distance away it really is. i be conscious of he ought to experience horrific if he did ignore, so I dont enable that ensue.

Answer 5

Wow did he marry a three year old? Or maybe your both three. Do you tell not to go around telling everyone your personal information because it does upset you? The way you reacted to the situation would earn you a long time in the naughty chair.

Answer 6

You have all right to be mad, personal stuff is not for you to share with your friends. I know that you feel bad because you love him but i honestly think he deserved it and an apology and night of passionate sex should be all the making up you need.( just make sure he promises not to fill his friends in on details)

Answer 7

yes