My sister owed me money and hasn't paid me for going on three years now, I needed a surgery that I couldn't afford so I babysat her four kids for her for 12 hours a day 5 days a week for six month, she only paid me $250 for all that time. I have two kids of my own so it was really hard for me to do. So tonight I told her off in a E-mail, she wrote back but I don't feel like reading it. I also let her borrow money to fix her car a few years befor that, she never paid that back, she and her huband make alot of money, their going on vacation soon. Do you think I'm right to feel the way I do?
2007-03-19 17:15:00 · 26 answers · asked by Robin W 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Of course you do! Unless you want to walk around with the sign 'sucker' all over you you have to stand up for yourself. If you had an agreement and your sister has not honored that then she should be ashamed. Don't let her make you feel bad about complaining as just because you are related she doesnt have the right to use you. her kids probably ate more than $250 worth of food in all the time you had them and I sure wouldnt mind anyones kids for that long for $250. ;
2007-03-19 17:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I can't believe that you didn't get an hourly rate of compensation set at the time that you entered into this agreement.
What you might do at this point is calculate what you feel she owes you ($$ per hour, times 12 hours, times 5 days, times 4 weeks, times 6 months - more or less), subtract out the $250, and present her with a written invoice with the balance "for services rendered". After all, you did put in the time and the effort and you deserve fair compensation, even if she is your sister.
However, it sounds to me like there are a number of other issues involved here, so after presenting her with the invoice, you might want to enlist the help of someone who is fair and honest (local clergy? a fair-minded friend?) to act as a mediator between you and your sister. Failing that, you may have to take your sister to small claims court.
Just depends on how far you want to take this.
2007-03-20 00:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a life saving surgery, then your sister should definately let you have the money. Spending the money on a vaction while a sibling needs the money to stay alive, that's very selfish. I hope maybe you can find some other way to pay for your surgery. Do you have a medical card or the money to afford health insurance? Have you looked into any charity foundations that might help people with your kind of illness pay for treatment?
2007-03-20 00:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa Y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes. If you need a surgery, first off she should be giving you the money to have it done, not having u hope to get the money up. If she makes a lot of money and is going on vacation, give up the vacation and help ur sis out with the surgery. You should tell her off, face to face or email. Go read what she wrote you, I hope its good. In the way shes going to give you money. Good luck. You are deff in the right
2007-03-20 00:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by Julie Ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i think so...youve done her a great deal of help but she hasnt done much in return. sure she gave you $250 but that was alot of work. and you have kids. so its like double the work. idk if telling her off was the right thing..i mean maybe talking to her. but anger can really get outa control when your on a rage..and you were mad for all the right reasons. i wouldnt worry about it much. it will blow over..and now she finally gets the picture that you need help with money and that shes not helping.
2007-03-20 00:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have every right to feel this way, some times (mainly with family) people that borrow money, forget or hope you forget that it is owed back.
2007-03-20 00:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lazrus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes . I think you have the right to be upset but . When it comes to family I think that when you give money as a loan or not. That it should not be expected back. Only give it if you can handle not getting it back.
2007-03-20 00:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by jodeefla1979 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes your sister is wrong for the way she is treating and I'm sure what ever you told her she's been needing to hear.
2007-03-20 00:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes,never loan money to relatives.
2007-03-20 00:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by PMS Woman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relatives aren't the best at paying money back...unfortunately...but true..you were right to send her the email. if in fact you couldn't talk to her person to person.
2007-03-20 00:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋