My husband kissing another person...?

Question

for acting class or a play?

We have been married several years. A kiss to me is very important. I know for some it's not a big deal and other women have kissed several men before. But I have only kissed one..and that is my husband. He was my VERY first kiss a a and that been very special to me. He kissed other girls before meeting me and now has been kissing them in acting class and will during this play. Now he has the option to just kiss them on the cheek since class isn't "filming a tv show or movie". I told him if it he was ever lucky enough to film a tv show or movie and had to kiss someone else that it would be different..but is it really nessarary to "Practice kissing someone else?" This is really bothering me and even hurt worse when he said it's not a big deal.."It's just a kiss." Now he's putting on a play "It's NOT a big play", just a small community play, and he could very well ask to just kiss on the cheek but he said it's look better to kiss on the lips? I'm upset.

Answer 1

well,

i think you should tell him what you mentioned above, how you feel about the thing..

if you did, and he doesnt pay attention, then something is wrong..

this small thing might lead to a bigger one so better stop it now

Answer 2

Relax, if he's learning how to act then he's also learning how to make a kiss just a part of acting. Sometimes a kiss on the cheek is not appropriate to the part - the director has to decide what will work best. It doesn't matter if it's a play, a movie or TV show, a big production or local community play - acting is acting and for you to tell him to just kiss on the cheek because it's a small play is belittling what he's doing as well as showing you don't trust him.

Answer 3

There are different kinds of kisses...the ones you give to your grandma, or parents, the ones you give to your spouse, the ones you give to your own children, and even the ones you may give your friends when you greet them...kisses can mean different things too.

Don't let it get to you too much, as in acting, sometimes it is necessary to kiss on the lips, as it looks more real...just remember, your kisses are the ones he comes home to, he loves you and married you.

I'm sure when he says it's "just a kiss" he is not trying to belittle you or make something sacred seem meaningless, most likely to him, these "practice kisses" are as erotic kissing his mother.

He has something special with you, otherwise he wouldn't have married you. He loves you.

Hugs and good luck to you, and I hope I helped you at least feel a little better about it.

Answer 4

Hmmm it is a difference of opinion it seems. Let him know how you feel, though he is right about the looking better if it looks real thing, and you are with an actor. Actors are a different weird kind of people. They take their work more serious than any other profession usually and yet it is one of the most trivial professions out there. You can and should argue against him doing the other kinds of kissing, but don't be surprised if you lose that arguement. Sadly actors are really that much into their work. That is why Hollyweird is so full of divorces and scandals and such. I feel for you and wish you luck.

Answer 5

Don't be upset. If you trust him, it shouldn't be a big deal. I was in theater when I was younger too, and even when it wasn't "appealing" for me to kiss the opposite person on the lips, I did it anyway - it makes the scene. It looks better, and makes for good acting. I know it's important to you, but I really believe the kiss will mean nothing more to him than a scene in a play and the important ones come from you!

Answer 6

Did your husband approach you with any of this before he went ahead and done it? I believe that he should listen to your reservations about it and tell him what your kiss means to you and that you believe it should only be between husband and wife. If he lands a real acting job that you will support him but that you don't think it's appropriate for a community play. You need to make him realise the significance that you put on a kiss and ask him to please respect that. You really need to talk to him and sort this out and make him realise that this is important to you and you don't like being fobbed off.

Answer 7

You just need to be open and honest with him about it in a non-confrontational way. Say things like "I feel like...; It makes me feel_____ when you ____" Don't go there with the "You always...or start any statement with "you". That will just led him to getting defensive.
Ask him if there's anyway to keep it on the cheek so you can feel better about the situation. Just tell him you love him SO much it's hard for you to watch him do that and maybe there's some kind of a compromise you both can come to.
I understand how you feel. I would feel the same way. You're not being silly, it's just the way you feel. Just ask him if he can do it "for you".
Good luck sweetie.

Answer 8

Why when he kisses you it is different, there is feelings there as to at work and that is what it is for him. It is not like he met someone and just decided to kiss her cause she was cute. Kissing is a big deal and for you since he is the only one you have kissed but you need to look at it as he is working and when he kisses you it is different.

Answer 9

I know this is hard. You feel betrayed and inadequate. It boils down to this. He asked YOU to marry him. He had your child and sharing that bond is something no kiss can overrule. We make mistakes. Men make mistakes. Women make mistakes. Marriage is forever if it's done properly. Forever is a loooong time. Although being monogamous is apart of marriage, so is forgiveness and acceptance and getting through those rough patches. We have to be adults and understand that sexual attraction is only natural. You will experience it one hundred times and so will he. Fear before marriage, in his case, is natural and so is making mistakes. Don't let his mistake ruin your relationship and your family. Be mature and think about what is best for your baby. You love him and he obviously loves you. So, it's worth fighting for. An example of what I went through and how I got through it.... My boyfriend at the time, fiance now, was on tour with a few very well known metal bands. The groupies for these bands are out of control! Hot tattooed big breasted groupies! I knew this before he joined the tour. He came back a month later and I knew something was wrong. He told me that he was sleeping in his tour bus bunk and this girl crawled in with him. They messed around and FELL ASLEEP TOGETHER. I was heart broken. I held back my tears and said "Baby, I am not threatened by some groupie ho. I hope you had fun but those girls have diseases. You know that." He was confused for weeks at my response. He cried and kicked himself for weeks. It was awesome!!! Our sex life improved. He asked me to marry him a year later and he actually asked me go to with him on the next tour. We have honesty and trust and forgiveness. Men are simple minded. It is a mind game and we can control their libidos. Go get your man!

Answer 10

I've struggle with this also, my girlfriend is in a lot of plays and kissing scenes happen every so often. Its hard not to get jealous. But also long as he's acting don't worry, now if you start seeing other signs then address them with him.

Good Luck
LJ

Answer 11

The only answer i can suggest u is.. tell ur husband on wat u told us.. of maybe jst let him read ur Question... He will look out for ur feelings.. and find solutions to figure them right.. Or at least he will make u understand some things that he might wish to after seeing your question to us.
But its common on we human beings to feel this way and the opposite partner SHOULD understand!! We being like this does not mean we are Not open minded..
After all, every wife has their right over their husband...
Best wishes on your marriage life lady!!