we were best of friends since h.s and we've been friends for more than a decade now. we are more like sisters and we knew wats going on w each others lives. just recently we had a miscommunication w/c resulted to her not talking to me anymore. her bf happend to know that she was thinking of stayng at her aunt's place and that wud mean their communication wud be restrictd. she got angry w/ me thinking i intentionally 2ld her bf. wat happend was her bf read the conversation me and my bf had that nyt they fought, her bf is the elder brother of my bf, and he happend to borrow my bf's phone, that's how he knew about my friend's thoughts and he kept bugging me of wat my friend told me. i explain to my friend that i didnt talk to her bf about it even if he bugged me of infos. she is even jealous of me because im close to her bf, thats wat i found out thru my bf... how do i resolve this issues w her? we may not really bring back the closeness we once had but i want closure for this issues....
2007-03-19 16:57:49 · 6 answers · asked by tangerine b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have had my friends for 13 years. We haven't always been on the best of terms. The 3 of us have fallen out @ least twice. Truth is the relationship, when re- kindled, was not the same @ first. It took more than 2 years for me to trust them again. They had tried for sometime to make it up to me, but i refused to give in.
Do you know what opened the lines of communication?
Letters.
One friend who I had only assumed had turned against me because the other did, wrote me a letter. A week later she called me. I hung up on her. She wrote me a letter every week explaining what had happened and telling me how much she missed me. Finally I got so sick of her stupid letters and phone calls that I answered her call. While the letters were sweet my anger made them hard to appreciate.
The point is, she got my attention. The other friend, the one who wronged me by stealing my trust, kept leaving messages thru the other friend. She kept begging me to speak to her. After a few months I did. She pushes her way into my life constantly, and even though I hate what she did I stilled loved her like my family.
So, every time she shows up announced, and I cuss her like a dog, I'm still happy to see that my friendship was worth fighting for....So I Keep Letting Her In.
2007-03-19 17:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to give her some space. I'm sure it'll blow over, but don't ignore her either. When she's ready to talk she will. I'm sure she's not going far wher your bf is related to hers. LIke sisters, it'll pass. You can reinforce your statement how your intention was not to hurt her. Maybe have your bf talk to his brother and then have him talk to her. Your bf seems to be the neutral party, so he should be a key communicator between you two if she'd rather not talk in person.
2007-03-19 17:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
staying associates is continuously fairly worth it. in case you fairly fee her as a buddy, wait a week for her to quiet down yet eventually you should in simple terms could say sorry even if you probably did something or no longer. because you dont shop in ideas something because you've been below the effect of alcohol perchance you should have a communique at the same time with her to verify out what definitely occurred
2016-11-26 23:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some space but not too much because she will think that you do not care. after you have given her the space then confront her about the issue again, if she is a good friend then she will accept your explanation.
2007-03-19 17:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by nicky4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hug her tell her what she thinks is wrong & you still love her & will be a phone call away when she wants to talk to you. Then back off & let her come to you.
2007-03-19 17:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by ancestorhorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is to short. kiss and make up
2007-03-19 17:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋