If I stay in the marriage, I'd end up getting hurt and be treated like a doormat. We tried working things out but he just kept on lying.
If I leave, he and his family will accuse me of just using him to get a greencard.
Why are people so cruel?
2007-03-19 16:36:14 · 18 answers · asked by nicediwata 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHAt, girl give ur self some credit, any human wether green card or not does not deserve to be cheated on, and much less to stay in an unfaithful relationship. Let them talk, its ur life not theirs. if u wanna spend the rest of ur life with a liar go ahead. Talk to them if ur so concerned. tell them what is going on that way they can see that u acknowledged them. BEsides adultery is illegal so yea what are u afraid of ?
2007-03-19 16:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a marriage and this has nothing to do with you being an Immigrant. To acused you of using the marriage for a Green Card is childish thus I won't pay too much attention to it. Now that the marriage is beyond recociliation, I suggest you make good use of the Green Card and move on with your life. Let history be history!
2007-03-19 23:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, I would just leave him.. I mean this may sound cruel but perhaps he was just using you to get a green card like some people are, however that is just my opinon. but if he's abusive, cheating on you it may be hard.. but leave him. you deserve better than this and most ppl dont see it -.-.
Why people are cruel? Because theres people in the world who think they can use people and get something they want and dont care what happens to the other person.
Hope everything works out with you and good luck.
2007-03-19 23:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know why some people are cruel, but there is no way that I would stay with someone that is cheating on me, you deserve someone that would respect you for who you are, leave him and who cares of what his family thinks. you are not his doormat, you have to start thinking of yourself. good luck.
2007-03-19 23:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say shoot let people talk and accuse you. as long as you know you didnt do it then thats all you need. nobody deserves to be cheated on. so just take all what belongs to you and head out the door. if his family for some reason keeps bringin it up or takes it to court then prove to them that you didnt do it. i think people are so cruel cause they have nothing better to do with their life and spend their days just looking for ways to torment people. those peoples words dont matter. people who speak kindness are the words you should really listen too.
2007-03-19 23:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont have to HEAR him and his family accuse you, because your *** will be out tha door! Definitely get out..dont put up with cheating!
I am an american woman who was with a foreign man.. kinda similar situation/reversed.
Move on and dont worry about his family talking ****, as soon as a divorce is finalized, you wont have to hear from them ever again !
Good luck hunny
2007-03-19 23:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by DeepTranslation09 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is cheating hire a dectective, get proof, divorce and take half. There are plenty of Good men out there, you don't have to stay with a bad one. As for his family it is their problem what they think. If he is cheating and they think badly of you for leaving him then they are bad people, and I hope they fel so bad it gives them a heart attack and they die. The world doesn't need people who tolerate such behavior. They are just wasting oxygen.
2007-03-19 23:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Malcolm L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is in your own best interest. In the end YOU are the only one to have to live with yourself so...who cares what others think! Even if you did get a green card out of it ...look at the price you paid for it.
2007-03-19 23:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by damommyxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to make up your own mind on this one, which is more important to your heart.. Being disrespected by the man you love.. or taking a few words and pushing them to the back of your mind keeping your pride and moving on
2007-03-19 23:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well looks like you have a situation, does he no that u no he is cheating? do u love hI'm if answer is yes then try work it out, im sure there's a easy solution. and ask Ur self is he worth all this? and wot r Ur motives?
2007-03-19 23:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋