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2007-03-19 16:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by momto3 4 · 1 0

Naive.....very naive.

If he hasn't lifted a finger so far, then what makes you think he will change his tune once the baby is born?

I don't know what it is with women (and I am one!!!). First off, why are you having a baby with a dud like this anyways? Do you not have the common sense to choose better men or at least use protection? Us women need to start using our heads instead of our hearts to make the right decisions for our futures and the futures of our children. We so often walk into a relationship, knowing the guy is bad news, but stick around anyways and even get pregnant. And don't even begin to say he is a good guy or any BS like that. If he was, he would not only buy things for the baby, but he would be there every step of the way caring for you during this time.


So, to answer your question, I would first have to say take off the rose colored glasses. Quit hoping he will do something and use this time to plan how you would (and probably will) do this by yourself. And don't depend on public assistance. Find yourself a decent job and work your butt off so you can deliver and raise a child the right way, not the welfare way.

2007-03-19 16:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wow. My ex a minimum of left me at 2 months pregnant and so I had time to make a plan. are you able to take a taxi to the scientific institution. If he gives you a journey, then you prefer one abode besides. i might take a taxi. once you pass into labour, you have time... hours of time earlier the contractions are close sufficient to pass to the scientific institution. very few women persons have those labours that final 2 hours. The scientific institution likes you to come again, no longer until eventually the contractions are 5 mintues aside. ( right here besides). Taxis are greater low-value then an ambulance. What do you have for money? i might recommend freecycle and storage revenues. that's what I had to do. I additionally picked up some textile diapers that have been used (diapers would be one hundred a month and that i had no baby help). Breastfeeding is loose and ultimate for the toddler. you're able to make a plan. you're able to do it. the main importnant concern is this. start is sacred. start is gorgeous. while your baby is older, she or he will prefer to pay attention the tale of 'how i became born'. do no longer permit some dumb sperm donor wreck that. IF having them there makes you uncomfortable, then dont' have him. it incredibly is the start of YOUR baby and you and the toddler deserver it to be as beautiful and as gentle as every physique else's start. appreciate the 2d. AFTERWARDS, permit him comprehend.... if he needs to comprehend. yet permit the start be sure. specific for you. specific for the toddler. If he needs to be there, he can ask to come again or tutor some interest. that is not any longer your interest to song him all the way down to furnish him his rights... he's a huge boy, he's familiar with what they're and would ask for them if he needs. you would be ok. Being a single mom is exciting i think of. lots much less difficult than with a jerk haning around. you will do wonderful. and you will get a automobile sometime. And sometime you would be off maternity (i did no longer get maternity, so i certainly ran an afternoon abode from my abode while she became an toddler, so i ought to stay abode together with her for some months). check out this from the viewpoint from 3 years interior the destiny. In 3 years, it is going to all have worked out. you have a vehilce, you're transforming into to be by it. the main important factors are ironed out. he's in or out because of the fact of his possibilities and interest, no longer on account which you chased him down. 3 years from now, on reflection on now... all of it worked out. it incredibly is how I settle down, i glance back from 'destiny me'

2016-10-01 05:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by betker 4 · 0 0

It's really hard to say...he might get really excited when the baby's born and run out and buy a bunch of stuff, or he might never think of it. Men just don't think the way we do. If you can, you should ask him for the money and just buy the things you need for the baby yourself. If that's not going to work, try shopping thrift stores and craigslist.org for the things you need...baby stuff doesn't get used very long, so it doesn't get really worn out, so you can find a lot of stuff secondhand.

Because you said "father" and not "my husband" it sounds like you're not married to the baby's father...you know you can still get child support, married or not...and it sounds like you may have to.

2007-03-19 16:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Judi 6 · 0 0

Most people I know don't buy anything until the baby is actually here...I have 2 friends who have had still births and had to deal with all the reminders of a child that didn't survive....I say be patient and wait maybe thats what he is thinking.

2007-03-19 16:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by kamsmom 5 · 0 0

It may not be real to him until he actually sees the baby, i say give him some time, but in the meanwhile, make sure you stock up all the items baby is going to need in case he doesn't :)

2007-03-19 16:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Have you asked him his intentions? If he isn't helping now, then I doubt that he will, but I am sure that it could change once he sees the baby. You need to let him know what you expect from him and if he doesn' t want to be involved then that's fine, but you need to get child support.

2007-03-19 16:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by BeThAnY 4 · 0 0

Men are not women. They do not think like us. DOnt worry about it. If he is a good man and good to you be happy with that and let all the women in your life do the shopping

2007-03-23 16:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by april S 2 · 0 0

Doesn't sound like a good situation. I would try and sit him down and explain you need to be prepared there are thing your going to need when the baby comes home. good luck

2007-03-19 16:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

GIRL IM IN THE SAME POSITION, BUT IM ONLY 22 WEEKS BUT HE STILL HAVENT BROUGHT NOTHING, I DONT KNOW IF HES JUST WAITING TO SEE IF THE BABY IS HIS OR WHAT...BUT I HONESLTY DONT THINK HE WILL BE THERE, IM TALKING ABOUT MINE...SO I DONT KNOW HOWS YALL RELATIONSHIP IS GOING WITH YALL..BUT JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND DON'T LET HIM BRING YOU DOWN...MUAH

2007-03-19 16:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i'm sure one of these days he will... provided he is still in your life and plans to be in the child's life.

2007-03-19 16:35:36 · answer #11 · answered by L-Boogie 3 · 0 0

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