and she has open admittedly stated we have grown apart, and that we need to live our own lives..I moved about an hour away from her 2 1/2 years ago. Should i just let this friendship die and fade away?
2007-03-19 16:23:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
From my point of view, you're the only person who can really answer that question. Do you feel you should let 8 yrs. of friendship end? If you still want her to be your best friend then you need to let her know that. Tell her how much you value your friendship and you're willing to try harder to get connected again (if that is how you feel). She probably said those things because she's hurt and might feel neglected? Talk to her and be honest with your feelings. Let her know how you feel and at the same time, find out how she feels. Let her know you still care and that she's important to you. 8 years is a long time....it would be sad to let it end because of some misunderstanding. There are trials in every relationship. We need to be stronger to overcome them. Remember we all have weaknesses. We have to acknowledge our own weaknesses before we can recognize other's.
If you decide to keep the friendship, despite of a hectic schedule or whatever barriers might be on your way, make time for special friends. Good luck! Don't give up on her too easy. After all, what made you best friends for 8 years? And if she still chooses to not be your friend anymore, then respect her decision. Give her some time...who knows...she might come back.
2007-03-19 16:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by giovanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when this happens, it is best to let it slide, but perhaps keep sending a card on birthdays, and xmas, and if you run into her say a cheery "hello" and inquire about her family, if you know them. If someone really close to her dies, and you can attend the funeral, do so. If not for her than for your own karma. Its ok to grow apart from friends, and its nice to hang onto the good memories if you can. If you had bad issues over things, sometimes its just best to let the friendship fade.
2007-03-19 16:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sionainn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like she is already letting go and maybe you should too. After all she is being honest and maybe you should respect her request. You are still feeling close to her than that means you care and if you care that much then you would respect her wishes. Let it go and go your own ways. people do grow apart even friends of 8 years.
Also, I would probably say to keep at it even if it;s not as close but if she stated it that way then it must be because she is serious.
2007-03-19 16:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by pookiepoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
growing apart or together has a lot to do with what you have in common. what you share has a lot to do with the difference between living your own lives and living lives together. Focus on what you have in common and what you do together, but don't try to overstep that. If the other person is saying that you two should "live your lives" then what you have in common may be the extent of this new turn in this relationship.
2007-03-19 16:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by adam b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u shouldnt (im 17) and my best friend and i were friends since grade school ....that's abt 12 years now...and we dont communicate alot...we're just there wen we need someone to talk to ...we have our own groups and everything...but we always fall back on each other wen we need to talk...y let a friendship that old fade away...friendships are inseparable by distance...r u trying to prove that wrong?...my dad's best friend is in canada...and they've been friends for 30 years...and they're still best friends...
2007-03-19 16:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard question as i have a friend that moves a 500 miles away. Although i hate to let go he seems to have no intertest to keep the frienship. i have let it go. Sorry if this does not help. I wish he would try. it hurts me.
2007-03-19 16:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by mikal6059 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, just let it go without hard feelings and I'm sure she will come back to you. Sometimes people just want to experience new people and new friends.
You should also concentrate on making new friends and one day you may not even miss her anymore.
2007-03-19 16:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a true friendship gpes through it's rough patches. It is up to you to decide if the friendship is worth saving. Maybe she needs space, what kind I am not sure. I am sorry
2007-03-19 16:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't let this one die, just change. Be open to discovering a new "best friend."
2007-03-19 16:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by nostromobb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should try to resureect it, if she is less than interested then she really isnt a true friend. She will regret it one day and you can accept her back once and only once. If she uses you and does it again, and then comes crawling back, you cant give in, she is not your friend
2007-03-19 17:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by alias_47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋