If you were not married by the time you are age 40, would you be extremely sad?......
i would like to know how everyone feels about this topic or on marraige in general?
2007-03-19 16:05:11 · 13 answers · asked by dede10527 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well this topic is that i am asking everyone here is a topic for my essay in my human sex class- sexuality and relationships! so its not me saying i'm 40 and sad i was just wondering how everyone feels about it! so lets say by the time u were 40, we weren't married....is that a big deal to u/sadness, or what u not care and go on w. ur life? even how important is marriage really? do we all need to get married in life and have kids? or is that a sterotype that our society has put upon our culture?....
2007-03-19 16:23:52 · update #1
Sometimes it's better to happily single than it is to be unhappily married.
Marriage DOES NOT make you happy. You have to be a happy person already, complete, before you can ever think about being happily married.
So focus on being the one, and stop counting birthdays. There is no time line or rule that says you have to be married by age X.
It's possible you could marry before that age, find out it's a mistake and be divorced before 40.
That's my story, married at 31 and divorced by 40. Take your time, be the best partner you can be and choose well.
2007-03-19 16:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not be sad. Too many people take marriage lightly these days. Society puts too much pressure on people to get married as though it defines who you are. I would rather walk down the aisle for the first (and only time) to my true love, even if I am 75 at the time and need the help of a walker to get me there! Marriage should enhance your life not define it. So... if I am 40 and single it means I have not met the right person yet, but there is still time if it's meant to be.
2007-03-20 00:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by tribrae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about sad but i would be lonely and wondering if i ever would get married. However i would not give up hope and i would keep looking and dating here and there. When you are ready for marriage you will know it and the right person will come along. If not that is ok too as being single can be ok as well. You really do not have to get married to be happy in this life.
I personally am happier being married BUT some people are happier being and staying single.
2007-03-19 23:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After having been married twice, one for less than a year and the other for 31 yrs, and still end up to be single, my guess is the second statement you mentioned sounds more like the correct answer. There were too many things to have gone through from both marriages for their benefits that made me feel that it wasn't worth going though most of my life for it to come to this extreme.
2007-03-20 03:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really sad...just as long as I have lived a very interesting life style and not just setting around the house. just because i was turning 40 doesn't mean i haven't had a lot of fun. but i would start really looking for a nice person to marry. kids would almost be out of the picture though
2007-03-19 23:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would being married justify you as a person? as long as you are happy there is no need for marriage. i have been married and separated and will never do it again. its a dated tradition and only the bible thumpers should have to go through it or people who really don't like all the stuff they've worked hard to aquire and don't mind someone *** taking off with half of it. i think if a relationship is good and healthy, why stamp it with marriage?
2007-03-19 23:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by kiss_me_cold_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married & divorced by the time I was 24...I am not sad about that.
40 is still young for many & should be for you, too.
2007-03-19 23:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be sad. look at it this way.
you are not having to clean up after someone else.
you can watch whatever it is you want to watch on TV
you have complete control over the TV remote
you don't have to worry about the toilet seat being up in the middle of the night.
you can eat crackers in bed
you can leave the dishes till tomorrow
you can leave the panties hanging on the rod
you can do your house any way you want to do it
the list is endless.........
you do not have to be married to have a wonderful fulfilling life!
2007-03-19 23:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be very hard for me to answer because by the time i was 27 i had been married 3 times.But marriage in general i like being married i like having someone keep me warm on a cold blistering night.I like going on vacation with my husband. I guess what i am saying is i like being married.
2007-03-19 23:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well it depends I mean if you have had a great life and lived it how you wanted to then no but if there is another reason on why you are not married then maybe. But just always keep your head up and be strong you will find your one true one.
2007-03-19 23:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by brokenbabyang3l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋