I have my down days... and some days I wonder if I'm gonna make it through the second half of my life... This stuff weighs heavily on me. Then I have the great days too. How do you keep all the negative stuff in perspective?
2007-03-19 16:03:29 · 15 answers · asked by Love Gays! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
we thrive because we take the negativity and turned it to useful power, such as going to college, finding respectful jobs, and/or depleting the negative sterotypes of Gay and lesbian America. It works for me. Trust that some days I wake up and hate the world for all the pressure and pain that some people have to go through but then I just go back to my hope. Hope that one day it will not be like this, hope that the day will come that the word d-y-k-e or f-a-g will no longer exists as a curse but as a blessing.
Thats how I get through my day, but you have to find your own way. Everything will work out.
-shay
Have great Tuesday!
2007-03-19 16:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, it's not just us. Different groups have been singled out and picked on since the dawn of time. Everyone has there own ways to deal with it. I find that if I treat my sexuality like it's no big deal (which it isn't) then others come to care less and less, the more time I spend around them. I think part of the problem is that those of the same gender (who are straight) freak out cause they think you're gonna start hitting on them. If you don't, they tend to forget they were ever worried.
I personally just moved back to the states from a military community in Germany. I found that the military brats were much more accepting of everything and everyone, and it's been hard being back here. Hopefully though, there will one day be equality for everyone.
2007-03-19 16:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the sour and the sweet. Withour the sour, the sweet wouldn't taste as sweet. Everything would be mundane. Learn to appreciate everything in life as an experience worth living and learning from. The best poetry and song is very depressing. Great art comes from being depressed, lol.
John Lennon was depressing (mostly), and Paul McCartney too happy. Together they balanced each other well, apart, they were never able to recapture that, IMHO.
Have you seen the movie Vanilla Sky? Watch it. It's a great representation of waht I'm saying. In addition, the Dalai Lama and Buddhism in general have a lot to say about it. Learn to live in the moment, and realize that all things pass, and you'll be happier. It works for me. Peace, rob
2007-03-19 16:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by ramblin' robert 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ramblin' has a good point. I am both Buddist & Christian and been a lesbian for over 44 yrs. Anita Bryant was raising crap then and times were even rougher.
You learn to turn the other cheek without getting knocked down. That may sound hard, and it can be, but the good times really out weight the bad.
Friends, family, church, org., and just plain get togethers that involve people of like minds are a terendous help.
2007-03-19 16:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, a lot of us don't thrive. The suicide rate is really high.
I keep my days in perspective by hanging out with my non-homophobic friends, and by working on projects that take my mind off my troubles. And there's always music.
It is really hard sometimes, but basically I remind myself that it is not my fault that people are ignorant and mean, and that I do everything I can to help end that nonsense.
2007-03-19 16:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-Straights? i'm immediately so I even ought to assert i love them -Gays? I even do not have any problem with adult men that are gay -Lesbians? I even do not have any problem with any lady lesbian or no longer Bisexuals? If someone is in contact in both sexes, more beneficial potential to them -Transgenders? nicely seeing considering that i'm a Transsexual lady and TS falls below the Transgender umbrella i imagine we are tremendous.
2016-12-02 06:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not gay but i could not possibly imagine what you're going thru. you are brace you are th e definition of courage a self esteem when days go by ppl htink of the life ahead and the days you will have once passed the pain. wow and to answer question .... they pass all the bumby road blocks of negative and look to the wonderful journey on the road to life and acceptance
2007-03-19 16:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by swissqt55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laughter sweetheart, laughter. Just smile and be glad in the fact that you are a much better person! I pitty those who spew the negativity and am sorry that they lead such sad lives, I am thankful that I on the otherhand, do not.
2007-03-19 16:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because even a worse-case day full of harassment, being shunned, or what have you pales in comparison to the inner suffering I felt having to deny my true feelings and live a lie.
2007-03-19 16:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by lordwashu13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love from friends and family. They are all we need. Have friends that you can trust. Family who loves you will always stand by you. If they don't, then find a new one.
2007-03-19 16:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by renaudldw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋