i broke up with my boyfriend a couple weeks ago and i found out today that i'm pregnant. do i need to tell him? i already know he wouldn't want anything to do with it.
2007-03-19 16:02:22 · 34 answers · asked by constanzemylove 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You do have to tell him. It is his baby and he deserves to know. Should he want nothing to do with it, then you have to deal with that later. Just let him know in case he does change his mind and want to step up.
2007-03-19 16:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make that decision for you, but we can give advice. If I were in your shoes, I would tell him about the pregnancy, but not use it against him. If he doesn't want anything to do with the baby, then your baby is probably better off without him. But since he did father the child, you can legally make him help you support it. Keep in mind, though, that if he pays child support, he is allowed visitation unless it is determined that it's not in the best interest of the child. Also, even if he wants nothing to do with the baby, some members of his family, like his parents, may want to be part of the child's life. If you do end up raising the child alone, don't let others make you feel bad about yourself for being a single parent. I believe a child is better off being raised by one loving parent than being stuck in a constant battle.
2007-03-19 16:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by anmaduad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately need to tell him. Hope for the best(that he would want to be responsible and do his part to help either emotionally or financially) but be prepared for the worst(that he could care less). Also know that he might initially be upset and in shock but knowing that he made a baby might eventually be something that he gets warmed up to and want to be involved.
Regardless, surround yourself with people that are supportive and love you and this baby! Good Luck!
2007-03-19 16:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by GAjen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. my sister in law did not tell her ex. my bro met her when her baby girl was 1 year and now she is 10 and they are married. the "sperm donor" found out she had a baby and is now trying to go after her to be able to see the child. you do not want to be in that mess. If he wants nothing to do with the baby, than i am so sorry. You do know that you can still child support even if he disowns your child. i can tell you this though, he might just want to be the daddy. Once that sweet baby is born i bet you nothing he would fall in love with him/her right away.
2007-03-19 16:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him and let him know you will apply for child support (do it now) and if he wants to see his kid he needs to help you. I wouldn't expect anything but "It's not mine" or "your a liar". Doesn't matter cause you warned him. Get an application from your welfare office for state medicaid and anything else you can get and go to the Dr. the state will go after him for reimbursement.
2007-03-19 16:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? i'm having this same problem. yes i think you should tell him. don't make him feel like he has to be involved this is what i'm going to tell my baby's daddy hope it helps "there is no easy way for me to tell you this...but i'm pregnant and it's yours. i dont' care about anything else anymore our baby is my first and most important priority i'll pour kerosine on evrything else i love and watch it burn. I jsut though that you should know you had a baby on the way and if you want to be involved in s/he's life i'm not goin to say you can't. but i don't want to fight about it it doesn't matter if we are together or not." .........i'm jsut scared that he's going to say some stupid sh*t like ugh...it's not mine or something stupid like that and i'll have to go all crazy b*tch on his a**. i hope it works out for you. if you jsut need to talk abou tit feel free to e-mail me k_roll6969@yahoo.com
2007-03-19 16:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by carrol d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him; he's going to be a father! That's a big deal even if he doesn't want to be a part of it. However, if you think that he will be a bad influence then keep the 411 to yourself.
2007-03-19 16:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be the right thing to do.
The only time I would say not to tell him is if he is really a psycho and may kill you. (murder is the #1 cause of death for pregnant women, not to scare you but to make you aware)
2007-03-19 16:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although he says he might not want anything to do with the baby, he should still know about it. At least then you can work something out for the baby if not for yourselves.
2007-03-19 16:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by Nebel6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him. he might not want anything to do with the baby now but once he gets used to the idea he might change his mind. Besides if you are gonna get child support he should know about it before hand
2007-03-19 16:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by josiesmom305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋