ok so im 18 years old and my parents still wont let me do what i want even if i am being responsible...like telling them where i am and who im with and how late i will be..how can i get them to change there minds on the way they think?!? the current situation is next saturday i want to get a hotel room with my boyfriend who i have been with for 2 years and my parents love..yes they know we are sexually active so i know thats not it(im on birthcontrol and we use backup) the hotel room is free because we are friends with the guy thats owns it...the next morning we are going to get ready and go to our friends wedding(the guy thats owns the hotel's wedding) my mom doesnt really say much its my dad...should i just say forget it and do it anyway or what?!? please help im sooo frustrated!!!
2007-03-19 15:45:17 · 17 answers · asked by verynervous07 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i graduated high school a year ago and have already finish my first year of college!!!
2007-03-19 16:01:07 · update #1
i have a very steady job making almost $14 an hour....i think im going to move out as soon as i can
2007-03-19 16:04:18 · update #2
your 18. that means your an adult. do whatever makes you happy and they cant say crap.
2007-03-19 16:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hate to say it but it doesn't matter how old you are. Parents are just like that. They will lay off as you get older but by then you will be telling them what they want to hear any ways. I lived with my grandparents from the time I was 17 til I was 20 and had to do it and when I lived with my parents from the age of 32 til I was 34 I had no problem letting them know where I was going and when I would be back. I didn't have a curfew of course, but out of respect for their schedules, I didn't come and go at all hours of the night. Parents worry about their offspring-thats just nature. Just be honest with them and things will improve. I live on my own now, drive a truck over the road and I still let them know whats going on and where I am just to keep them from worrying.
2007-03-20 02:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by HiTekRednek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if you are still in high school or not. Even though you are 18, if you are still in school and they are supporting you so you can finish your education, they have the right to know what is going on in your life. The only way to get out from under their control is to get a job and move out on your own, but don't throw away your education because you are upset with your parents. You would only be hurting yourself.
2007-03-19 22:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're your parents and they're watching out for you. Knowing your sexually active and promoting/condoning it (by letting you go to a hotel room) are 2 completely different things. I mean theyre probably not happy that your active, so they don't feel comfortable condoning it because its like "yeah just go off and have sex" as opposed to knowing about it in a more abstract way.
So its completely understandable where they're coming from, they're not being unreasonable. Try talking to them again, but its best to respect their decision since you still live with them and don't want to create unneccesary friction for yourself, or between your boyfriend and your family.
2007-03-20 00:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with all the information you have given, i don't see what the problem is, i am a parent my son is 27 and my oldest daughter is 22 the youngest is still at home, if you were my child i would say go have fun but be safe, it almost sounds like you are leaving something out for them to be saying no, if you are being honest , i would go the horse is apparently out of the barn you can't get it back in know
2007-03-19 23:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by gone fishing! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are living under their room they make the rules. If you are 18 and want to be an adult than get a job and move out.
2007-03-19 22:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by sdtsareb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should move out on your own. Seems like you are making decent money and can support yourself. You sound like you are responsible but your parents may not think so. As long as you are living under their roof, they will expect you to bide by their rules. Its hard but maybe its time to leave the nest. Good Luck
2007-03-20 05:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, are you still in high school? If you are, you can try reasoning with them again, but ultimately, it is their decision. If you are not in high school, I would consider going, but not sneaking behind their backs either. I understand what you're saying, as I have been there. But as a parent, I understand them too. Good luck!
2007-03-19 22:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living in your parents' home then you are under their authority. When you are completely financially self-sufficient, then you will be able to make all of your own decisions. Incidentally, you seem to think that they are too strict...but you are having sex with your boyfriend and they know about it? Girl, your parents are lax and you will one day regret being allowed this type of freedom.
2007-03-19 22:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to give your parents a big thumbs up and say that they are being very responsible. You should appreciate what they are doing for you!
2007-03-19 23:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you are still in highschool, or not while you live with your parents unfornately you have to do what they say it is their house as much as you might think or know that. I would try to get my own place if i were you.
2007-03-20 11:45:34 · answer #11 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋