My boyfriend of 5 years cheated and got a girl pregnant and she doesn't want it and she is going to sign parental rights to my boyfriend but he doesn't want it. So the baby will not have no where to go. Should I take it in or is it their problem if the baby is adopted?
2007-03-19 15:38:39 · 13 answers · asked by sexybackmami07 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
While it's horrible that neither parent wants this baby, it isn't your responsibility. The first you need to do is get rid of the boyfriend. He cheated on you and knocked up another girl. There is no reason he should still be around so that you are considering taking in his kid. Dump him now.
As for the baby, put it up for adoption. That is someplace to go, and a better place than your home (especially if the cheating boyfriend is still around). There are a number of loving couples who are unable to have a baby themselves, but would be more than happy to bring the child into their family. Letting them raise it is certainly better than having you take it in, especially when you will know for the child's whole life that his father was a man who cheated on you and the mother was the women he cheated with.
2007-03-19 15:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Dave 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand how sad you must feel about a baby without loving parents, but I do no think it would be a good idea to adopt the baby especially if the father doesn't want it. I know there are several married couples out there that would love to adopt so I think it would be best to let those two decide what is best for the baby. P.S. take in some consideration of the likelyhood of your boyfriend cheating on you again.
2007-03-19 15:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by chapel_bluff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby will have plenty of places to go. All over the country their are emotionally mature and financially stable couples who for one reason or another, or simply physically unable to have children.
Right now, your life is a bit of a mess, sorry to say. You have a boyfriend who did this to you, and to top it off the other girl and him are now treating a baby this way. I can see why you want to take the baby in, if only to show it someone out there loves him, but if you look deep inside, you know that there is someone out there who will love the baby also and can provide the baby a stable environment in which he can grow and develop.
You don't have to be cold or callous to your boyfriend--nor to the strumpet--just advise them that there is a loving family for the child out there, and then be done with both of them and start your own search for a loving person with whom you can start a family.
This guy isn't that person.
2007-03-19 15:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by apleyden 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't, unless the mother is a good friend of yours.
I really hope he isn't your boyfriend any more. You don't have any claim on the baby, and might not be allowed to adopt as a single, and you really don't need to marry Mr. Irresponsible. If you did get it then you'd be cleaning up your boyfriend's mess for free, and leaving him open to repeat the same trick again and again.
2007-03-19 20:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Big Bruce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask your self
do you want the reminder that he cheated on you ?
can you look at the baby and not see her and what they did ?
can you love this baby no matter what ?
can you give this baby what it needs ?
this baby needs a loving caring home with 2 parents that will give it ever thing it needs
if it was me i would put it up for adoption
2007-03-19 15:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the baby be adopted. Neither parent is responsible or mature enough to do right by this baby, and there are many childless couples who would take good care of a baby.
2007-03-19 15:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by parental unit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? first of all leave your boyfriend, he is a looser, secondly, do you want a reminder of your cheating boyfriend running around, also if you are considering this then i woudl say no springer doesn't need anymore guests, people are adopting babies from other countries, i am sure a newborn will find a home here.
2007-03-19 15:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by sevenout7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN
RUN
RUN
RUN
STAY OUT OF IT!!!!
THIS IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM!!!
he cheated on you, made a baby, and you better believe he will do it again. are you willing to adopt all of his illegitimate children?
dump the boyfriend and erase any ideas you have about adopting his child!!!
2007-03-19 15:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow a child unwanted that sucks...maybe you could find a good candidate to adopt the sweet baby.
2007-03-19 15:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't make someone elses problem your too. if at all things try and find that angel somewhere where it will live a happy chilhood. the bub is not to blame but i admire you for your corage and willingness to help
best of luck
2007-03-19 21:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by Katie L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋