i did the wrong thing! when we were on a break, but being on abreak still doesnt justify what i did so dont say "it doesnt matter" coz it does.He has asked me to go away fro a while dont talk to him coz he cant look at me coz i hurt him (by the way i did tell him coz i didnt want to live with the guilt of having a secret from someone i love deeply). But if i go away it will make it easier for him to forget about me!! i dont want that! he doenst want me to do anything nice for him coz it will make him angry and he did say that he loves me more than his last gf who did this to him, and even tho it didnt work with her there is a 'chance' it might work with me coz he loves me more. How do i gain his trust back i dont like feeling sad and depressed without my boy i love him so much.
2007-03-19 15:36:00 · 14 answers · asked by bella g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, you listen to what he is saying.
Just because you think you are meant to be, your actions sent a totally different message. Knowing that he was cheated upon before and now you've "done the wrong thing" is not the way to build trust.
Right now, you have to do what he says. If he forgets you, that is the consequence you pay for your actions.
Sorry, that's the way it is. Sometimes you only get one strike.
I'm with him. Leave him alone, give him space. If he finds his life is worse without you, then he'll probably be back. If he finds his life is better without you, then he'll probably be gone forever.
That is the chance you took.
What can you do?
Pray that he calls you back and then never be unfaithful, tell even a white lie, or do anything that could potentially break trust between you too.
There is nothing you can do other than pray for an opportunity and then ensure that his trust is never in vain again.
Otherwise, learn from this lesson that trust broken is hard if not impossible to regain.
2007-03-19 16:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not really up to you right now. He has been betrayed and has to decide if he is willing to trust you again. When someone cheats they are gambling with their relationship. Spend a lot of time thinking about how you would feel if the situation was in reverse and maybe you can get an idea of what he needs from you to forgive you. Theres a chance he may never forgive you. Thats the chance you took now you want to turn back the clock. If it was me I would have a hard time getting over the fact that you knew he went through it before. Why would you want to be the girl that put him through it a second time? That almost seems heartless to me. This is the man you love? I shudder to think what you would to someone you hate.
2007-03-19 15:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by theanswerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lesson here; learn it well. When you betray someone's trust and feel guilty about it, that is your burden and yours alone. It's a second offense to tell about it in order to relieve your own guilt by destroying another person's sense of security. Guilt is there to keep you from doing it again. If he loved you more, you hurt him more. Don't count on his love any more. He's entitled to look for someone he can trust.
2007-03-19 15:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is for you, you have to give him his space. If you keep pushing and presureing him you are going to push him further and further away. I am in a very similar situation now, except that we live together. Be there when he calls, and try your best not to call or text him. You not being around or calling will make him miss you. He can't miss you if you are always there. My best advice would be to write him a long letter and put all of your heart into it. Send it through the mail and via email. Let him know in the letter that the ball is in his court after that. And you have to have faith that if he loves you, he will come back to you.
Good luck.
2007-03-19 15:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Ammikins 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there`s nothing like telling him your feelings, you know things don`t happen for a reason, things happen, cause you make them happen, I think there`s no way to let him know you are a trustable person, but to tell him your feelings, and let him know you love him, declare yourself vulnerable in front of him, and you know Everybody deserves a second chance, if he loves you the way he told you, he will be back with you, when there`s love, there is forgiveness, the best of luck!! ;D
2007-03-19 15:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Madison♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i faced bout same thing but i was one cheated on.. but i found out when i got her back it was a mistake.. that will always be revolvong around you.. u get in a fight or arguement it will be one the first things brought up and will hurt you both more.. so my word of advice.. just let it go. meet someone else. and don;t do what you did b4.. trust me it always comes back.. ..
2007-03-19 15:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by GR4V1TY-BONG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone see that you were meant to be together - either he feels it or he doesn't.
If he truly loves you then being apart will make him miss you terribly and realise that he wants you in his life.
You need to give him space so that he can work out what it is that he wants.
2007-03-19 15:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it all go and stop stop stop stop!!!!!! you guys aren't gonna be together forever anyway. You're too young for all this drama so get out and chill chill chill !!!!! LIVE Yo because before you know it things are going to get more and more difficult. JUST HAVE FUN FOR NOW.
2007-03-19 15:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by airmandan10 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone. You played now you pay. Sorry for being harsh but really that's the truth. Don't do "the wrong thing" again.
2007-03-19 15:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you messed up,accept the responsibility. Give him some room, if it's meant to be, he'll be back, if not, chalk it up to life experience.
2007-03-19 15:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋