Ok, so i have a lot of really good friends. But, i have some not so good ones. One of them (i will call her A) is knd of becoming a pain. She always is getting wrapped up in the drama and pulling me into it as well. She is always bugging me asking if i am mad at her. If i dont talk to her for a few minutes or i talk to someone alone she says that she is "uninportant" and it gets me so annoyed. But, i dont know how to tell her. I NEED HELP!!!!
2007-03-19 15:35:34 · 10 answers · asked by grace102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You said "A, is becoming a pain..."
I take that to mean she's started doing this recently.
If that's the case, this would be a good time to get her alone (away from everyone else) and ask her "What's going on with you? When did you become so insecure? And what's with all the drama? Are you trying to drive people away? Talk to me. I want to help you"
or something like that.
Very important that you talk to her alone and not where anyone else can hear you, because that would just embarrass her.
2007-03-19 15:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont put so much of everyones drama on your shoulders. Im going through the same kinda situation. Tell her you care about her but that you cant handle being dragged into her problems. Sometimes people just have to deal with things all on there own.
As for her bugging you, tell her to stop being so insecure about herself.
2007-03-19 22:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by ~beauty~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a same kind of friend as yours. Try to weigh the pros and cons in your friendship before asserting her because there's a risk that she might take it the wrong way if you did tell her. Then, try to tell her that all of your friends are important and special to you. But that you can't always be there for her. It's not that she's not important or anything but there will always be times when you won't be around her. You both have separate lives after all.
2007-03-19 22:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ichigo14 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow good ol girl drama pain in the butt isnt it? your friend could be doing one of two things maybe shes afraid of losing your friendship and wants to be one of your best friends and maybe you dont treat her as one of your best friends or shes jealous this happens a lot if shes not happy she doesnt want you to be happy its a pain in the butt i know ive been through it just try talking to her just remember friends come and go but only a few will stay your friends for life. good luck
2007-03-19 22:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedchick679 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her.
The more you keep quiet...she will start taking advantage of you.
Sometimes you must make it clear to people of how they are crossing their line. If you never tell em...they will never know and they will continue what they are doing.
2007-03-19 22:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you feel....... tell her that every people has things to do with their own not necesarry with her everytime of your life.............tell her that their is no need for you to talk to her all the time if it has nothing to do or it is not the time for chatting on unimprotant matters......their is a time for conversations with her...
2007-03-19 22:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by FREMONDSHEGEM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW does she have any other friends? Maybe she is jealous that you can have so many friends and she cannot maintain one. I would start to ignore her and distance myself from her.
2007-03-19 22:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by ~Stepa♥~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is the same way! i wanna see answers to this...
2007-03-19 22:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to tell her that you two are seperate people and you don't need to deal with her problems as well as your own.
2007-03-19 22:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by Holly W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she wants drama give her drama and tell her wat u honestly think of her.
2007-03-19 22:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋