I am in my late 20's and married to the love of my life. We've been together 9 years and married for 6 months. He is very handsome and treats me well. But I haven't had much of a sex drive for the last 2 years and now any more than once a month seems like a chore for me? MD's, counseling and therapy haven't been much of a help and I am feeling guilty, and like a bad wife because I am not attracted to my gorgeous, wonderful husband. Is it physical? Mental? Fixable? I have kinda given up on sex and almost now feel disgusted by it. Any serious thoughts and or help are appreciated.
2007-03-19 15:28:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you tried a black man yet?
2007-03-19 15:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is usually a good reason. Maybe you are tired or overworked. I have the same problem. I love my husband and I am attracted to him, but I dread the night time when we are together. I even make sure that any pain medication we have in the house has some kind of sleeping aid (for him). I feel that I am unappreciated most of the time and that doesn't help. Once the act starts it's great, but before is dreadful. It helps when I look at pictures (male parts) but I have to do this without him knowing. I don't want him to think that I'd rather have another one. I just like looking at them. I like looking at his, I just don't tell him because he'd be showing it all the time :-) Good Luck.
2007-03-19 16:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first talk to your doctor. It could be a side effect of a medication you may be taking such as hormonal birth control or antidepressant medication. Or it could be another physical issue.
If you've ruled these problems out, stop having sex like it's a chore! You're only making sex less appealing to yourself and cheapening the experience. You have to want it or not, but truly your husband doesn't need it. Do other things together, try mutual masturbation. Do not have sex unless you really want to!
Start spending time with yourself. Masturbate and fantisize, maybe buy some sex toys. If you start thinking about sex more often, you'll start wanting it.
Definitely, keep tlaking with your husband about your feelings towards sex.
That's all I can think of right now.
2007-03-19 15:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to watch a dirty movie perhaps.
you sure you havent a mental problem, low self esteem, insecurities???
have you put on weight maybe??? so you feel less attractive and too afraid to show him your body
why did you get married then, if he isnt attractive anymore
it sounds like a insecurity on your behalf
dont forget though your husband loves you treats you well
you should be happy and enjoy being together - whether its sexual or not
try stop being negative and focus on being positive
2007-03-19 15:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by boonoora 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just don't want to, not all woman like sex, not all men like sex.
I would look at my past and if something happenned, get a pshycologist.
if not, then maybe is time to try a Latin man. Like a Puerto Rican...mmm
good luck on your sex apetite.
2007-03-19 21:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by Latina_Rica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I found hope it helps
2007-03-19 16:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋