Seriously all the white men that I have dated have treated me bad ya know? Why are they so mean to women?
2007-03-19 15:23:26 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I am sorry for generalizing but I am talking about ALL of MY exes. None of them were trailer trash, criminals, or druggies. These were all professional men from upper class families. They were all abusive and insecure. I have been dating outside my race now, same class of men but they have been so much better to me. They have all been very respectful and treat me like a real woman should be treated. I know that not ALL white men are like that. My dad is one of the sweetest men out there and wouldn't mistreat a woman. It's just that I noticed there are quite a few problematic white men out there because even my sister has had this problem.
2007-03-20 03:15:03 · update #1
That's too bad. Unfortunately, it's not just "white men". This is not a cultural problem, it's a problem across the board. Yes, worst in some cultures more than others. Make yourself open to all types of men, not just white. Go for someone that will not take advantage of you. Since you have been with abusive men, you should begin to recognize the signs. When you see the signs early on, GET OUT. Take your time in relationships getting to know people. Ask lots of questions, past relationships etc.
2007-03-19 15:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by blank 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, that is a very narrow minded stereotypical statement. You know very well that not "all" white men act this way.
Second, to improve your chances in the dating scene, you need to meet men in places other than Biker Bars, Trailer parks, Drug dens, etc. Once you expand your territory, you'll finally discover that there are decent men out there that will treat you with respect, if you let them.
2007-03-19 17:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question should be "How do I end up in these distructive relationships?" rather than label all white men as abusive.
I used to have the same "luck" as you do. If I was attractted to a man, he was surely abusive, manic-depressive, an addict or some combination of the 3.
I went to Al-Anon & it really helped me change myself. Then I stopped being a magnet for this scum. I'm not saying Al-Anon is what you need, but you need to change something - and I mean change inside.
I am now in the most wonderful relationship I could ever have hoped for!
2007-03-19 15:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Smart Kat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not just white men that act this way and not all men act this way. Some men feel that they have to be in control of their women and the only way that they can do this is to beat them. I have never hit my wife, we have been together for 25 years.
2007-03-19 15:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by geezerrex 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm married to a white man and he's gorgeous but I have also been unlucky enough to live with a sociopathic man so I can empathise. Don't stereotype based race. It's about the individual being a lunatic, not what race a man is from.
2007-03-19 15:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kble 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think violence knows a color. Men can be cruel just like women. Try dating different nationalities. Not all white men are mean-L
2007-03-19 15:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've been dating the wrong kind of man--regardless of his race. It's something about you that attracts these kinds of men. Work on "you" first before stepping into another relationship, and always check the signs...you will always have some type of signal that warns you about that man's character.
2007-03-19 15:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by IB_08 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's not just white men Black men beat up white women to . I think it depends on the woman if you have the guts to cuss him out and tell him not to hit you he won't (well i hope not ) That's why there's not that many battered black women Because sista's have a little more attitude than white women .
for example Halle berry's mom (who is white) was beaten by halle berry's dad(who is black of course).
2007-03-19 16:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes attitude of people depends also with their environment and that is amybe the cause of white mens attitude towards girls like you. If you want not to experiencesuch thing then try to find other races that would treat you better.
2007-03-19 15:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by pyrrhus 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because you are apparently attracted to scum. Not all white guys beat women, and, it just isn't white guys that do it. It happens in all races and cultures. You deserve better.
2007-03-19 15:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋