this is a question from my mom again. she wants to get remarried but is afraid that men these days won't bother dating a woman who they can't have with until marrige. my mom has strong catholic morals. she is 51 years old.
2007-03-19 15:22:30 · 13 answers · asked by gina_d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry my question should read: "how many men would be willing to go out with me if they knew i wouldnt have s.e.x. with them until marrige?"
2007-03-19 15:28:52 · update #1
No matter what Age a woman is - She is still a woman. Too many times do we, in unspoken manner, render a woman less than a woman because of age. While she may not be as attractive as she was when she was young she is none the less a 100% woman.
A older woman is not devoid of beauty or charm. It however may not be physical but she is likely to possess greater wisdom, humility. understanding and a greater capacity to love. Arguably young women are full of dreams and fantasies and also judgments. Their notions of what love, gratitude, children, are untested against life's harsh lessons. An older woman is likely to have a better grasp on the realities of life unlike her younger counterparts. So older women have more to offer in love. They possess deep insights on fidelity and are emotionally more evolved when compared to younger women and especially to most men. Men are understandably rooted to physical attributes of a woman and as such often remain blind to the intrinsic qualities of a woman. So older folks understand that a woman's physical beauty is really a "beauty on a lease" that will inevitably expire. And when it does, they often do not like what they see, but are left to pick up the pieces.
It seems today that no one(esp the young) likes the idea of mother's dating or showing expressions of love. The young seem to think that only they possess the exclusive on love. On account of such notions many older and beautiful within women today compromise on their happiness for fear of upsetting or embarrasing their children. Yet, deep within these older women lie a greater capacity to love. A love that knows of both the joys and the necessary moulding pains that is part of giving They have endured such pain bringing life into this world. A pain that non-mothers and males can only speculate on.
Personally I believe that such women should not see themselves as lesser women and should not be afraid to love again. They are shrewder to the courting tactics of men and are more capable of assessing character. However I think that such women who seek to marry should first attempt to honourably make many good male friends of any adult age. And since your mum is firm a Catholic she could participate in Parish community groups where there are males who could be potential friends and then perhaps more.
I do admire your gesture in helping your mum. I hope she will meet many potential partners and realize the treasures present in her. I hope for her that she will find the right companion who will appreciate and be the beneficiary of all the hidden treasures of enchantment lesser known among young women today. The treasures that can only be found in Women of Grace and Wisdom.
2007-03-19 16:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't go out with you, you are only 16. Your mom, well, if she was an interesting person, not bitter, but better from learning after her prior marriage, I think any man worth having as a partner would respect her values.
I don't know if your mom is divorced, so I'm not sure how that plays into strong Catholic values since the church discourages divorce.
However, if a man wants her to compromise her values, then perhaps he is not a man worth having. This is an excellent test of the men she would consider dating. If they push her on this, then perhaps she needs to cut them from the applicant pool.
Tell mom not to look at this as a potential liability, but rather as a really great way to see if the guys she is considering really respect her, or just want to take something.
Ultimately, marriage is about giving. So if these guys walk because they are not getting, then they may not be marriage material.
2007-03-19 16:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's been documented that the bible has indeed been changed, quite a few times... And the worse of these perpetrators is the King James Bible, which changed many things for political purposes... But, I guess that's why it's called "King James" and not "Saint James' Bible." (A famed example of this is where he changed "Do not suffer an Assassin to Live," to Do not suffer a Witch to Live," because he had Assassins under his employ, and could formulate anti-witchcraft laws to take the land off of some of the old money in his country)
2016-03-29 06:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, no offense, but at 51, it will not be easy finding a guy. this is not because women are not attractive at 51, it's just because most men of their age group are already married. yonger guys normally go for younger girls when they want to get married.
anyway, kudos to your mother for standing by her principles.
there are guys in the world who do not expect sex before marriage...so good luck finding them.
however, do tell your mother to refrain from spitting out this piece of information every time she meets a guy. concentrate on getting to know each other, and if the guy makes a move for sex, only then should she tell him off.
2007-03-19 15:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by silivren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are men out there that are like that too. It might be easier given her age to find a 'nice' Catholic man too, it's not like she's wanting to date some 20 year old or is it?
2007-03-19 15:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are the right kind of guys or man they will be willing to wait until marriage for that to happen. She needs to date Catholics of like faith so that they will have the same beliefs and morals in this case. The one who is willing to wait and loves her for her will be the right one for her and for her life. Tell her not to be afraid. Be sure to tell your mom for me that God will bless her life if she glorifies him and waits for marriage to be intimate with a man again. He will send the right guy her way and bless her richly for her beliefs and morals, Hugs to your mom today .
2007-03-19 15:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those are your wishes then thats what you'll just have to wait for. If you meet a man and he says that he really loves you then he'll listen to you and be perfectly fine with it. And if he tries to trick you into having sex then he's not the one you thought you loved. But i'm sure that the right guy is out there for you. To hold you and comfort you, and love you with all his heart.
2007-03-19 17:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by emmaroserauwerdink1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man that will love her for who she is. There are still some men that have high Christian morales and are not just looking for a 'one-night-stand.'
2007-03-19 15:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Maiden Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i was not married, i would, but like i said if i was not married,, i think you mom ,got the right thing on her mind,, ,,why mess us a good thing, with sex, be fore married... to many women to day,, dont think,, an then latter after the man go in their life,, want to cry, how he hurt them,, when it was both made the choice,,,, tell you mom,, to strand strong,, the right one come a long
2007-03-20 00:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very few, unless the man is a strong Catholic, also.
2007-03-19 15:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋