my wife violated a PFA which protects my son from her daughters father cause he threatened my sons' life b4 he was even born. we are seperated and she came to pick him up as part of the custody. and her daughters father was driving. was it right to clal the cops and report it and file contempt of PFA to Prothonotary and now taking her for full custody.. i feel i did the right thing but same time the wrong thing.. but while we was togehter i took care of our son all night and day while she sa on the computer.. she faces max of 6month in jail and $1,000 in fines.. i felt my son was in danger if he wasn;t i am sure she try to get my son to call her daughters father dad!
2007-03-19 15:05:54 · 23 answers · asked by GR4V1TY-BONG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you did the right thig the most inportant thing is your child safty and as long as you acted in the childs best interest they you are fine (sounds like you did a good job to me i would have done the same thing)
2007-03-19 15:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to call the cops and report what was happening because as a father it is your duty to protect your children. Your wife should also have the decency to respect the PFA and your wishes. If you should be accused of anything it is of being a good father.
2007-03-19 15:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by tiki2001nyc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her trying to get your son to call her daughers father dad is irrelevant. Her having him around a person that threatened to murder him before he was born is.
I dont quite understand why you even permitted the child got in the car when he was driving. Permitting him to even get in the car and THEN calling the cops seems like you were setting her up...shady as can be. Why would you do that?
I can only hope both of you grow up and stop trying to hurt one another through this kid. That said, you cant control her but you can certainly make a decision to put your kid first in all you do in the future.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 15:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely, this guy has you by utilising the balls in an attempt to speak, as he's doing this on the telephone, and not in emails, or letters, which might supply you the evidence. So, as others have pronounced you ought to checklist extra effective than between the conversations, that's #a million. you pick the evidence. in case you may get him to place it into written sort this could be the evidence. you could notify HIS protection rigidity upline (for a loss of extra perfect phraseology) and make a criticism of abuse. the protection rigidity take this heavily. you will ought to additionally, go the course with the interior sight police. And record quotes if achievable, with a restraining order. basically getting the restraining order will in all probability extremely set him off, so which you pick a backup plan. at the same time with, kinfolk risk-free practices, shifting to a diverse city, abuse shelters etc. Take an afternoon or 2 to shelter despite funds you could from economic corporation bills, value rate reductions etc as you will choose it. And proceed with the plan to leave him. shop issues as secret as you could, and in effortless terms have faith persons that wont enable him understand the place you and the toddlers are.
2016-10-02 10:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt your son was in danger then you absolutely were right to call. Though I would've thought the guy would've been arrested for violating the order and not your wife since the order was against him. At any rate don't feel bad for doing something you genuinely feel is in the best interest of your child.
2007-03-19 15:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing to protect your son.
Your wife seems to make some bad choices and why is she running around with her daughters father the psycho that threatened your then unborn sons life?
If anyone ever threatened my unborn childrens life...
they better get the hell out of dodge city !!!
2007-03-19 15:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Intelfem7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the reason you feel like you have done the right thing and the wrong thing is you really know in your heart of hearts your son was not in danger; you are trying to rationalize punishing her; with that said, they shouldn't have broken the rules. It would take a lot for me to put my husband in jail and I mean a lot; this wouldn't have been enough for me; but you have to live with it
2007-03-19 15:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes it was... you have to think about your son's saftey. All spite and hatred aside, it's about your son and his best interest. If you felt that he was in danger it would be wrong if you didn't report her. You need to do all you can to get full custody. Your son is the most important, do the right thing.
2007-03-19 15:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by glassflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Your son's safety is more important,
and she should know better than to violate a court order
anyway. Good luck with the custody fight.
2007-03-19 15:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was violation you had no other choice if your son had gotten in the car and something had happened you would be facing charges as well so it's ok i know it must seem wrong but you removed the possible danger from your son which is your reasponsibility as his parent . well done go for sole custody
2007-03-19 15:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by kaceek21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋