It's a scary thought - just wondering how folks cope with this life-changing event.
2007-03-19 14:49:24 · 16 answers · asked by janni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have been through it myself...it is very hard, but i relied on my family and friends a lot (thank God for them) and tried to continue with my life as best I could. I am and was a gym junkie, and going to the gym every day helped me get rid of a lot of stress. Having to "soldier on" for my young children's benefit made it tough- there were a lot of private, late night soul searching and crying sessions, but as cliched as it sounds, you really can and do get through it. I think you need to find something that you love, like a hobby or like me, the gym, and go hard at it for a while. It will take your mind off your situation for even just a little while and help you relieve some stress. You will look back after a little while and wonder how you got through it. It is tough, but you will be able to get through. Good luck and stay strong.
2007-03-19 14:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by fitMel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gads! You make it sound so un-inviting!
Personally, I enjoy living alone. Living together was nice and had a lot of good (great) points (like she's a wonderful cook and stuff). I still love my ex and always will. We are the Best of Friends even though we are no longer together.
None-the-less, now I can come and go as I please without answering to someone else, I can run around in my underwear if I choose (sorry if that's too graphic). I can watch the shows I prefer on the tube, sing in the shower (only offending my neighbors), etc...
What's so bad? (besides my singing).
The Ol' Sasquatch Ã
2007-03-19 22:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on the person i guess. best thing is to keep going find something to fill your life and time some people find hobbies other jump right back into the dating game and personally i found some alone time can be very good for you join a health club read new books if you have kids do the things that you never did with them because the spouse didn't want to
2007-03-19 21:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by catherine marcrum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They find friends or hobbies to keep them busy. They can also take up a second job in the evenings or on the weekends to keep busy. Basically they find replacements for the spouse that they once had. They can join singles or singles again groups.
2007-03-19 21:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its happened to me...I am alone after 19 yrs of marriage and I am only 39 so I am still kinda young. I keep myself busy. Of course I have my kids to help. But keeping myself busy especially at night when I feel the most lonely.
2007-03-19 22:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be very freeing (if that's a word), you have an extremely clean house, get to start or continue hobbies that became neglected; you get to work on yourself, which is awesome; then again the same things that you love about being single are the same things you hate about being single; i.e., you can eat popcorn in bed, but on the flip side, you are eating popcorn in bed; you can come and go as you please, but on the flip side, you can come and go as you please because there isn't anyone to check in with.....so it's adjustment and it takes keeping busy and having friends and family.
2007-03-19 21:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You learn to live it day by day. Socialize with freinds and family a lot. You must also learn to enjoy things at home like watching television, listening to stereo, hobbies, and of course computers. As connected a society that we are nowadays(cell phones and computers) you are never alone!
2007-03-19 21:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very scary and lonely. You get by with a good support system of friends and family. Having a optimistic outlook and keeping busy. It's what you make it.
2007-03-19 21:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is faced with this situation. After 40 years of marriage. I do know she looks to us (her children) to get her through. We are blessed enough to spend time with her daily. I know how hard it must be on her. Keep busy. Find friends. Join a church. Anything to fill the void. Most importantly PRAY, and always know he hears you.
2007-03-19 21:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and dad were married just short of 50 years. Dad is gone now over five years and mom still struggles with depression and loneliness. I'd like an answer myself.
2007-03-19 22:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Buckwheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋