my mom wants to know. she is very pretty and shes catholic and just got out of an abusive relationship. she wants to know what the chances of getting remarries are.
2007-03-19 14:42:31 · 30 answers · asked by gina_d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't see where age has anything to do with it, she will find love if she wants it. She is young though she may not think so but there are so many people in our age group right now that it would be very easy for her to meet someone.
I would caution her from jumping into a relationship quickly though and I would also suggest counseling. Coming from an abusive relationship myself I can tell you it changes your prespective alot and you tend to seek out the same type of traits unknowingly and end up back in the same situation as before. Also, men who wish to take advantage of her will pick up on the abusiveness she has been subjected to in her demeanor and will use this to play on her....such as someone who is too good to be true usually is...etc.... she should always go with her gut feeling about someone because intuition is there for a reason. It is a scary world out there and there are so many people out to do harm to those of us who just wish to find love.
I would suggest she join some group activities within her church and if her church is too small she can look in the paper for other churches with singles social groups. It would also be good for her to take up something she enjoys or has always wanted to learn such as golfing, painting, or the likes, even becoming involved in charities. There will be plenty of opportunity to mingle with single men at those types of events and things.
First things first though, she should make a list of the important things she is not willing to budge on when looking for a mate. If she doesn't want a smoker for example then she needs to not date a smoker and stick to that, although some things she will want to compromise on she needs to know what she won't compromise on. She needs not to go out in search of a husband but in search of a friend, someone who she can take her time and get to know. She needs to draw the line at sex no matter how much someone wants to pressure her because this should only be something she should do when she is ready and with protection.... it's just not safe anymore with everybody having sex with everybody else and all those diseases out there. Of course this may be uncomfortable for you to talk with your mom about so just let her read this or have her email me... in this day we have to talk about sex it's just not safe at all.
I hope I was some help and I wish her the best of luck and happiness!
2007-03-19 15:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kellie~Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of a bad relationship. Those things happen sometimes!
Her chances of re-marrying are very good! I am a 700+ year old Sasquatch living in downtown Madison, Wisconsin. Honestly! I'm a real Sasquatch. I'm not kidding! I can type too! Okay, I am really 54. But I could be a Sasquatch if I really wanted to, honest! Sasquatch are really great folk - most of the time.
Seriously though. Your mom is still very young! You know - Inside every older person is a younger person asking ... what the heck happened!
Good luck, Mom!
The Ol' Sasquatch Ã
2007-03-19 22:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretty darn good, I'd say! I'm 48 years old myself and last year, one of our neighbors confessed to my husband that he's had a crush on me since we moved into the neighborhood ... and this guy is 10 years younger than me! Tell your mom to go into therapy to get rid of any baggage left by the abusive ex, join a health club, take a night class or two at a local community college and try to get a girlfriend to go on a cruise with her. What I've discovered in my life is that looks will only get you so far. If you aren't confident and interesting to be around, people aren't going to want to hang around you for very long. I was in an abusive marriage myself the first time around and I know that the first tactic in the Abuser's Manual is to wall you off from other people which means basically turning you into a hermit. That's why it's so important for your mom to begin making friendships, getting involved in church or community and finding a hobby she enjoys. So much of our confidence and self-esteem comes from our network of friends and our ability to feel like we're helping others and making a difference. Believe me, there is no make-up or plastic surgery that is going to take the place of confidence and a general love and enjoyment of life. It may take her a while to get there, but she if she puts her feet upon the path now, she'll get there.
2007-03-19 21:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why does she want to remarry?
She will no doubt find someone to marry if she chooses but try to encourage her to take the time to rediscover herself first. If she was in an abusive relationship she will need time to heal.
2007-03-19 22:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll be easier for her to be open and receptive to a healthier relationship once she's healed from the abusive one. She should look for people in her church (since you mentoned her faith- it must be important to her) and not to be afraid to go out on blind dates that trusted friends set her up on. You have to be out there, socializing, to meet people. 51 is still young now a days! No need to rush.
2007-03-19 21:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by swhitney6488 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is no boundary. You are only as old as you feel. Tell her that life and it's possibilities doesn't end until they close the lid on your coffin. And when they do close mine I hope they throw in a party hat and some of my favorite music CD's just in case the after life is as exciting as this life was.
2007-03-19 22:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. After going through that kind of life w/ someone who is suppose to love her and make her feel safe she deserves a good man and i am glad she is out of it. You never know when your time is going to be here for you to leave this earth so if she is going to live she needs to live happy and with someone to spend the rest of her years with. If she finds the right man its possible tell her to go get him and i wish her the best of luck!
2007-03-19 21:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You ask like as if 51 is old or something. If she gets out, if she cares about her looks, if she can form complete sentences, she's a shoe in!
2007-03-19 21:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Buckwheat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends totally if she finds somone that is com-
patable with her and committed. Her age is not a
factor as marriage has no age just maturity, so
your mom could get re-married but she needs to
makes sure this one is the right one for her.
2007-03-19 22:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are excellent! There are still some good men out there! She's got a lot of years left and deserves nothing but the best! Hook her up with a nice gentleman! Wish her well! :)
2007-03-19 21:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋