My best friend is avoiding me?

Question

My best friend and I are in 7th grade. We've had a fight this past week, and I want to talk it out with her, but she's always "busy". I just called her and she said that she's going to wal mart. I asked her if we were ever gonna be able to talk it out, and she just said that i always call her at the wrong time. I asked her if we're still best friends and she said yea. What really got me is that she was recently in a fight with her other best friend, but she immediately called and her and worked it out. Why won't she do the same with me? What's happening? Please help me get my best friend back. If you have any questions to ask me about it, just ask and I'll answer it in additional detail. Please look back to see if i've answered your question. Thank you

The argument started because I found out that she'd been talking about me behind my back to my "enemy".

Wow two, you really know what you're talking about. Have you been in a situation like this before?

Answer 1

Wow, she does seem to be too busy for you, doesn't she ? She tells you that you always call at the wrong time, but - what? - are her fingers broken ? She can't call you when the time is right ? And she has another (other) best friend with whom she had an argument but worked it out immediately ? What does all this tell you ?

(Of course, I am clueless as to the dichotomy between "best friend" and "other best friend" .....usually "best friend denotes the top of the heap, not just one among many.)

But anyway - Time for you to leave her alone. You have done all that you can. You have let her know that you want to talk it out; you have made the efforts in the face of her resistance to them; you have done all that you can. The old saying is that "it takes two to tango" meaning that, in relationships, friendships, you cannot do it all by yourself. If she doesn't want to work it out, then it won't be worked out.

You can't "get" someone back who doesn't want to be there. Best friends are best friends because they want to be so through it all.....they are best friends because they are honest with each other; ... they are best friends because they know the worst about each other and like each other anyway... they are best friends because they can trust each other through thick and thin. It doesn't sound like she is giving you that respect and regard. And you can't force her to do so.

You may never know why. You've asked; she hasn't answered. Now you have to have the strength to let her go. And, in doing so, look at yourself to see what happened, on your side, so that you can modify that part of you that you find you might want to change so that, in the future, you don't have this kind of fight. (I am not suggesting that, for sure, there IS something there - don't know what the fight was about - but looking at your own behavior and your own role in it never hurts.)

Don't talk her down behind her back; say nothing but nice things about her - no matter what - if anyone asks why you aren't friends anymore, tell the truth - that you had a fight that you regret and you wish you still were close. That kind of behavior will make you a powerful lady and it WILL get back to her - eventually.

There will be other friends. It will take some time, but if you focus on being a good friend to others and being the kind of person others want to be around, you will not be lacking in friendship long.

Answer 2

A lot depends on what caused the argument.

Seventh grade is when friends begin to grow apart. Some girls become more "girly" and others are into sports. Some girls develop sooner and feel that they are too "grown up" for their friends that aren't developing as quickly.

You might want to start talking to more people. You'd be surprised at how many folk are just waiting to be asked to be a friend.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Well, you should tell her and ask her if she's trying to avoid you. Tell her the truth and be loyal. If she answers yes find new friends, and if she answers no, then just ask if you guys can talk about it, and work things out. Ask if you can come over or have a study group, so that she can't avoid you and you can corner her and talk to her. If she's talking about you with your "enemy" then that means that your "friend" is not a true friend. You need to dump that girl, and find new friends, because TRUE friends do not talk about each other with the people they dislike.

Answer 4

hmmmm... let me think :P
well your friend and you went through a fight/or argument :( so now things are weird , because it feels like your stuck somewhere..not sure if things are ok now :)...but its funny how she says you call her always at the wrong time ....she could be telling the truth of course :D lol, but maybe the reason when she got into a fight with her other best friend and made up a soon as possiable was cause the fight maybe in her mind was silly :P and she thought that she didnt want to lose her friend over a fight so dumb so she called immediatly and then taddaa "best friends again like that *snaps*"
but now when you guys got into a fight maybe it was somehting that made her really mad and irritated that she just maybe wants to COOL DOWN for a little sec :D but she did say she's stiil your best friend! yay! you just give her time which could be best....cause time is the best ...ima gonna tell you a small stry about my friend (really good but not best).....ok i got tried of her critcizing me....talking about she hated the wayi dressed cause she told me i looked like a child and that is should start changing my wardrobe for the guys to pay attention to me....im LIKE h** no ..i got mad a told her she dresses like a figgin slut with no class and shouldnt be nagging me evryday to do the same and bugging me to wear makeup like a hoe (but shes still pretty nice) so in my mind i didnt want to be her friend or make up as soon as possible becuase i was JUST MADDD! :P. three days passed i just started to talk to her like nothing happenddddd cause in my head i was like "I miss my friend" :D lol. I dont think anything bad is happening but if you like you could try talking to her and say what you put in the question about ..whats happening..am i not as good a friend as ******* (name not bad word):D just let time pass (1 day maybe lol) and try to talk to her again :D things like this happen in freindships of course ....remember, STAY positive
SUNSHINE :D

Answer 5

All I can say is ask her about it. Be real calm about it. If she keeps saying she's busy then say ok when is a good time for me to call? can we set up a time? See if she'll do that. If not then she's pretty mad and you should just wait it out and wait for her to come to you.

Answer 6

talk to her at school about it and see what happens. if that doesnt work pull her off to the side and talk to her even if she says "she is busy".