My boyfriend who i have been with for over two years is addicted to finding girls in chat rooms, and talking sexual with them, usually about girl on girl action, and masterbating to it. He even makes fake messenger accounts pretending to be a girl to get girls to talk nasty with him. He tells me all the time that he loves me and he dosnt really want that, and promises to me that he will stop. I do believe he loves me, and i love him as well. But he wont even delete the accounts he has made. I want this to stop and its been going on for months, and a few weeks ago he had told me he had stopped it. But he cant ever stay stopped. Should i leave him? Or should i deal with it? What should i do?
2007-03-19 13:51:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hope you use a different computer because he has spewed his juices all over the screen and key board of that one.
Oh honey run for your life.
He didn`t stop so now he is lying to you, as well as cheating lustfully on you with other women. The next step is a real on line romance and prostitutes.
It is not normal to do that! It leads to worse behavior.
Run or you`ll spend years in pain. You deserve better than that. Don`t you think so too?
Good question
2007-03-23 07:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You used the correct word, "Addicted". You are not going to break his addiction. Many guys won't even stop it for their wives! It has caused the breakup of many couples. Usually the person addicted needs professional help, and that is usually after they admit that they even have a problem, otherwise they will be in constant denial, and will lie a lot.
You need to find someone new who prefers you, over his hand!
2007-03-27 20:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like another perverted person with a bad addiction. My husband started doing something similar which seemed innocent at first. Then he graduated to gay porn and started acting out his fantasies. He needs to get some help before he starts asking you to act out some of his fantasies and no telling where he will go then. You don't know what happens when you are not around him.... You should be enough woman for him. You deserve better.
2007-03-27 12:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by beaddiva 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an immature person for tolerating that crap!
He is not a boyfriend. He is definitely a "Male Lesbian".
Good grief! Get rid of that pervert ASAP.
I am not condemning masturbation or even looking at Porn Sites.
There is one thing for sure, he is a sick person, and you will never be able to sexually satisfy him.
Dump him and move on.
Any person that comes to this site with questions such as yours, are in my opinion, immature and borderline stupid!
Grow up.
Good Luck,
Bob P.
2007-03-27 18:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by bob P11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to put your foot down and tell him either he stops or your gone. Make him chose between that or you, because if you don't he will never stop and it will always continue. And you do not deserve to have to go through that. If he really loves you then he will choose you and stop what he is doing in the chat rooms.There is really nothing else you can do but make him choose. And you should not have to just deal with it, because that is very wrong of him to do this and he should realize that this hurts you. So just put your foot down and make him choose that is about all you can do. But I hope my advice helps you out and i wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-27 02:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by key to your answer 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like sexual addiction. It will go from just the chatting to watching porn and possibly to picking up hookers. If he can't stop this it's only gonna get worse. You need to separate yourself from the hurt now
2007-03-27 13:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The cold "hard" fact is, he loves his masterbation, more than he has any respect for you. and he knows how you feel about it, but chooses the machine fantasy, over you. He has already made the choice for you. We all masterbate,, but,,all the time? and when we have some one to share the real thing with?
2007-03-26 15:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Steve C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would would sit down and have a seroius talk with him. Make it clear that you dont want this anymore. Get him to understand if the shoe was on the other foot. I know a lot if guys do it because they are guys but he should repect your feelings
GOOD LUCK :^)
2007-03-27 20:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by bosschic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has an addiction, and unless he wants to change for himself and not someone else then he will continue his behavior because he sees nothing wrong with it, if he loved you and had any respect for you then he would at-least try to stop and work hard at it and he would have his accounts deleted as well as a sign that he really wants to conquer this, it might be best to breakup with him so that he can figure out and realize what is more important in his life being in a relationship with you or anybody else or his addiction....
2007-03-26 19:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That IS disgusting. I'd dump him in a heartbeat if for no other reason than being totally turned off every time I saw him. If he only wants to be with you, then why does he need other girls to get him off? Ditch him.
2007-03-27 15:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by ashley's atarax 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋