How do I communicate with my husband if he makes me feel like he doesn't find it important?

Question

we got married 6 months ago.

Answer 1

Tell him you both need to talk and that you need him to hear what your going to say.

Answer 2

Why didn't you ask yourself this 7 months ago? I don't understand how anyone can be married only 6 months and be surprised at how their husbands are acting; they didn't / couldn't have changed that much in 6 months....

With that said, we, females tend to be wordy (it is a fact that women say 3 times as many words a day than men do) so get to the point when you are talking to him; I'm afraid it doesn't look good for the long run, if you are having this issue already....but best wishes on working it out.

Answer 3

I know exactly what you are talking about. I used to feel like this sometimes. I would spend hours listening to my husband talk about work etc and then he would get impatient and fidgety listening to me for 5 minutes. I explained this to him and his explanation was that once he got it off his chest he was ready to move on to another job or activity. After being reminded that marriage is a two way road and that I too would appreciate a listening ear every now and then he makes more of an effort. If there is something that he really "must do now" I ask him to make a little time for me after as there is something that I would appreciate his advice on. Making him feel important always seems to work!!!

Answer 4

I believe that you both probably weren't communicating well before your marriage. But now living the every day life, it's sticking out like a sore thumb. He probably thinks that he's got you, so he doesn't have to try so much anymore.
But remember, to change the way he treats you, you have to change your actions and reactions. You've figured out there's an issue, It can be fixed.
Don't be like me and let lack of communication ruin your relationship. Good luck.
Hey, pick up Dr Phils Relationship Rescue. It might help.

Answer 5

Only married for 6 months pray 4 your marriage. Tell your husband that u want to go out someplace nice or make a nice candlelight dinner and then find the perfect opportunity to talk about what you want but do it in a lingerie.

Answer 6

Go for a drive..........men listen the best when they are driving. No TV, phone etc to distract them. And they are not facing you directly so they do not feel like they are being confronted. and being able to look out the window lets them open up more and not feel vulnerable.
Be direct. Use humor when you can. Keep it light, but get the conversation going. If you really can't drive anywhere, sit side by side on the couch, so you are facing the same direction, but leave the TV off when you talk.
(this is not only true of men, but women too)

Answer 7

tell him loudly what you feel don't scream don't argue don't cry just tell him every time he makes you fell this way ask him to talk with you tell him what your fears are and what your feelings are if you don't find a way to communicate now then your marriage may not have a very good chance talk is important but communication is essential to a good relationship

Answer 8

Was he like this before you married?

You cant make another person do ANYTHING. All you can do is express to him how you feel but dont be accusatory. Dont say "you dont listent to me." Instead say "I do not feel like what I say or feel is important you.' If he asks why be prepared to give concrete examples, not feelings. If he doesnt respond, well you are right and he is not listening and you have decisions to make.

Also consider what part you have played in getting where you are.

Answer 9

You have to make him understand that this is very important to you and to the marriage. Seek counseling for this if need be with him so he can better learn to communicate with you. Good luck. Communicate with him no matter what and who knows maybe someday he will learn to communicate back.

Answer 10

hello hon...

first of all your husband can't make you feel anything you don't already feel about yourself.

YOU are important.... and your husband needs to realize this...

You can tell him how you feel --

"I feel what i have to say is unimportant to you, but it is important to ME... i really need you to listen when i have something to say - please"

then you can ask him if he is ready to listen.

Lots of men seem to be out there, somewhere on another planet, or inside of a television set when we try to talk with them. this doesn't mean what you have to say is unimportant.

First step is to find some way to grab his attention, and let him know that it's vital he HEARS you.

Sometimes we really do have things to say which can affect our relationships! It might be nice if he would listen, especially when it is critical.

good luck!!! keep working at him...

Answer 11

Communicate w/ somebody else! He didn't marry you for talking...he wants something else from you. In my 40 years I have learned the hardest lessons. ..Accept pple for what they are!! Why did YOU marry him?? for finance?? romance?? if you're honest w/ yourself did you REALLY marry him for communication or the situation of being his wife?! Having a ring on your finger. Talk to the diamond...make new "talking buddies"....this isn't a disappointment. Just a wake up call.