ok.. my friend is pregant shes 15 but im so happy for her but she told me today that the father is my boyfriend.. and shes 4 months pregnant and me and my man have been going out for 3 years and i dont noe how long this is been going on.. shes trying to hide it and say the test is lieing hes not the dad but i dont noe what to believe.. he says " baby u noe i wouldnt do that to u" but i think he did cuz hes been wanting sex and i wont give it to him. And she has a toddler already and now im starting to think thats his too.
2007-03-19 13:47:31 · 27 answers · asked by cherish l 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
if you are questioning it at all then it's probably true
and my advise to you is dump the both of them and find better people to spend your time with (and thank god that you didn't give in to him....good girl!)
2007-03-19 13:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
now let's see if i have this right.
she is 15 and already has a toddler?
she is 15 and is pregnant again?
she is possibly pregnant by "your man"?
and you are happy for her?
you are her friend and i would assume that you are about the same age.
here are my feelings on this one.
this girl is going to lead a life that is going to be so extremely hard that you would not believe!!! how does she intend on supporting these children? with the BOY OR BOYS that got her pregnant in the first place? do you think that these BOYS are willing to pay 23% of their GROSS INCOME to this girl for the next 18-21 years??????
you call this guy you are with "your man" he isn't even close to being a man!!! he is a child that is out for sex and making babies in the process!
you KIDS have some very serious growing up to do!!! if i were you I'd tell lover boy to cool his jets until you find out who the father is to these kids of your friend that you are so happy for!!!
in conclusion, I'm sure she has had more than one partner if she is pregnant for the second time at this age. at the rate she is going aids or some other std looks like a real possibility for her!!! when she gets a little older and wants to settle down and stop whoring all over town, who will want her? some man that knows she has been with most of the guys in the town?????? don't think so!!!
2007-03-19 14:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you how important it is for you to try to get yourself away from your boyfriend. Although you probably think you love him more than anything, he doesn't sound like good news. If you aren't careful, you are going to end up pregnant by him too and possibly carrying an STD. If you even have a suspicion that your boyfriend would sleep with your friend then that tells you he isn't the one for you. Your so called friend doesn't seem so great either. Why does a 15 year old baby have a toddler and a baby on the way? Do your parents know what is going on here? Think about what you really want in life baby.
2007-03-19 13:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by ssauntry20 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is no test except a DNA test that would tell her who the father is and if she is only 4 months along she has not had any DNA testing done. The test can be done after the baby is born. Second that really sucks for you if you have been with him for 3 years and he would do that to you. Dump the dude like the loser he is if you find out he is the father. I don't see why your friend would tell you your boyfriend is the father if they didn't sleep together so its pretty obvious he cheated on you. Get rid of him no matter how much you love him because you deserve better!!!!!!
2007-03-19 13:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by kriss_sixty9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to remove yourself from that situation fast. Your friend is not a real friend and your boyfriend a loser. You can do better and it's good that you discovered this now instead of 5 years down the road when you've a baby on the hip and another in your belly while he messes around with other women. Men like him don't change, and friends like that are a dime a dozen. It's easy to find a trashy, no good friend who will sleep with your boyfriend. Let them both go and grieve for a few months, get over it finish school and go to college. Your better off without them.
2007-03-19 13:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by Petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i am leaning towards the answere of him being the father. I would think so if it was me. Another reason why i am leaning towards it is b/c she already has a kid. So him (ur bf) noes that she will go as far as having sex with him. ANOTHER reason is b/c men r like machines they will take in all these diffrent things and will only spit one thing out. It could be good or bad, Depending on the man. But i will let u decide on which one u beileve in.
2007-03-19 14:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by Abby,,[[RAWR]] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All of you need to go to the court house and get a DNA test on the toddler and wait till this baby is born and do the same. She needs to grow up and you need to leave you're boyfriend if hes cheating on you. I hope the best for you.
2007-03-19 14:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by [[<3]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be dealing with this drama. Your friend is not really your friend. If she was, she wouldn't have even thought about sleeping with your boyfriend much less actually to have done it. Ditch her...now. You can't trust her. You can't trust your boyfriend either. If he really cared about you and if you meant something to him, he would not cheat on you. He's useless and NOT a real man. Ditch him too. You are a young girl playing a woman's game, you need to stop before you end up as used up and as messed up as your friends. You won't be an attractive prospect to any decent man one day if you continue to do what you are doing. You risk getting STD's, getting into trouble and drugs (if you haven't already), and having multiple children you can't properly care for. God gave you a brain, USE it!
2007-03-19 16:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by hotnspicylatinalover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't ur friend and ur boyfriend take a dna test to prove if ur boyfriend is the father of the soon to be baby. Even if the baby is not your boyfriends', you still need to worry if he had sex with your friend. He can be a cheater. You can also take a lie detector test.
2007-03-19 13:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hello there im on my granddaughters account answering questions so...if i were in ur case i would probably just waite to fidn out by taking a phaternaty test...thats the onjly way u will really know for sure..that and also him telling you the truth..because theres 2 different sides of the story you shouldnt believe anyone right now...the best thing to do is just be there for your friend and when you find out that she cheated or not with your boyfriend then you must i mean must and have to leave them hes not worthy of having you so he went and got someone else pregnant and shes not worthy of you because she is you pregnant bestfriend and the father might be you own boyfriend..but for gith now dont leave their sides untill you know the truth...
good luck honey!!
and best wishes for all of you!!
2007-03-19 13:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You, my dear are an incredibly smart girl. You know yourself enough to make safe choices. You sould be proud of yourself for not giving it up to him. Though if this girl was your freind, she wouldnt have either. You need to consider how important these relationships are to you. If your BF already did this in the past, He will do it again. Ditch him, and if you want to be freinds with this girl still, do it but set boundries on your freindship. Make it clear that what she did is wrong and if it happens again it will be unforgivable.
2007-03-19 14:39:56 · answer #11 · answered by binglejells2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋