His intentions might be of a pleasant nature, although it doesn't really seem so. Regardless, I'd be offended and I would not accept. If you're paying rent, your finance shouldn't be working for free. It should be either one or the other, free work & rent or free rent & work.
My suggestion is to get an apartment. If you need a place to stay and that's your last option, make it extremely temporary. Just stay on good terms.
2007-03-19 13:53:14
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answered by Anonymous
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Sounds like a raw deal, but just how did he "make" you two sign the lease? If it was under duress, it's not binding. If you signed because you couldn't afford anything else, then the marketplace has ruled. Not many parents would let you move in with their son, unmarried.
Dad can't make him work for him free. If it's in the lease, then it's part of the payment.
How old is your fiance? If he's legal, why didn't he move out?
I am sorry about the father's remarriage. It seems he's rebounding.
Has the father always been a jerk? If this is a new development, maybe he is grieving but doesn't know how, so it comes out in harsh irrationality and a whirlwind courtship with someone who salves some of his wounds.
Maybe consider ministering to him, loving him, helping him grieve. Set aside his offenses for a moment and try to see how he's hurting. Maybe if he knows you love him, you will be able to help him heal. Do not try to prevent the marriage, as that would be manipulative; just try to help him heal.
Maybe not. Maybe he is just a jerk. Or maybe he doesn't mean to be a jerk but doesn't know how to express love, so he does a push me-pull you thing--he'll let you live in his house, but you'll have to pay rent. He wants to spend time with his son but doesn't know how, so he makes him work for him.
I am 50 and, if my mother were still living, I could be a much better daughter than I was. Try to see beyond Dad's harsh exterior to the hurting man beneath. Not easy, especially at your age, but maybe you can at least not be so harsh on him as you move out.
How will the new mom affect your rent? Will Dad let you out of the lease? Will she get along with you? If she can't get along with you, that would probably be grounds for breaking the lease, since there has been a substantial change for the worse. Try to get along with her, though. 20 years from now, you'll be glad you did, and those 20 years will pass faster than you think!
2007-03-19 14:21:00
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answered by Maryfrances 5
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at the beginning i'm no longer an criminal expert. you won't be able to place somebody in penitentiary for non-cost (that's why we've not got borrowers courtroom/penal complex which did take place in England long in the previous u.s. grow to be based. you could wade with the aid of eviction lawsuits and finding on the quantity owed Small Claims courtroom). There are web content that supply you Renters contract documentation for loose basically Google it. in case your requests are too outlandish a courtroom might effortless refuse to settle for the case. perhaps you could interject a clause that stipulates that in the event that they and their property are no longer out by utilising a particular time they are going to be seen as Trespassers. perhaps the interior sight government/courts will settle for that as sufficient ability and that they could be arrested as such in the event that they do no longer vacate the premises in a well timed way. yet even that isn't postpone in courtroom. If a guy or woman have been to eat a meal in a eating place and not pay for it or hire a automobile and not return it that company might have a case under embezzlement. unsure if that applies. a minimum of your attempting to do the final ingredient by utilising having a renters contract. a freelance/contract is predicated upon the assembly of the minds between 2 or extra social gathering's. and then of direction there is often choose Judy.
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answered by bizier 3
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Seriously grow up living isn't free. You cannot possibly fine any place that will support just you let alone you and hour spouse for $75/week. Just over $10/day.
As for helping them out, um that is what family does. I haven't lived with my parents in many years, I will still help them shovel their snow, do repairs around the house, and whatever else I can do. They are older and supported and raised me for 18 years, the least I can do is help them out where I can.
if you don't like the living arrangements, find your own place. that is what adults do.
As for him remarrying, how is that your business. My grandmother remarried at the age of 73 after my grandfather's passing just over one years prior. Everybody is entitled to happiness. Losing a loved one espeically a spouse in an incredibly painful process, some heal by loving again, so mourn forever. You should be happy for him finding love again, he will not be lonely.
2007-03-19 14:06:59
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answered by smedrik 7
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Well what is causing this sounds like a strained relationship to me, son may have been a deadbeat in the past and father is trying to teach him responsbilities come 1st However it does sound strange about the work for free part unless he is planning on employing him and is training on a partime basis. But don't compare his relationship to your's and your fiances it isn't really in the picture. Personally save your money as fast as possible sounds like this isn't going to last.
2007-03-19 13:55:54
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answered by mississippi_goat 2
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He can do what he wants with his own home. Perhaps you should look into getting your own place. There are many HUD facilities that charge minimal rent. My mother manages one and I know that you can have rent as low as 30 bucks. As for how long any of you have known eachother, that's irrelevant to the situation.
2007-03-19 14:04:37
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answered by J 4
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As long as you two live there, your fiance's father can do what he likes. Three hundred dollars a month is reasonable, if you don't like it, find an another place, and see how much you have to pay.
The fact that he is getting re-married is irrelevant.
2007-03-19 14:03:47
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answered by HAGAR!!! 6
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Hes absolutely in the right! Where else are you going to live for $300/mo (utilities included)? Your personal feelings/problems dont matter. Youre only paying your food bill anyway. GROW UP! Nothings free!
2007-03-19 13:52:47
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answered by plainfieldcletusblue 4
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First of all, renting for $300 per month is dirt cheap; no wonder he's making your boyfriend do extra work! The rules: his house, his rules.
Get your own place.
The fact that the Dad is getting remarried is no-one's business but his.
2007-03-19 13:51:27
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answered by CanadianBlondie 5
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you two should just go get your own apartment. Forget the in house living thing altogether even though its cheaper. If you both have jobs you can get a nice apartment.
2007-03-19 13:46:13
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answered by brandontremain 3
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