how can i tell if someone is a lesbian without asking?

Question

im not sure if she is bi or not..and im trying to find that out somethins like what she wears or does or the way she looks at me or how she talks to me everything(please tell me on this one)....but not asking...also it could cause awkwardness..but she has 3days left until she leaves..and our class is throwing a party for her..and i dunno if i should wait umtil she talks to me...or should i talk to her..and like how could i find out if she is bi or not....we don;t really talk alot cause we never have time..and i don;t have her number or e-mail..but i just want to figure out if sahe is bi...so if she is'nt i can move on with my life and i don;t want to give up...cause i thibnk i fell for her... i can tell she is not like a "im so despreate for guys" type...just quiet...and doing her work type iguess but she can be wild i guess...anyways how can i tell with out asking?...so maybe i can make a move and get to know her more...and find out if she is a lesbian with out asking..thank

Answer 1

you cant, so ask politely, if you think that you need to know, bu
t dont be shocked or offended , if you dont get your answer, or
get your feelings hurt?

Answer 2

there's a sexual vibe. in case your feeling like this woman could be gay opportunities are high she is. you have have been given to hone in on your gaydar and have faith your instinct. in specific circumstances what gets yet another woman to return out to you is to hint to her which you're too. All lesbians are diverse so regrettably there is not any one or 2 issues that ought to defiantly make her gay. (to the untrained eye that's) ;)

Answer 3

I know you really dont want to hear this but, it would be wise to just ask her, because if you ask her friends she will find out and be hurt that you didnt say it to her face. I know because my friend was acting a little weird and i thought she might be bi, but i was afraid to ask her, so i asked one of her friends, they didnt know, but she found out and was really sad that i didnt just ask her. She turned out to be bi and she has a girlfriend and everything and we are still good friends she knows that i am staight and she would never make me uncorfortable by hitting on me or anything. I just wanted to tell you becaue i dont want you to ruin a chance at a good relationship with her. Hope i helped ^_^

Answer 4

I would ask her in private if she would like to get to know you on a more personal basis that you are into her what is the worst that could happen..she says no....you never had her in the first place and so you have nouthing to loose

Answer 5

You can't. I'm a lesbian and nobody could ever tell through my apperance. Maybe slip in somehow how you think that girl over there is hot or something and see how she reacts?

Answer 6

You can't tell someones sexual orientation by the way they act, look, dress or speak. I know people who are happily married who dream of being with someone of the same sex every day. There are people who may never act on their "different" orientations ever. There are even some people who will never even admit to themselves that they are gay/bi/les. So if they themselves can't tell, how can you?

Answer 7

Unless you see her with another girl, I don't think there's a way to tell short of asking her, dear.

Sorry to say it, but it's true. Otherwise, you're just following stereotypes.

Answer 8

Just flirt with her. then later ask if she's had a boyfriend before, if she says yes say "how did you like it", if she says no say "are you waiting for the right guy to come along? or do you like girls?"

Answer 9

99% of the time, you can't. if you feel you can tactfully, and politely ask, you might try that, but usually, unless someone tells you, you can't usually "tell" by looking at someone if they are gay or lesbian or not...

Answer 10

you just go to her and ask, are you a lesbian? and after that you say, i am just curious. Would you ask her "freely" if she is from Corea?? so i dont see why it should be different,