He always sends me e-mails and expects responses, he keeps sending me annoying text messages, and he is always nosy about what I'm up to, who I'm hanging out with, and what I think about things. I don't want to just "friend dump" him because he can be OK company in very small doses. I just don't like how pushy he is with wanting to be my friend when he bugs the hell out of me, so I'd like to put some distance between us, but not end the friendship completely. What should I do?
2007-03-19 13:30:24 · 16 answers · asked by annoyed1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He always sends me e-mails and expects responses, he keeps sending me annoying text messages, and he is always nosy about what I'm up to, who I'm hanging out with, and what I think about things. I don't want to just "friend dump" him because he can be OK company in very small doses. I just don't like how pushy he is with wanting to be my friend when he bugs the hell out of me, so I'd like to put some distance between us, but not end the friendship completely. What should I do? I'm an adult, so I can't use excuses of being grounded, etc. Thanks everyone!
2007-03-21 14:06:38 · update #1
You can meet up with him and explain to him that he is becoming a little annoying and to cool off. Its overkill. That its not how you are and that he should respect your space.
2007-03-27 13:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I just don't like how pushy he is with wanting to be my friend when he bugs the hell out of me, so I'd like to put some distance between us, but not end the friendship completely."
Hahaha... I'm going through that right now. I know exactly how you feel. The only small amount of free time I have and my friend expects it always to be about her her her her her.
I'm sorry I can't give you some real advice on this. I guess you can always do what most people are telling me: Try to spend time with other people so that you won't be available.
2007-03-26 16:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sibyl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like with a child or in any relationship you have to set boundaries and hold true to them. Give him the facts... I'm not going to tell you everything I'm doing, every moment of every day. Stop text messaging me and if I don't happen to email you back it doesn't mean I don't care ... I just will get back to you when I'm in the mood to send out an email ... ok ... make sure he agrees like ten times and if he doesn't cut him off for a week and not talk to him. It's a warning and good trainning for him.
2007-03-23 17:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like that, but unfortunately I never had the guts to tell him to back off a bit. Eventually we both just drifted apart. Looking back I kind of wish I would have told him to please just call me once a week, instead of every other day. Why don't you drop him a line and tell him you politely but firmly that you cannot be in contact with him daily, that you want to still remain friends, but you don't have the time or energy for chatting on a daily basis. If you don't politely confront him now, chances are he will bug you to the point of you telling him off.
2007-03-19 13:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Puff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you still want to stay friends but that you want to take it down a notch. For the texts, say you are running up the bill so you cant anymore, for the nosiness just try to push it off and if he asks don't answer. hopefully he'll get the hint. Try to make yourself busy so you have a legitimate excuse to not always be around him to. Go with someone else to the movies so you don't have email access and your phone has to be off.
2007-03-19 13:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by mm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhhh.... tough situation, bu the best thing to do is answer a couple of e-mails and txts, then stop. Only txt, e-mail, or call when YOU want to talk. Hopefully, he'll get the message. If not, then you might have to "friend dump" him.
2007-03-19 13:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by bookworm8346 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight but not too directly coz u will hurt him. But also remember to add that u dont want to end the friendship completely and that u still wanna be his friend. He will get it.
2007-03-25 23:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Funky_punk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think friendship is about sharing and having a pleasant time.
If you don't feel like this with this person, then cut him loose.
We can choose our friends- but we cannot chose family.
2007-03-26 06:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u should sit down and talk to him tell him u need time to be alone tell him that ur not tring to be a jersk but that u would like to be alone u get me well bye
always shortee
2007-03-27 10:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by shortee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how old you are but this will work if you 18 or under, or living with you parents still..tell him your grounded and that if you can sneak it YOU will call HIM..but for him not to call you because you will get introuble
2007-03-19 15:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋