Am I still a virgin?

Question

I haven't had sex with any guy before but I have masturbated 3 times and I broke my hyme, so am I still a virgin?

Answer 1

Hun, if you are old enough to type and use the internet you are old enough to know this - if your parents have not been responsible enough to educate you about the basics of your body and sex long before now, then YOU have to be responsible and educate yourself.

More information;
http://www.scarleteen.com
http://www.teenwire.com
http://www.the-clitoris.com
http://www.myvag.net
http://www.sxetc.org
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org

Your hymen has no relation to virginity at all, some people are not born with hymens, and some people have sex but instead of breaking their hymen stretches or does not break or stretch at all. Your hymen can also be broken by masturbation as in your case or by other things such as activities such as horse riding or bike riding.

Yes, masturbation IS sex, but you only loose your virginity by having sex with another person; how you define sex and how you define loosing your virginity is down to you....but loosing your virginity always means having sex with another person.


Edit - as a note;

Masturbation is normal and completely healthy, in fact it is a positive because it teaches you about your body and how you like to be touched when it comes to sex, it also has advantages such as helping with menstrual cramps, relieving stress and it is a safe form of sex.

Whore is not a negative thing, a whore is usually a woman who sells sex, who are aware of their sexuality and empowered by it, unfortunately many people think of sex workers as 'dirty' or 'immoral' and so people often use this term to make girls and women feel ashamed of their sexuality.

Answer 2

Well technically a virgin is a person who has never had sexual intercourse with another person so the answer is yes.

Frankly, I don't know what God invented the Hymen. It causes plently of concern in some societies, if it goes missing without a good explanation. A friend of mine lost her hymen when she tripped and fell onto a storage box at Girl Guides! That would have to be one of the better excuses I have heard and almost completely believable.

I'm not sure how you are meant to retain the hymen for marriage when so fragile... and most men have no idea anyway.. I mean, a guy fumbling around in the dark really only knows it was there if it breaks and they don't always break, and sometimes they break a bit more the next time.... so there is no certain rule for this.

Anyway, the Hymen wasn't designed to last forever and masterbation is the best way to learn something about your sexual body... without getting yourself into too much trouble.... but intercourse will create quite different feelings to masterbation. It's your body, you can decide if you are still a virgin!

Answer 3

yes you are still a virgin. Unless you have had sexual intercourse with penetration you are still a virgin.

your hymen has little, if anything to do with it. It is a myth and I wish people would stop being so concerned about whether or not it is broken. Some women may not ever break theirs.

You can break it putting in a tampon, masturbation, playing sports, whatever. It is OK really.

Answer 4

Yes, you are a virgin because you didn't have sexual intercourse with another person. You can't loose your virginity to yourself. Masturbation is a normal and healthy release. The hymen isn't a indicator of virginity because most girls aren't born with one or it wore away naturally by ordinary activities like sports, stretching, riding a bike, tampon use, etc.

Answer 5

Most people say they are a virgin until they have sex with someone else. As long as you haven't done anything with anyone else, then I'd say you were a virgin. Once you do something sexual with someone else, then you fall into different categories depending on how far you went.

Answer 6

You are still a virgin.

Until you have intercourse you are a virgin.

Don't worry, as someone already mentioned, you can break you hymen a variety of ways through you life and some women don't even have one to begin with.

Answer 7

Yeah, your a virgin until you had sex. Lots of girls break their hymen before having sex- sometimes its as easy as riding a bike- often they dont even know they have done so.

Answer 8

Yes you are still a virgin. Paul doesn't know what the f*ck he's talking about.

Answer 9

of course you are still a virgin!
you lose your virginity when you have sexual intercourse.
some people break they hymen riding horses, and.. that doesnt make them any less of a virgin (if the were one before breaking it riding the horse).

Answer 10

Paul J is a jerk. You are a virgin.