Yes we have arguments in our relationship. But their over pathetic things. I let the coal fire go out. Which led to an all night argument where she brought up every argument we have ever had. She then went on to punch me, kick me, scram me and slam a door on me when I fell in the doorway. This seems to happen every time we argue. No matter what its over. I feel like I've lost every bit of confidence I once had. I dont feel like I can function without her. Its allways me that tries to make things better. And Id be willing to do that forever. Despite it all I still love her. I know she can be nice. But I cant take the hurt anymore. I guess this is two questions really. Can she love me and do this to me? How can I move on with my life? I wish I could put more detail here. Dont know where to start and theres just too much to say.
2007-03-19 12:49:55 · 18 answers · asked by doodle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have found other posts on here that seem to be really worried about stating the fact that more women are abused than men. I'd just like to say, to any guy going though what Im going through, that taht doesnt matter. If one person, male of female, is going throgh this then thats one two many.
2007-03-19 12:52:32 · update #1
1) I'm sure she THINKS she loves you...which is quite different.
2) LEAVE. get out on your own, and start being places where you'll be around women that will treat you the right way. The difference will be astonishing to you.
2007-03-19 12:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jim C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a whining women.
These are the same questions that they have been asking for years about us men.
But to be honest with you if I was you i would move on soon. If you don't there will be that one day when you are going to snap and either be in jail or one of you will be hurt really bad if not dead.
How can you live without her. Well once again that is a question that women have been asking for years. And believe it or not they survive very well. Sometimes they do better without that person then with that person.
I'm sure you will be fine without her. Maybe you two should try some counseling and she should do anger management classes. If not the hell out of there.
The more she does it the easyier it will be for her to abuse you.
Good luck,
PS
But yes she can still love you and do all these things.
2007-03-19 12:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can do better. Any man with that type of patience is golden and a catch. Plus, someone who loves you would never EVER hurt you like that. Imagine what it would be like if you were to put up with this behavior for a year, better yet 10 years. The person you are and the person she fell for won't be there anymore. GET OUT!
2007-03-19 12:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Hawaiian Honey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO - LOVE does NOT want or feel the need to HURT - period. You are what is called an "enabler". You give this sick female the license to inflict pain on another person. You love this abuser? NO, you don't. Abused do not love their abusers - you FEAR her and believe you deserve her crap. SHE has instilled that fear in you, and you have fallen pray to it all. YOU cannot change her at all, so please do not try. YOU need to push this ugly person as far from you as possible. YOU need to get professional help to get yourself back. STOP listening to anything she says, it's all lies and games. SHE is incapable of love - this is a very sick relationship and it will only get sicker. GET OUT!!!
2007-03-19 13:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are real complex creatures, to the point that might not be a proper answer for your question. In this Universe of possibilities the only certain is, anything can happend and yeah, I believe someone can love someone and still treat the person that way, that of course, isnt healthy for anyone in the most importnat levels, Physical, Mentally and Spiritual.
2007-03-19 12:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Mass 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a man beats a woman we all know it's wrong.
Is it any different if a woman beats a man?
It's wrong. It's not love. It's controlling, and demeaning.
If the person you are with starts to make you feel worthless, and horrible about yourself then what are you doing with that person? You should be with someone who lifts you up and helps you, not holds you down and stomps you in the ground... literally.
2007-03-19 12:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by crrissy_the_artist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you NEED TO GET OUT BEFORE SHE KILLS YOU. I'm very serious.
If she loved you she wouldn't treat you like that. You are in a very dangerous
situation. Please find a safe place to go and don't let her know where you are. If she's says that it will never happen again- all you have to do is remember your past experiences with her. You don't need to take the abuse.
2007-03-19 13:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Garnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 02:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- this is more like dependency. It is also most likely a repeating pattern for her. She needs help to stop the cycle and you need to learn how to live independently without her. Psychotherapy for both of you...
2007-03-19 12:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you deserve better. if she's physically and mentally abusing u there's somthing wrong. you probably just feel that u can't let go because you don't know whats better. love is supposed to make you happy. and she's not doing that. i hope this helps you. : )
2007-03-19 12:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋