My mom is pregnant and she is always hurting nad i have to take of my younger siblings and i have 5 younger siblings.......i cant take it anymore what should i do......i am only 15..........HELP ME PLZZZZ
2007-03-19 12:49:45 · 8 answers · asked by candy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well I guess I have 2 questions... Where is your dad? Why hasnt your mother went to the doc if she is hurting so bad?
I think if she is in that much pain she needs to be seen by a doctor. Then if you dad is not in the picture you need to get some other family members to help with the other kids. Talk to your mother about it. Tell her that it is driving you crazy.
2007-03-19 12:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by lizzy_22_1999 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually you sound pretty smart to me!
Just an idea OK? It sounds like you need a break from being the "other mother".
Tell your Mom you love her and you will continue to help out. BUT that you are going to write up a job and play schedule for "ALL of the family", siblings as well. Place it somewhere visible once there is agreement.
Everyone has a job or jobs and you especially get TIME OFF!!!!!
Write up the schedule and include everyones' school and extra curricular activities. Write your time offs on the schedule!
Then have a meeting, give them a copy of your idea of the "Help Mom" schedule.
If they complain or refuse to participate just ask them to tell you what is really important to them: riding their bicycle with their friends after school, watching TV, eating, having clean clothes to wear, etc? Write down what they tell you.
Ask them how much time they think it will take to do their chores?
Ask them if their chores are too difficult or if they need assistance from someone in the family?
Give them a buddy (sibling) to help. This all depends on the ages of course. Have them pick someone to help them (you can help, if it is something really too difficult for them).
Remind them that the faster they take out the trash, the faster they can go play (or do their homework).
If they don't like your schedule plan ask someone else to do the job or to help you with it.
This may sound like a lot of work right? Actually, it will be a lot easier after you have written it out . It CAN become a routine.
And writing it out will help you see all the chores you are doing right now.
Remember, this is about Mom BUT it is also about YOU surviving!!
If all else fails, post your school schedule, extra curricular activities and your TIME OFFS on the refrigerator door.
You go girl!
2007-03-19 18:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kamp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to realize your too young to deal with her responsibilities. Although it's family and you should help out, she shouldn't be putting everything on you. You need to tell her how it's affecting you and remind her your still a young girl who's not ready for this kind of responsibility.
I don't mean to talk bad about your mother but she should really take care of the kids she has now before jumping into another pregnancy. I'm sure you feel the same way and i hope that she can realizes what she's putting her other children through.
Be honest with her, yes she's going to be mad at first but she needs to know what your going through.
2007-03-19 12:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with your mom, the pregnancy will end soon :) You are a little young to be taking care of the 5 younger siblings and its hard but your mom needs your help.
Also, use your experience as "birth control" you know now that you are to young to handle the responsibilities of kids. Please don't get yourself into a situation where the kids are yours.
2007-03-19 14:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by busyscrappin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is the mother and your the child, she is the one having kids, she needs to take care of them...I'm not saying that you should not help your mom, that is to be expected...but you are also a teenager and have to have a life without being a babysitter for your younger brothers and sisters all the time..just talk to her and explain it in a reasonable fashion, not like a spoiled brat...
2007-03-19 12:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by jan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what im going to say is true but there aint a damn thing you can do about it except live and learn, oh and ask mom to limit unprotected sexual activities. cuz it aint none of my business but 7 kids is enough! i too, am the oldest. its affected the way i feel about children and in a way its made me a bit more selfish when it comes to my children. so just except and try to better your situation.
2007-03-19 13:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by dirtyandpissed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe invite a friend over to help, and have fun at the same time, but not too much fun
2007-03-19 12:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lorelei's Mommy ( & prego) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just love her, be patient
2007-03-19 12:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by -------- 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋