My friend (guy friend, not boyfriend) was married 2 this gal 4 a 1 1/2. They were together for a total of 3 years. He now wants a divorce (because she's a crazy jealous woman with 3 uncontrollable kids from her 2 previous marriages) She wants either $2k cash from him to sign the divorce papers OR she wants $400 a month from him for spousal support for 8 months. We all think this is RIDICULOUS and that he shouldn't really have to pay her anything. She is currently working part time (although her lazy butt is capable of working FULL time) but she is used to living off her other ex husband's child support to her 3 kids. She also wants him to pay half her attorney's fees even though he told her he didn't want to get attorney's, that he just wanted to settle out of court. What do you guys think? Should he pay her anything?? Oh, he also let her have everything in the house. My friend left with nothing & assumed all bills. House is in his Dad's name so it's his. HELP!!!
2007-03-19 12:48:51 · 13 answers · asked by Dominique24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, so my friend has decided to pay this b**** off to get her out of his life. So now he'll have to write up document stating he is doing so and she'll have to sign it. Knowing her, if he doesn't do that she'll easily turn around and say she never received the money. So what should this doc say?
2007-03-22 08:40:12 · update #1
$400 for 8 months, sure beats the rule of thumb of paying spousal support for half the time they were married. I'd run with this offer if I were him.
2007-03-19 13:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friends cheapest and best bet is to get an attorney to insure he is only required to do what the laws of your State require of him. His wife, soon to be ex, will only get what the court awards her, nothing more, nothing less. A good lawyer can explain all this to your friend. Trying to do this on his own is a bad idea, especially if there is property involved.
2007-03-19 13:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by curious74432 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to grow a set and get a lawyer and stop trying to just hope if he pays her off she will go away as for the house his dad can evict her and he should if she is not paying rent or he does not want her in there if he does not want to pay her anything then he just needs to say so to her and tell her i am going to go talk to a lawyer and so see you in court and go get a free consultation from a divorce lawyer and see if she has any grounds to ask for what she is asking because depending on what sate they are in in California it only takes one signature to get a divorce she does not need to sign the papers it will take more effort but as long as she is served she does not have to sign them it is called a contested divorce and is really not that hard to get!
2007-03-19 12:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldn't pay her anything!!! he should also get her out of his house.he can replace the things in the house easily enough,but what if she get's mad and trashes the place.she shouldn't get any part of the house,because he had it before they were married. she doesn't need money for an attorney,unless they have property or other things they have acquired while being married. give her the boot!!!! and nothing else!!!!
2007-03-19 13:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2k is NOT alot of money for his freedom!
If it were me I would pay that in a heart beat to get away completely from a crazy person.
I dont even see what the argument is about.
He could MAKE 2k on his taxes if he files for her and the kids....
you really need to mind your own business!
2007-03-19 13:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me she has a pattern of marrying men with $$$$ only to get her hands on it, reminds me of what my partner is putting up with at present with his ex, she already had taken her fair share, now she has turned around and wants 60% even though it is going to court as we speak. NOT fair on the man is it?? Its his house, lucky for your friend it is in his fathers name good move. she cant touch that. but hey these days the women are entitled to a fair share, lucky the kids arent his either. Dont let her give him ultimatums, he is better to seek legal advice and have one represent him, either way it looks like it will cost him something. good luck to him. I can tell you something though there are a hell of a lot of greedy greedy greedy women out there, beware fellas!!!
2007-03-19 13:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by boonoora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not for you, him or me to decide. The judge will do that for him, and the longer he prolongs it, the more he may end up having to pay. And as for her being lazy, crazy and greedy, didn't your friend know all this BEFORE he married her. It's like the Divorce Court judge always says,"Look deep, before you leap".
2007-03-19 12:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can want what she wants, but an attorney can give her what she gets, which may be nothing. Your friend is paying for his mistake big time.
2007-03-19 12:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can't demand either. He needs a lawer. He shouldn't give her anything till a judge says he has to. Tell him to keep his hands in his pockets and his money in his hands. Good Luck.
2007-03-19 12:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was smart, he'd hire an attorney and sic that attorney on her.
2007-03-19 12:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋