I HATE taking naps during the day and my husband loves it. I do not like them because i think that they are a waste of time for us right now. My husband leaves to go to Iraq in 4 months. So in my eyes i think we should be spending as much time as possible together. I could understand if these were 30 minute to 1 hr naps but they are 4,5,6 hour naps!!! I want to spend as much time as possible with him before he goes and it seems like he doesn't even care. I am also pregnant and cannot get comfortable while laying down so that is another reason that i don't want to take naps. Am i being selfish and hormonal? What can me and my husband do to fix this problem or am I in the wrong and should just suck it up?
My husband's work schedule isn't and excuse either!! Because they are getting deployed soon they are having easy days consisting of 2-3 hours of work.
Thank you for all of your answers!
2007-03-19 12:45:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a stay at home wife.
2007-03-19 12:50:24 · update #1
Napping for long periods means he is most likely depressed. He can't face going to war very easily, and then there is the fact that he will leave you and the kids. These things have to be tearing him up inside and he is sleeping to hide from the anxiety and pain. Talk to some of his friends in the military and let them know he needs some support and that the family probably should have some pre-deployment counseling. Just remember that this is most likely showing that he loves you and the family and that he is being torn apart with the waiting to go. They should know better and have him on a full work schedule or be sending all the guys to classes and counseling to help with this feeling that they must abandon you. Call someone and ask for help. Best of luck and we are with you and him in this as much as possible.
2007-03-19 12:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mother used to say that when a man gets a woman pregnant, he sleeps a lot more. I know I did but 4-6 hours seems excessive. I leave for Iraq in July but I still work at least 12 hours a day. He is probably stressing from the idea of being gone. Talk to him. Plan things to do together earlier in the day or after his nap. Ask him to nap near you where you are comfortable. But please, keep an open mind. Good luck to you.
2007-03-19 12:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by jax0817 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You harmones are acting up cuz your pregnant, that could be why you stay stuck on the napping issue, but never mind that. First, you need to address to him that he is leaving for Iraq and you guys need to spend as much time together as possible because you won't be seeing him for a while. Even to me he is taking too long of naps. He actin like he pregnant. And when you complain to him about this, you will have to know what you want to do, meaning, since you want this special time with him, you have to have a plan, you have to know what you want you guys to do other than him taking his naps because believe me, I know he is tired cuz my friend is in the military and his @ss act like he narcoleptic (or however you spell it) cuz he could be sittin down on the sofa one minute and the next minute he snoring loud and crazy like he had been sleeping for hours already. So, I know he is tired. You have to know. Don't just look at it from your point of view, take his feelings and his situation into consideration also. So, in conclusion, to "have your man have a plan!!!" ;-)
2007-03-19 13:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by sr04model 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he's leaving for Iraq and you are pregnant - maybe he's napping so much because he's depressed?? You say the napping is a waste of time - what do you think this fighting is?? I'd be spending every second I could with him - including laying down with him to nap - I'm sorry but I think you are being selfish.
2007-03-19 12:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like he's tired or stressed to be going to war leaving a pregnant wife behind. I think I'd take a nap with the man- it's going to be a long time before you get to lie down next to him again. I like nothing better than to snuggle up to my husband and rest during the day.
2007-03-19 12:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation before...you are going to wish for those naps when he is in Iraq. I understand this because I had the same fight with my husband before he left. . .I thought it wasted time that we could find something fun to do..but he thought of it as bonding time. I wished for one of those naps when he was gone...I think u should just stick it out, because if u hate them so much he will be gone(in 4 monthes) and you will have the bed to yourself. GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-19 13:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by redsoxxgal04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey, he is going to war in a couple months and you are pregnant. it sounds like the two of you are facing a lot at this time. I would suggest a compromise: let him have his naps, but reiterate to him that you are going to miss him terribly and that maybe he might only want to nap 2-3 hours instead of 4 or more. you could suggest other activities that are relaxing for the two of you to enjoy....maybe a bubble bath for two?! I wish you all the best as you face a difficult time. My prayers are with you both!
2007-03-19 13:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by AdventuresWithBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in his shoes, I would want to spend as much time with my wife before leaving. As far as getting him to spend time with you, create things that make him spend time with you, tell him you need to go to the mall or shopping. Tell him you'd like to go out and eat. Tell him you'd like to start walking together during the day. I don't think you're overacting. He may also be stressed, so maybe both of you could go get a massage together to relax. That's the best help I could come up with, sorry I don't have more, I haven't been in that situation.
2007-03-19 12:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by cobra427jah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at this point its normal to lose the first nap of the day. he is just getting to a stage where is is not sleepy at that time and that is normal and yes it usually does happen pretty quickly. my daughters cut out their first nap of the day in a blink of an eye. i would try to let them fuss or even play for a while but it just got easier to not force them in their rooms. im not sure what kind of helpful suggestions you are looking for...... if he's not tired he won't sleep it's that simple. you can leave him to play in his room/crib for a while but you can't force him to sleep. other then that i would say just let him stay up and give the second nap as normal
2016-03-29 06:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he wants to sleep away his concerns i'm sure is really hard for a soon to be daddy to be sent to irap right now, and he also might be a bit depressed and thats why he is always wanting to sleep....try talking about his concerns and why is sleeping so much. I am not sure if this is something new the naps or has he always been like this? Just talk about tell him that you are uncomfortble laying down and that you want to spent some time with him! good luck
2007-03-19 12:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋