I work a full time job, so does my husband and I do 95% of the household chores, laundry, cooking, cleaning, yard work, and I realized I NEVER get a thank you.
And yes I pay for half the household bills and make my own car payment each month.
2007-03-19 12:33:29 · 31 answers · asked by ChrissyLicious 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
NO kids, just pets that I take care of (grooming, vet visits, walking, feeding). We tried a chores list before, it didnt work for us.
2007-03-19 12:48:09 · update #1
Maybe HALF a strike.... you do ONLY your own washing, cook your OWN meals, clean YOUR side of the bedroom, make YOUR side of the bed.
This will draw more attention to his lack of contribution.
My only worry about a full strike is that chances are the total mess and disorganisation of the house will worry you a lot more than it will worry him. It may be punishing yourself? Afterall, when the strike is over, won't you also have to clean up most of the mess??
I would just 'let it out' and tell him you are sick of him not doing his share!!! Ask him to do some specific things around the house and don't just presume he'll jump in and do them without being asked (men don't tend to do that!)
Good luck with the hubby training!
2007-03-19 12:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Peta G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband know that he needs to meet you half the way on chores. And if he can not do that, then he needs to do his own laundry. Girl, you should not be doing the yard work if you do 95% chores. Good luck!
2007-03-19 12:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Latoya S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I was married to that guy and guess what? If you don't have any children then don't plan on having any until either you get him straightened out or you get rid of him because it gets much worse when the kids come around. I tried so hard until it nearly made me crazy. So, after 17 years I finally got divorced. I did all the work anyway so why not get out and have one less person to take care of. It has been hard but I'm much happier and stronger person because of it. Good luck. I feel for you.
2007-03-19 12:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by icunurse85 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you mentioned this to him? Maybe he's telling you "thank you" in nonverbal ways. People get used to others doing things all the time, and don't realize that they're taking advantage. You can't very well go on strike if no one knows what you're striking about.
2007-03-19 12:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do decide to go on strike, consider the repercussions. Have you considered simply sitting down and talking with your husband? It may be more effective than simply going out of your way to try to "teach" him a lesson. It may only get him angry and result in an inefficient and pointless battle of the sexes.
2007-03-19 12:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by thatstheplan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah, don't go on strike. Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. And if that doesn't work - do your laundry, cook what you like, etc. Thank yous are nice, but unfortunately they don't come often enough. I think it's time for your husband to pitch in around the house and outdoor. BTW - Thanks for asking this question.
2007-03-19 12:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im in the same situation as you in that both my partner and i work full time.but he does his share of chores (although he never does things the way i do them but at least he tries).if that was me i'd stop doing everything and see how quickly he helps out when he's got no dinner and no clean clothes. its gotta be 50/50 all the way.best of luck hunni
2007-03-19 12:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Maria 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do 50%,and tell him what he has to do. Give him something he can't ignore,like if he can't stand dirty dishes
make him the dishwasher. If cleanliness isn't his thing then
make him the cook,everyone has to eat. If you're already
doing 95% then you may have control issues(only YOU can
do it right) so force yourself to let him do his share even if he
doesn't do it well.
2007-03-19 12:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by Alion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a maid
both of you work, and you're both probably too tired after work to come home to chores.
Yes, it's unfair if he expects you to do all the housework, given that you both have jobs, but don't focus on trying to teach him a lesson by worsening the problem - fix it so that you're both happy. Let the maid do all the work at home.
2007-03-19 12:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, If You go on strike your relationship will begin to dwindal. if you love this name you need to talk with im. if he doesnt accept the "talk" and you continue to do everything around the house, hes only there because you are doing the work around the house and not there because of you!........If hes there for you HE WILL HELP!!!!
2007-03-19 12:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by ryan v 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋