I'm 16 years old and pregnant, do u think im a bad person?

Question

I feel that i am in some sort of way.
I found out i was pregnant two weeks ago and
the day i found out, i've been feeling miserable and
guilty and i just feel like a bad person.

I never meant for this to happen.
I halso have supporting family, friends, and boyfriend. but i dont know.

Im not having abortion either.
Its wrong.

Answer 1

*Hugz*

There is nothing inherently wrong with being a young mother. The reason people don't like it is because it may hinder you from many of the joys of young adulthood, and also is often a hinderance from finishing your education and getting a decent job.

But with a good support system in place, and getting people to help you, there's no reason you can't at least get your education and a job - and maybe go out now and then if your parents or friends will babysit, although your primary responsibility will be your baby from now on. And, there's always adoption.

It's okay, you're not bad. You just signed up for a harder time at this point in your life than you would have had otherwise. But if you step up to the task, you'll see in the end it will all be okay. Let your family and friends love you. It will be all right.

Answer 2

You are not a bad person. There are so many teenagers out there that think this can never happen to them. Thank God you are pregnant and don't have HIV. You are not immature or stupid! If you were, you wouldn't have asked this question. Good for you on not having an abortion. You don't say if you are keeping it but if you decide not to, don't feel guilty. There are so many children born to young parents who weren't ready and the child suffers for it. Right now I am sure you are scared, happy, nervous, etc. all at once. That is normal for any pregnant woman at any age. Take it one day at a time. Get counseling if you can't tell your family and friends exactly how you feel. If you plan to keep the baby, learn everything you can and take a parenting class. Finish school then go on with your plans for your future-- just because you are having a child doesn't mean your life is over. There are so many programs, grants and scholarships to help you! Good luck!

Answer 3

I can not judge you on that, however, I have only an impression about you on what you just revealed and at the same time a piece of advice.

To answer your question, if one is married there is nothing wrong about it at 16.

If not, then it appeared that you were emotional, curious, happy-go-lucky but not necessarily bad. You did something without consideration of the possible consequences that you would not want to happen to you.

Whatever you are in now, it is your duty to face your predicament with pride and make all efforts to take care of yourself and the baby so that your baby is born healthy.

Erase totally the feeling of guilt or blame and live positively whether your boyfriend supports you or not and whether he eventually marries you. It is best if your family can understand you but if not still be positive in life.

What happened is a good lesson and I hope it will make you a better person and not put you down. Strive positively in everything to make up for it and not add anything negative.

God bless you. Good luck.

Answer 4

No you are not a bad person and be Thankful that you have a supportive family and Boyfriend.I had my son at 15 and his Sperm doner was Never around and never has been Luckily for me I found a Great guy 3 months later and we have been together since my son was 3 months old.My Son is 21 and he is the Best thing that ever happened to me.Rember your Baby is not a mistake just a suprise you was not expecting.Just rember a baby is alot of resposiblity at such a young age and you have 2 choices Keep the baby or give it up for adoption to a good family who can't have children.Good Luck and Take care Email me if you have any questions.

Answer 5

First of all- I am SO proud of you for not choosing an abortion. Do not put yourself down- I think you know that having sex before marriage and at such a young age, isnt best- but you are not a bad person. You have made a very wise decision about carrying your child to term. I am so glad that you have such supporting family and friends. You could consider adoption. I am adopted and have 2 adopted kids. 16 is young to raise a child- but let me tell you something - you are very grown up in that you know that abortion is wrong- If you would like to talk you can e-mail. Take care and know that I am praying for you.

Answer 6

You shouldn't think about what other people are going to think of you, think about your baby and how happy your going to be when he or she is here your family & friends support you thats all that matters keep your head up, and your right abortion is wrong! You are not a bad person! I think maybe thats how some people feel when they are pregnant, I'm married and love my husband but sometimes I feel guilty about being pregnant I dont know why because other times im ecstatic! Just hang in there!

Answer 7

first of all your chum needs to do this being pregnant try, she must be annoying approximately no longer something. Secondly, if she is pregnant she has to stand up to her strikes, and make a huge determination on how this is going to electrify her existence, and the existence of the foetus - if there is to be one. i think of she's would desire to thank her fortunate stars that she has you as her chum, as you have been doing all your ultimate to help her in each highway of this occasion. She has to take the 1st step nevertheless, by ability of sorting out if there is going to be any differences. being pregnant checks now can inform you if your pregnant or no longer, on the day your era is due. Thirdly, if she is pregnant, then i might inspire her to speak to her family participants approximately this. sure, she did a stupid concern by ability of dozing with this guy on the social gathering, devoid of using protection (i think). optimistically, she'll be greater carefully. Fourthly, you could in basic terms do lots for her. She's the single that has to make this possibilities, as that is her existence and a attainable toddlers existence to contemplate.

Answer 8

YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON!!!!!!!! theres no reason for you to feel guilty... i was pregnant at 17 and scared shitless. i felt like a bad person but that was only because of the way that other people treated me, but i know now that they are the ones who should feel guilty, not me and definately not you. i didnt tell my family until i was 18weeks and by then my mum just laughed at me and told me she already knew! how i asked her, she just said 'mothers intuition' lol. i geuss she just knows things as a mother of five...
you may not have meant it to happen, but you're baby will bring you so much joy. you will start to bond with baby before its born hopefully your guilt and sadness will decrease with each passing day, and you're excitment will grow.
for my pregnancy care, i went to a centre exclusively for teenage parents to be. it was the best thing ever, i got to go and meet another 50+ girls in the same situation as me. it helped me to know that i wasnt the only one!
i wish you the best of luck, and though i dont know you, feel proud that you are taking responsibility, good for you, you're a great person :D
p.s my friend had her first baby at 14, and that didnt make her any less of the great person she is :)

Answer 9

You're not a bad person. You didn't go out and try to get pregnant. It's common to feel guilt, especially if you think you might not be able to handle having a baby at your age. At least you have a great support system rooting for you; a lot of teen moms don't have them. You'll start feeling better soon.

Answer 10

No Sweetie ur not a bad person bc u got pregnant at 16 yrs. Just be a wonderful parent 2 ur child. Dont let NOBODY tell u dat u cant do anything bc u have child. Best Wishes 2 U!Keep us (Yahoo people) update.