2007-03-19 12:21:51 · 47 answers · asked by julia roberts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get yourself out of there. He is not only abusive, but says he can't live without you, that is the total murder/suicide type. Get out and be safe. Go to a shelter if you need to, but get away from this man.
2007-03-19 12:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My co-worker says..."40 cal glock", who happens to be a retired police officer....all kidding aside, I was in the same type of relationship, was for 10 years. You just get to the point where enough is enough. If the man hits you, he doesn't love you. Plain and simple. I had to learn that out for myself the hard way. No woman should EVER be in a relationship thats abusive. Leave, get some counceling, and start your life over. It's not going to be easy, it will be a hard, long road. I left my ex-husband, lost everything, ended up in a homeless shelter for a month, but you know what, I was away from him. I didn't have to worry about when the next time will happen. All I can say, is, you need to get away from the man, as far long as possible. If you have to, get a restraining order, so he can't come around you. I truly hope you take the good advice thats posted here and get some help. You don't belong in a relationship such as this.
2007-03-19 18:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by Safaia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave him asap and do not look back... The only reason he says he loves you deeply is to get you to stay with him and be his victim and punching bag. The only reason he cannot live without you is because he is possessive and mean and does not want you to get away from the abuse. You need to pack your stuff and leave like as of yesterday... Go either to a families house or a friends house or even a safe house for that matter. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help in this matter as well. I suggest that when you do leave this clown that you do it when he is not at home and can stop you and whatever you do do not leave him a note and make a plan to leave safely and get to safety and away from the abuse. Do not look back and never go back to him again and do not contact him again except for divorce through a lawyer. Do not let him know where you are at all. First of all he does not love you as if he did he would not hurt you this way or ever lay a hand on you like that. He only loves to hurt and abuse you and control you. Get out while you still can!!!!
2007-03-19 12:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said you let people treat the way they are treating you. Never bring any matter up to the extent unpleasant atmosphere i.e. physical abuse or anger. finish it before taking any action. think if I were wise & inteligent how shall I act.
Men may be abusive because they have more muscular energy. But women have more brain because their body have to perform difficult function. So use it.
Discussions are never solved by discussions. Some times it is good to over look or discuss it till it is under pleasent atmosphere. if it does not get solved it will never get solved so why to bring tussel in life.
He loves you that is why he has expectations with you & when you don't fulfill those expectation he gets angry. He does not get angry with an stranger women?
I will not tell you to even think about leaving him. Where will you go? Even if you found another man what is the guaranty that he will not be abusive? If children are involved in this marriage they will loose their shelter for ever. So be tactfull. & tactfully solve your problem. My good wishes are with you..
2007-03-19 12:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to leave him coz he can't abuse u physically if he deeply loves u. he is saying that for some reasons. and i can bet u he can live without u .he is just being a bastard. if i was u i should have killed him by now, sorry to say that. but he doesn't u and i think he probably got affair somewhere as well.
so the best thing is to leave him and the rest is on u
so do what u think is right for u and
best of luck for ur future.
2007-03-20 23:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by stranger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to vent out his frustration or anger on somebody and he finds you an easy target. Speak up for yourself and tell him that it is no longer acceptable to you and walk out of this relationship. You deserve to be respected. Why can't he live without you? Because who else will he abuse if you are not around?And maybe instead of just saying he loves you, he should prove it. He is a bully and you don't need to stand by him. If he admits he has a problem and is willing to change, get him to see a marriage counsellor and some counselling sessions should help.
2007-03-20 04:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by AngelEyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you deeply, he would never abuse you, whether it's emotionally or physically. He has no idea what love is all about. He can do just fine without you. There are more women out there who enjoy being a man's punching bag.
2007-03-19 12:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not love to abuse someone physically or verbally. He has a distorted view of love. Do you have children together? If so, they are learning this same pattern and will most likely repeat the pattern in their relationships. Seek counseling and decide for yourself what you need to do for you and your family. By staying w/ him you are telling him it is okay to act this way? I am praying that you will find your way to a loving relationship where someone makes you feel better about you than worse.
2007-03-19 12:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by wwjdintd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical abuse is anything but love.
Get out and dont allow this behavior to continue.
He will live without u, either when u leave or he loses it completely someday and kills u.
Either way, he will be without u.
Get out honey. Dont put yourself through this when u dont have to.
Go to a womens shelter and get help.
Do it before he hurts u really bad or kills u. Thats the way it always ends up. Dont be niave and think it doesnt. U know it does.
Good luck to u hun.
2007-03-19 12:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you leave him--if he truly loved you he would not hurt you in any way,mentally or physically.don't be a punching bag for NOBODY- not even once because it will only get worse.and also DO NOT LET PEOPLE RENT SPACE IN YOUR HEAD. he says he can't live without you-- well leave and buy a paper every day and look in the obituaries every day. his name will not show up-- he is just a very poor excuse for a man that wants the best of both worlds -punching on ladies and then wants them to take care of him. thats because he cannot paddle his own canoe.don't stay for the children (if any), they are not enjoying the ride either.nor do THEY deserve this sort of stuff.anyway,call his bluff about can't live without you .just tell him " ADIOS , COMPOST. i think everyones prayers are with you and your family.
2007-03-19 13:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by thurmond gump 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋