Ive been married 4 years and have 2 year old daughter. We are very in love and have sex several times a week. What do you think is unfaithful regarding frindships with the opposite sex? For example are the following unfaithful: going out with them alone, kissing on cheek, regularly chatting in chat rooms and meeting, staying overnight, ( but none of these without the spouse knowing about it)... or where do you think the line should be drawn???
2007-03-19 12:19:55 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is interesting - a lot of you are therefore saying my wife is being unfaithful. However she is in the house all day with our daughter, and we cant go out together as we dont trust babysitters. So in order for her to go out she has chatted to guy on the net and made friends, and he has taken her round all the night spots and paid for everything. Then she comes home to me and has sex with me. Her philosophy is a guy will give her a better time, plus its free. Before I met her she was a "hostess" so she is a professional for getting money out of guys without giving any emotional attachment back...
2007-03-20 00:46:58 · update #1
i think spending a lot of time with some one elce when its just the two of you would be classed as being unfaithful. even if it is just in a chat room. if its every night then you are relying on them like a partner you should be spending that time with your partner! they should be the number one person you talk to about your thoughts feeling problems etc... that's an important part of the relation ship.
and obviously anything sexual
2007-03-19 12:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dreamin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If this is all done without your spouse knowing about it and you do not tell them than this is being unfaithful and cheating as you are wanting to hide it. This can lead to cheating down the road as well and not just an emotional affair. You should not go out with them alone or kiss them on the cheek at all. Staying overnight is really wrong and out of the question here and should not even be happening.
2007-03-19 12:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I have read both parts of your question, and I think this is wrong. Your wife shouldn't have to go out with another man to get out. How would she feel if this was the other way around? I have been married 11 years and have 3 kids. My husband goes to work all day and i look after the kids, but neither of us goes out out at night. maybe once every 6 months we leave the kids with their grandmother and go out for a few hours together. Other than that we go out as a family at the weekends and sometimes go out for dinner as a family. There is no need to go out on the town without your husband or wife and I think you should talk to your wife about this as it could cause serious problems in your relationship. She should be at home with you in the evenings, spending time together when the kids are in bed. I hope that you sort this out. Don't let her walk over you.
2007-03-20 01:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, apparently a red flag has come up in u for asking about being unfaithful. I have friends of the opposite sex but, i have never stayed over night with any of them, nor do i go out with them alone or meet them alone.
Whats up with this? I think u need to stop being niave and tell him instead of the time he is spending with the gal, he needs to spend with u.
Something doesnt sound right.
But, u already know that. U have your instincts rattled. Listen to them.
Good luck.
2007-03-19 12:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wanting and needing another person of the opposite or same sex in a sexual way!
Everyone needs friends outside of their relationship but this should not be of a sexual nature.
Staying over night in a completely platonic manner is unwise but not unfaithful!
I think the important thing is to ponder whether your activities are worth destroying a happy and loving relationship?
2007-03-19 12:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by kiku 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, unfaithful is:
--Emotional attachment to someone else at the same level as the emotional attachment as I give to my spouse or he gives to me.
--Sex of any kind
--A passionate kiss
Honestly, my husband and I are very honest about how we feel about cheating and what really classifies as cheating. We each have friends of the opposite sex, but we also have a HUGE level of trust.
2007-03-19 12:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
going out alone for a lunch or coffee not cheating kissing on cheek and a hug not cheating , meeting someone in a chat room and then meeting starting to cross a line for me my husband has several married and single women he works with in his office i have met them all they know my children and i feel we have a positive friendly relationship and at times he may go to lunch with the girls as i call them or out for coffee but to meet someone in a chat room i would have a problem with because i would feel he was seeking them out they were not just part of his daily life as for over night stays hell no why would that ever need to happen? i would not understand the need for my husband to go with a friend who was a women and stay the night somewhere with out me so that would be a major i don't think so!
2007-03-19 12:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. for all the idiots that say dumb stuff like, "As long as there is no feelings behind it":
When you are first texting, chatting, etc with someone you have no feelings for them... talk to them long enough and bam, you do have feelings. By then you dont want to quit because you have feelings for them.
So, based on what I just said... no texting, chatting regularly..
Someone that you talk to every now and again is ok.. but the daily thing... and cyber sexing regularly.. and phone sexing regularly.. that is bullsh*
That would be dating if they were right in front of you. Unfortunately your heart won't know the difference.
2007-03-19 12:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Just A Newbie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you need to draw a line? It doesn't sound like your marriage is in any kind of trouble. The more you worry about other women, the more you are encouraging your husband to cheat on you.
A man needs trust and unconditional acceptance in a marriage. Are you giving those to him?
As far as being unfaithful - if he has sex with another woman he is being unfaithful.
TRUST HIM!!!! Lack of trust comes from you, not him.
FP
2007-03-19 12:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I always heard of it put this way...anything you do with someone that is not your spouse that you either would not do with your spouse or will not tell your spouse you did do. That is cheating...
HOWEVER......I believe that if you are going to be with someone other than your spouse, your spouse needs to be there as well. I don't believe you should have legnthy converasations with anyone in a (private) chat room whom is not your spouse.
These are just my opinions...good luck!!
2007-03-19 12:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋