I am about to give birth to our first child (in about two weeks) and am terrified that though my husband promises to 'be there' and help, he is addicted to a game called World of Warcraft and has made these promises (re: Housework etc) in the past and never kept up with them. The minute he is home, WHAM! In front of the game for hours. He says that it will be different with our baby. I don't believe him! Why is it so hard to make the effort with me?
He has been addicted to these games for about 4 years now, and if things don't improve I think that the grass will start to look greener. Anyone with the same experience out there?
2007-03-19 12:18:08 · 12 answers · asked by caseytopia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow I know what you're going through 'cause I was the addict in our house (not with WoW but with Civilization). I feel your pain. My wife put up w/ my addiction gracefully for too long and becaume very embittered. I would suggest that you talk to him and try to explain that this is really embittering you. If that doesn't work try getting a third party to talk to (counseller). I would suggest that you take care of it as soon as possible b/c it will get even worse w/ the baby being around (he will view WoW as an escape from the responsibilities of fatherhood).
2007-03-19 16:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I play WoW together, but we're not addicted. My brother-in-law was very addicted, however, and he just recently went cold turkey. Got rid of his account, uninstalled the game - DONE! That was the only way he could combat his addiction, as he realized it was really starting to take over his life. I don't know how to get your husband away from the game if he, himself, is not willing to make an effort. I don't see how the baby's going to make a difference - if anything, the stress of having a child might make him want to retreat into his fantasy world even more. You really have to drive the message home that any addiction is destructive - be it alcohol, drugs, or games. He has to WANT to quit, and you can help him with it - but you can't MAKE him quit if he doesn't want to. Perhaps he would agree to go to counseling with you? I don't really know what the solution might be. Good luck.
2007-03-19 19:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have an answer for this, but I am going through the same exact thing., except we already have 2 children (3 yr old and 1 yr old). My husband is addicted to several computer games, that he rotates, when he gets tired of one, he goes on to the next. I have tried talking to my husband about it also. I am a stay at home mom and he works. He just says he works a job and can do whatever he wants on his free time. And I need him on his free time to help me so i can have some sanity time also.The kids need him to be a daddy and play with them, not play on the computer and tell them to hush and go away when he gets distracted. I don't know what to do either.
2007-03-19 19:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by wonderwoman30528 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you know this before you got pregnant. Why do you think he's gonna change when another living being comes into the home. I would tell him in a calm manner that you are not going to put up with it, and leave it at that. When the baby comes he may change who knows. But I wouldn't argue about it because he has to want to change you can't make him change just because you're having a child. Best of luck.
2007-03-19 19:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-wife was addicted to the internet and chat rooms on aim. I didn't really know how bad it was until I came home from work early one afternoon and found her upstairs with another guy.
My best advice to you is this: Either tell him to give up the games now or you are going to kick him to the curb. Be firm and set a date for him to meet. It may help!!
2007-03-19 19:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by droopydog88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, he is addicted. You should sit him down and tell him that he is a family man now and he must curb his hours spent on the games. He can't wait until the baby is born, you need him now. He made a commitment to you when he married you, it's time he makes you his priority.
2007-03-19 19:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn.t care how much the dumb machine costs, but does tripping somewhat with a glass of juice or soda near the video machine sound like an idea. Be dramatic like "I almost killed myself blah, blah ,blah and oops spill and puff ! the machine is gone. Then tell him you're sorry, but can't afford another one with you know, the baby coming and all. lol
Wow, 4 years ! Sorry
2007-03-19 19:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 4 years? Holw old is he? You shouldve married a man not a boy.
2007-03-19 19:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by your papi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-19 23:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by yenhgeng t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw the game away.
2007-03-19 19:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by bdjohnson2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋