Lonely between a crowd?

Question

I have some friends, and my family's close to me. They look for me a lot and want to spend time with me.
But I feel as if no one ever has really known me.. deep inside.
I don't know, I feel as if I'm sorrounded by people yet at the same time alone.
Don't get me wrong, I like to be alone. But I also think that if no one really knows my special deep side, only my outside typical normal side, then.. I'm no one. I wish I could really show who I am.
But.. I can't. What can I do?, why am I like this?.
Thank you :)

Answer 1

baby girl, actually, it's pretty normal to feel the way you do. each one of us have a different facade to what we projected for the world to see. you don't know the real true side of your mom (for an example). right? if you want, write it down or even post on a blog for selected friends to see.

Answer 2

So what is it about the "real" you that you can't show anyone? Why not?

All of us have things going on in our heads that aren't fit for company (i.e., anyone outside of our own skulls), but if you pretend to be someone you aren't, or simple repress who you are, then you have to ask yourself "why?"

Would you rather be loved by a lot of people as someone you feel isn't the "real" you, or loved by a few who really know you?

Here's the thing - you can't avoid rejection. Even should you pretend to be someone else, some people won't like that someone. What is it about you that scares you? Why?

We all make choices about who we are (for example, being polite when we don't feel polite. You could say the "real" you isn't polite, since it didn't come "naturally," but then you chose to be polite, so that is who you are - a person who chooses to be polite to others even when she doesn't feel polite). We all have many sides and characteristics. It's complicated figuring out who you really are.

Don't exclude parts of yourself without considering whether there's any reason to exclude them. You don't always have to be one way. So long as your behavior is such that you can respect yourself (see "being polite and considerate"), it's fine to loosen your leash and let more of your personality out. People will adjust (and those that don't would have left you eventually anyway).

Answer 3

You know, there's a lot of us that feel that way - lots of us right here on this message board. Maybe we are all normal!

Why are you so afraid to show your deep inside?
What is your fear - that people will laugh or think badly of you?

Maybe find someONE that can relate to this side of you.
Maybe it's a dog. Maybe it's someone from a class or hobby or place that you relate this side of you to.
Practice showing them a little bit - see their reaction.

A little success opening up will allow you to show a little more, and so on.

Eventually you'll see that the deep side of you doesn't mind being out in the sun too much - and you can merge the two pieces of you.

Best wishes.

Answer 4

Hello, I'm the same way. What you need is a friend that you can trust & who cares. That takes time to build a friendship that close where your souls can "connect"....actually it's kind of a rare thing & you're lucky if you can find someone like that. Most people are too busy or too superficail to bond like that...hope you find that special person...good luck ..bye

Answer 5

I've felt just like you. Maybe once you were hurt so you decided to always be on guard and not let people in completely. How to get over that is to try to let people in sometimes, and I know it's hard but just take it day by day.

Answer 6

All you can do is to ensure that you speak the truth to others and act according to your conscience.

Then your character will become plain to others over time, if they take the trouble to think.

But it isn't common for people to really listen to others; many relationships are superficial.

Answer 7

You're not alone, a lot of us out there feel like we're alone even when we're surrounded by people. Just don't be affraid to show people who you really are.