What would you think if your husband hid a co-workers friendship from you?

Question

He talks about all his other female co-workers and their problems, etc.. but with one co-worker he won't talk about her at all, anymore and you know she has called and texted him. He says he erases the communication so I would not think its more than just a friendship.

Answer 1

just trust him and everything will be okay

Answer 2

THIS IS A PROBLEM! He could be having an affair. Now, don't panic, but there are some steps that you really should take. You should definately try to open up a dialogue about this woman. If he is resistant, you should go to a couple's counselor. Since you know that he is open about all of his other co-workers, you can assume that there is something odd between your husband, and this other woman. Maybe he could be angry at her. I personally doubt that, but it is possible. I highly suggest that you get in contact with a therapist or a couple's counselor ASAP. Good Night and Good Luck. :)

Answer 3

you won't believe that this is the same thing im going through!!!
my boyfriend has been texting up a storm with a co-worker, and he calls her when he goes gets the mail, walk the dog, or goes outside. about 2 months agoi added him on my cell phone contract, and i can check his phone on the internet, so i check who hes been calling and texting (which isn't free). last month he used $20 worth of texting to one girl at work. and they only seem to text during the time he leaves to go to work 'til he gets off. heres what i did. im pregnant with his baby and i don't work he pays my bills. but before i got pregnant i worked 2 jobs 7 days a week and went to college. I told his @ss that i don't give a d@mn if he pays my bills or not, im not going to have him running around on me. you either get it together and stop texting her or i will leave your @ss and you will pay child support for your child.
my boyfriend said the reason he erased the text cause he knew i would act crazy, but one thing that upsets me more than anything is a liar. so i prefer that he left it on there so i could read it.
i don't believe in staying with a guy just because he pays my bills, i won't let him run game on me regaurdless. so i haven't seen anymore texts on the internet, and i better not or there will be hell to pay. so you tell him how you feel. and if you feel hes hiding stuff still call the chick and get her side. you can tell by her voice if she lying or not. sometimes you got to get crazy on your guy to let him know you'll mess him up if you have to. good luck girl.

Answer 4

To answer your question, I would invite some of his co-workers over (including her) for dinner or some get together. Whether or not she makes it, you should be able to get some 411 on this gal. Ask about her out loud if she does not make it. See what everyone's reaction is. say something like "So where's Anna, I thought her and [your husband's name] are buddies?". If she does make it, have a chat with her. Casually mention you see her messages but make sure it does not display your suspicion like "Dang what do you text [husband's name] that he deletes every single message every time?" See what you get.

Answer 5

There should be no reason for any partner to hide anything from another. Perhaps ask him one day how she is, and see how he reacts, mention perhaps that you'd like to invite her to supper, time to get to know his colleagues for an informal get-together - his reaction will tell you a lot.
If you still suspect something is going on, hire a PI to get you the facts, as it might be the opposite, maybe she has come onto him and he wants nothing to do with her. Don't jump to any hasty conclusions, get the fact and look at the situation from that onwards. ;)

Answer 6

Been there, done that. He was a liar, and didn't want ME to have male friends, so he hid it all. Even the one on one lunch dates. Best thing to do is act like it doesn't bother you at ALL, and when you have a guy friend, DON'T hide him the way he does, and I guarantee you, it won't be so fun for him anymore, when HE'S the one worrying.

Answer 7

Have you made a big deal about it in the past? That has caused me to be less than forthcoming with my wife when it comes to communicating with other women. Jealous spouses can mess up good friendships in a heart beat.

Don't get me wrong, it's ok to be weary, but don't get to the point that he's affraid to even mention that he works with women at his place of employement or you'll give him the 3rd degree...

Just one way of looking at it.

Answer 8

Well he sounds a lot like me.

I hide these things so my wife wont think the wrong thing.

Its not that I have anything to hide it's just that I don't want her to get the wrong impression.

Some of my co-works are very good looking.

It does not mean anything unless you have concrete proof that he is doing something wrong.

Answer 9

what do u know about this co-worker? if nothing find out! the next time she texts or calls demand answers or to check his text just to be sure nothings going on. keep your eyes &ears wide open. in the mean time do your own investegation.good luck &god bless u though this situation.

Answer 10

If you are all ready doubting him, obviously there are other issues than just this woman you are worried about.

It seems you don't trust him and you need to confront him about it. Let him know how you feel. If he doesn't meet you half way to regain your trust... there's the problem right there. :P This girl is nothing but a catalyst for whatever problems you have between your husband yourself.

Answer 11

My husband does that too and I don't know why. He says he doesn't even talk to the girl and that she's definitely not attractive but yet there are plenty of phone records to prove he does talk to her. So, thank you for asking this question so maybe I can understand this as well.