Does anyone have a mother in law who is mean and nasty as mine?

Question

She told me "YOU TOOK MY SON AWAY FROM ME" !!
Mind you...he is 45 yrs old!! She has complained to my hubby infront of me saying tell her stupid "azz" to shut up ...I don't want to hear about her stories of her dogs and her hobbies... I was embarrassed and mad cuz my hubby said it is not interesting to my mom can you shut up cuz u talk too much. hell i was trying to make conversation with the woman while we were visiting and we were looking at pics (old ones) and i said oh cute dog u had i had one like that too and his name was fritz and she got all mad thinking i was "talking about myself" and said no one wants to hear your boring stories .."why do u need attention?' are you fishing for compliments? that is another saying she likes to use on me or our daughter who says gramma look what i did or look i got my hair done ...sh*t like this and hubby just sits there and defends her!!! oh it makes me upset and sad and furious! what would any of u say about this situation here??

Answer 1

In my opinion ... no offense intended.

Your hubby is a momma's boy. You need to pull him outside away from his mother and curse him out. Tell him that if he does not go back in the house and get his balls from out his mother's purse, you are going to snap and do something drastic. How drastic, that is up to you. You should not stand for him or his mom to talk to you that way. You are a grown woman and he is your husband.

Now, that mother in law, she has some issues and next time she snaps and says some stupid stuff like that, leave the room, or leave the house. Grab your hubby by his whatever and say. " LET'S GO! NOW!" If hubby wants to stay with mommy. Let him. Alway have a few dollars on you so you can catch a cab. When and if his *** comes home, have yourself ready to have it out, don't hold anything back. Tell him everything that is on your mind and then tell him to either grow a pair and be your husband or go back, put his diaper on, and climb in the damn bed with his mom.

Like I said... this is not said to offend. The fact that your husband actually sits there and says the stuff he says... defends her. That is so disrespectful. THAT A'INT RIGHT! I am going to pray for you tonight. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Don't go around her anymore. Let your husband go and see her. You already lost the battle because your husband isn't defending you. It appears that their might be some "guilt" there and that's not your problem. And now JR is all grown-up and she is still trying to make up for past mistakes. Maybe she is miserable and she wants you to carry her burden of unhappiness. Dear heart, that's a big load to carry, so leave that bag alone. As long as your husband isn't sticking up for you that woman is getting all the fire she needs and it won't stop. When she is ready to be respectful, then resume your visitation. She likes an audience, but if you are not there, then there is no show.

Answer 3

The average Mother In Law has but one motivation in any and all things she does and says to her Daughter/ Son in Law..That is to protect her child(no matter how old) and her child's children from harm or discomfort. As soon as you allow her to anger you..she wins the game she plays...Unless there is something about yourself you should put under scrutiny? Maybe you both should sit down with a neutral third party and talk things out before you get too crazy and swear too much.

Answer 4

what the heck are you waiting for? Stand up for yourself and your daughter. Tell your husband to put up or shut up. No one wants to have a either or situation however in this case that might be the only situation available to you. If you think you are hurt by her comments think of your child growing up with her attitude.

Answer 5

Personally, I find that the best defense with people like this is to kill them with kindness. She's likely just doing this to get a rise out of you. Its very common for mother in laws to be jealous of their daughter in laws. If you stop feeding into her nonsence (ie ignore her spiteful comments) and try to turn it around she'll be blown away, and will eventually stop. For example..your daughter comes into the room and says "Grandma..look at my pretty dress" and Grandma says "Fishing for compliments are we?" You can say smile sweetly and say something like "doesn't she look just like her papa when she smiles like that?" "Or just smile and affirm your daugher. Completely ignoring her little digs should shut her up only she doesn't get the response from you that she wants. GL!

Answer 6

i would say tell your man to get some balls and stand up for you and your child or the one who is going to be lonely and sad is him. Tell him unless he gets from his momma what he is getting from you he had better start thinking of you and your child as his family and putting you first. If he can't do that then you must decide is all this degrading and humiliating crap worth it. Think of the example that is being set for your child. Take my word for it you will only be able to take it for so long and then something will give.

Answer 7

It sounds to me like mother like son. Your husband doesn't sound any better than his mom. I can't believe you've put up with either one of them long enough to have a child. Just stay away from his mom, & keep your daughter away from her too. If hubby doesn't like it, too bad.

Answer 8

I would tell him he needs to start defending you or you are out. I mean come on it's like he's a momma's boy. Tell him that you are trying your best to be good to his mom and it's like she doesn't even try. If you don't tell him this you are going to be miserable for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

hmm i had a bi*ch like this as my mother in law and she never got any better. Finally i filed for divorce and got my kids away from her. She couldn't be kind to anyone and finally almost none of her 10 kids have anything to do with her and most have been divorced.

Answer 10

All I know is that even if it is true it is very difficult for others to criticize people that you love. Even though it may be true it is probably very hard for your husband to hear you say negative things about his mom even though it may be true.