What do you think of women who already have kids, but they opt for IVF after the menopause for more kids?

Question

I think it's not right. Nature has decided that your time for procreation is over and you should just be grateful that you have kids already

Answer 1

I think this is a tricky one.. I'm not opposed to IVF in theory but any woman who has massed her 'normal' 'natural' time in her life for having kids should definitely NOT be allowed to do this.

Answer 2

In my case, in the menopause and with three children, I find it quite extraordinary that anyone would want anymore children after an age when firstly, my body would groan and creak even more than it does already if I was to go through another 'nine months' and secondly, it is a time when the children are grown and I have time to enjoy my work and my hobbies and meeting people without worrying about a babysitter. It also gives us more time to spend together as a couple. Not for me but that means I can't understand anyone else wanting them... I'm sure there might be good reasons but personally I can't think of any.

Answer 3

I Having children after 35 increases the chance of downs syndrome and other genetic disorders (not that I think there is anything wrong what so ever about having a child with downs syndrome!). Whats so bad about helping to care for grandchildren or getting involved in the community?

Or even adopting or fostering? There are so many children who need love, if people are then mature arn't they gonna be the best choice to offer care? This is a difficult dilemma which has more to do with how fit and healthy a person feels

Answer 4

Who's paying for it, would be my first question? Health insurance? (which means all of us are paying) or is the couple paying themselves?

My next question would be how old is the woman? Some women go through menopause early, like even in their late 30's or early 40's. That makes it a little different, too.

If we are talking about someone who is 52, I think it's a bad idea, for all the reasons other people have pointed out. But if she's paying for it, I think she should have that right. It's not something that should be legislated. Many of us don't want the government to have that type of control over what we do with our own bodies.

Answer 5

I myself had IVF treatment due to having PCOS, and now have beautiful boy/girl twins, I was only 21 when I found out I couldn't have children naturally, and after many other treatments failing, IVF was my last option, and waited nearly 3 years for the treatment, so I think that someone who already has children, and is at menopause age, shouldn't really be offered IVF, as it's not fair on the people who don't yet have any children, and are waiting to receive it.

Answer 6

Yes they should be grateful for the children they have - some people can't have any.
The more children they have, the less time they will have for the other children and partner and they're health levels may not be as high as a younger woman.
A woman has the menopause for a reason - to stop having children!!
They should grow old gracefully.

Answer 7

I agree with you there it should be given to those poor people who can't have children naturally, once the menopause has occur ed our bodies are too old to cope with children we would be dead before our kids have had time to grow up, saying that my aunt had a child on the menopause she lived to the ripe age of 81 she did help bring her 2 grandchildren up too.

Answer 8

I think it is not in the best interest of the child but fulfilling a selfish need in the woman. As you say nature works this way for a reason and you shouldn't mess with it! Just because you want something doesn't give you the right to have it.

Answer 9

I think that its easy to hold an opinion about this but, if you are in that position then (as most things) it looks very different.
Being an older parent has advantages; being fully mature, financially secure are a couple of them. I don't think there is anything wrong with someone wanting to have more children nor following thru on that desire.
I say that life is to be LIVED! Fully & compeletely. So, whatever we need to do to live our life to the fullest is what we need to do!

Answer 10

They're sick. Kids at 63 years old? By the time they're 18 the parents would be 81 and need looking after. What kind of a life does that give the child?

WHY THE THUMBS DOWN? WOULD YOU WANT TO BE LOOKING AFTER AN ELDERLY RELATIVE AT !8 YRS OLD WHEN YOU SHOULD BE STUDYING OR HAVING FUN?