Is the wife's job to cook and clean for her man?

Question

I'm curious to see how many people actually think so. my husbands friend told me the other day, that was my job, to cook and clean for my husband. And no the guy is NOT MARRIED lmao...

For the record- I work just as much (sometimes more than him) at a fulltime job outside the home. I do all the laundry and yard work as well as household cleaning. I am always baking cookies, pies, cakes for him, and his friend said "you should, thats your job to cook and clean for the man". His friend really pissed me off when he said that comment!

Answer 1

Yeah, if you live in the 1800's! It's just as much the mens job as it is the womans. Responsibility should be shared.

Answer 2

You say "job to cook & clean for her man"; let's start with the cooking:
The things we need to learn are lessons to assist us in life. The day-to-day stuff that will help us not only survive, but be contributors to our family's life and survival. The old adage of "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" and "there is no love so pure as the love of food" is very very true! And any female out there wants to win a mans heart needs to understand that men are very motivated by food and nourishment. A well fed man is a happy man. Kid you not! You can not survive financially by eating out all of the time, and there are occasions that call for some good home cooking, too. The family meets at the dinner table, the focus of the home, and the meals presented need to be wholesome, healthy, and made with love. Meal prep is one of the ways that a woman expresses her love, is it not? An extension of her contribution to the household?

And cleaning? All contribute to the messing up of the home, so the cleaning can be delegated in parts over a period of time. Splitting duties is a part of being a partnership. She can gather the trash, and he can take it out to the dumpster. She can cook, and he can do the dishes. He can run the laundry, and she can do the ironing. As a marriage partnership, we all contribute to the running of the household.

Your husband's friend needs to understand that if he wants a wifely female to "cook and clean for her man", then his job is to caste enough love her way that she will respond with love-in-action. If love is not exchanged for the building and growth of a household, then resentment and hate may come about. He needs to understand that he's going to have to give to get.

031907 6:14

Answer 3

The man who told you that is sexist and living in the past, or he's trying to push your buttons.

Actually, it should be the job of whomever the couple agreed it should be :-) Every couple should work out an agreement that THEY feel is fair. There's no such thing as "men's work" and "women's work". Either sex is capable of performing almost all jobs.


Some women want to stay home and be a homemaker. That should be respected as their choice. Other women need to, or choose to, work and shouldn't have to do an outside day of work and then take on all of the housework in addition. It's only fair to split the household chores if both people are out working. If either partner is unemployed and at home, they should do the majority of the household chores. Housework shouldn't be looked down upon because it makes life more pleasant for everyone.

I'm an old lady and even in my day there were couples who looked at chores and decided what was fair. Back in the fifties, there were some guys who pitched in because it was the FAIR thing to do. Looking at the younger generations, it seems like there are a lot more men who enjoy caring for the children they produced and believe in fair-play when it comes to chores. That's all most feminism was about; being fair.

Answer 4

sure if thats what replace into stated, or it might desire to be the female that earns the paycheck and the guy that maintains to be domicile. If its a question on gender and not very own selection, then it should not be a happy situation for the spouse. My grandfather replace right into a die puzzling marine. "women people must be bearfoot and pregnant and preserving a dinner plate". this doesnt be conscious to immediately. It does given which you're comfortable with that being your life. many females people have the desire and can desire to nest and make a house. i'm no longer that form of woman. I adorned my domicile, yet i dont clean it. My husband does greater of that than i do. he's merely neater than i'm. I project greater concerning the upkeep and money. I handle expenses because of the fact my husband ought to have forgotten the thank you to do first grade math. I mow the backyard, I put in our tile floor, I painted each and every of the rooms in out domicile, and my husband has performed each and every of the lots of laundry on the grounds that we are turning out to be married. Its all a question or the way you alter your life. I dont make him do laundry, he merely does it. And as quickly as I do it, he gets a splash peeved at me. So, this is merely how our life works. all of them call him my spouse!

Answer 5

It's what works for the couple - you have to have that open communication. There was a point where my husband cooked and cleaned and took care of the kids and I worked outside the home. We did that for a couple years. Most the time it was the opposite. Then when we both worked outside the home, we took turns. My husband always was willing to help though, even when I was home and he worked. You are a team and decide which is best. For me, I would gladly cook and clean if I didn't have to work - then again, that's just me.

Answer 6

It's your "job" only if you choose it. In a family there must be cooking and cleaning. Usually the woman is left with that chore. But that is a matter of tradition. In our day and time, there are(in most cases) no fields to plow, no crops to gather, no wood to chop (Unless you happen to be a farmer) and no food to hunt in order for the family to live. Today, many women are career women with a husband and family, and in many cases caring for the home and children are shared equally by both husband and wife. The old idea of "a woman's place is in the home (usually barefoot and pregnant) doesn't apply anymore, and men had better get used to it. Cooking and cleaning IS your job (and it's a heck of a job at that) only if you want it to be. If you don't want it to be, simply tell the old man to get off his butt and cook his own dinner.

Answer 7

That's not really for anyone outside of the marriage to say. We're no longer in a hunting & gathering society (not literally anyway). Nowadays, both husband and wife work, both come home tired, both contribute finacially to the home. Now, if the situation isn't 50/50, the couple may decide to designate certain resposibiliteies to one another. But, to answer your question, No, that's not the wife's job. Why do you think you didn't get a vacuum and feather duster as a wedding gift??? lol.

Answer 8

When I stayed at home, yes, I did think it was my "job" to cook and clean, After all, my husband was out making a living and making it possible for me to stay home, I looked at it more as my way of saying "Thanks" rather than a job. However, when I am/was sick or on the weekends, my husband did the cooking. (We didn't clean much in the weekends since I did all week)
Now that both of us are working outside the home, we share the cooking and cleaning

Answer 9

I still believe marriage should be a partnership...husband should help out when he can...in our case, my husband works very long hours, so I am not going to ask him to come home and start cleaning...i only work part-time so I do all the cleaning...as for cooking, I do but not every night as most nights my husband gets home late. He does cook for the kids on the weekend tho...and for me too. In our house it all works out for us. When we both worked full-time, we did a heck of a lot of take out and cleaned on weekends. Each family is different but I find it that attitude that a woman SHOULD cook and clean to be a little prehistoric.

Answer 10

No. I think a woman should clean her place and cook cause you would think one wants a clean home and eat good food. If there's a boyfriend or husband in the picture, they can pitch in whenever. Everyone is grown. I don't mind cleaning and cooking but I will not clean up after no grown man and feed no hungry adult. If I didn't cook dinner yet, don't tell me you're hungry. The kitchen is stocked. Find something on you're own while I finish dinner. Don't drop your dirty underwear on the ground cause I'll step over it. I'll wash them but pick after yourself. That's all I'm saying. Can I get a witness?!

Answer 11

No, it's not a job. But if the wife is a homemaker, she may enjoy cooking and cleaning since she is home full time. I feel if a husband and wife both work then the cooking and cleaning should be shared.