i need advice so please help.....?

Question

i asked this earlier, but i really need help. here goes

one of my good friends and r having some problems. she has been ignoring me alot and trys 2 hide it. i know shes a flake and i cant rely on her 4 much, but she has sum issues that really need help. i wanna help her but shes always using me. she only talks about herself and im getting tired of her. my mom said maybe i need 2 let her just slide on but its hard bcuz shes friends w/ my sis so she just keeps poping up. idk if i should hold on 2 her and try 2 work things ot or if i need 2 let her go. we used to be bffs i hate having 2 watch her fall. i care about her, but shes draging me down. idk how much longer i can play this game w/her. 1 of my friends thinks i need 2 let her go but idk yet. please help.

(p.s. this is the exact same ? i asked earlier)( please help!)

Answer 1

baby girl, it sounds like she just want someone to listen to her. not necessary that she wants help. people tend to pour out their problems but doesn't any help. i know it's strange but i know many people like that.

Answer 2

I'm not sure what her problem is, but sounds like you need to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. You need to live life for yourself. If she is so aloof, it is best you move on. You do not need that kind of negative energy in your life. I had a similar situation, and my friend was trying to control me. I let her go, and I've never been happier.

Answer 3

When a relationship hurts whether it is a friend or romantic then that means it isn't worth it any longer. Someone who focuses on themselves will not see that you are hurting from what they are doing and it will just continue to drain you and bring you down.

I have found that most people who are self absorbed rarely pay attention to anyone or anything else, they also rarely grow out of it.

Answer 4

We cant make people change they have to want to. if you have already told her how you've felt then ask yourself if the thing she needs help with how serious it is maybe you should go to a adult and maybe they can do more for her.other than that you should let her go you cant let her drag you down and if she was a real friend she wouldn't want to drag you down

Answer 5

Maybe you should tell her how you feel and see if anything changes for the better. And if not then maybe you should let her go, you can only say and do so much but if she is not willing to change then you cant change her. So i hope my advice will help and good luck.

Answer 6

you need to look for someone else to be your friend, it takes two people to make and keep a friendship going, this girl is doing nothing but keeping all the focus on herself and doesn't seem to care about anybody but her, a real friend would be there for you and uplift you when you need it not make you feel like you are not apart of their world except for when they want you to listen to them and they feel like using you when they see fit....

Answer 7

Try not to care for her too much, but still keep your heart open if she decides to come to you. If she doesn' t want to mix with u - let her go. If she wants - let her make effort to get back yr liking.

Answer 8

Get rid of her. I have a "friend" that does the same thing and I don't have much to do with her now and I feel better.

Answer 9

you need to let her go because if all she is doing is useing you shes not a true friend

Answer 10

sweetie if she uses you and is a flake and you cant rely on her she is not your friend let her go pray for her happiness and your own and move on good luck

Answer 11

You need to find another friend. You have to give yourself the priority you need to get your life together. She's dragging you down.