Is it wrong that I want to hurt women?

Question

Not physically but emotionally. I've been betrayed and hurt in the past by women so I kinda want to hurt them back as revenge. I want to date them, gain there trust, and then cheat on them with a friend or family member of theres. I know it may seem wrong but I think its the only way to feel better again.

Answer 1

try and feel better by being the bigger person and treating them really well. just don't give too much of yourself unless you both know your "the one"

Answer 2

Wrong that you want to? No, understandable, if wrong-headed. "Wrong" would be doing it.

The women you would be hurting wouldn't be the ones who hurt you. You can't exact revenge on one person by hurting another - not possible. Women aren't one huge, homogenous group. We don't have club meetings, we don't talk about you and pass your picture around.

What you're considering isn't even going to make you feel better -- how can making a first-class crud out of yourself, hurting other people, and by your own choice, make you feel better?

If you focus on what these women did to you, then you're choosing to make your life all about them and what they did. Sounds like a very long, tiring, dull life.

Maybe you need to take a breather from dating, figure out why you picked these women, look at the relationships, and see what you can learn from them about yourself. If there's more than one woman involved, then you are definitely an active part of what happened - by choosing the women you choose, or something more. There's a pattern here, and you are the common denominator.

Meanwhile, you pursue things that interest you, hobbies, work, etc. and try to get to know yourself better. That way, when you meet a woman who appeals to you, you can ask yourself what it is that's drawing you to her, and what you want from her. Those answers will help you find someone who is good for you, and avoid women who won't be a good match.

All of which sounds a lot more interesting that putting your time, attention, energy and resources into hurting other people.

Answer 3

An eye for an eye and the whole world will go blind.

I think your revenge scheme is a bad one. Every body has been hurt from time to time and every body has had those feelings. I mean both men and women. There are two things you can do that will serve you better than following this revenge plan.

1) As one of my coleagues puts it, what this world needs is more proctologist cause it sure is full of *******. He is correct. Well about the ****** part. There are a lot of mean inconsiderate people in this world. However, there are a lot of nice people in this world too. The trick here is finding a balance. You cannot be too nice because people will step all over you but you cannot be too mean. That is the ideal, but for the sake of the explanation lets narrow this argument to the two bands. The ******* and the nice people. It is your choice of who you want to be. The ****** part is the easy part. It doesn't take much effor being an ******. You can do it to anyone anywhere. However, this path is sure to leave you worst than where you started. Bad things always bring bad things. Albeit, it is neccesary in life to be the ****** every now and then but, I find this case to be very very rare. The other gand is the nice people. They seem to be always stepped on. This is just an illusion. Nice people don't get stepped on. Nice people let other people step on them. Big difference. However, nice people have a nicer time in life. This is because they do not cultivate hate.

I find your logic very faulty sir. The thing is that you want to take revenge on inocent people. The peope you should had stood up to where those bad women that did what ever they did to you. Ther are many good women in this world and the last thing they need is another ****** in their life. Have you stoped and think that your female counterpart is going through your same situation. She have felt the same way that you do. She has gone through similar situations. Why then do such an act to another good person. Remember how you felt when it happened to you and now think how devastating that will be to another person. I think it is best to promote love and peace. Remeber that they may have wronged you but you are the better person. This is because you did everything right. You where respectful, you where attentive, you where considerate yet they still did you wrong. So, who's fault is it? Is their fault. They are the ones that have low values and ethics not you. Their logic is faulty and their actions are wrong. Why continue promoting such a thing. Later on in life they will realised what they have done. You can live your life knowing that you where fair and just, they cannot. It is their burden. They are the ******* not you. So, don't become one. It was their desicion to take those actions and everybody must be responsible for teir own actions. I know you want some satisfaction but you must get that satisfaction from somewhere else. Don't think in terms of being hurt. Think in terms of getting rid of that person. Would you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Ofcourse not, that would be foollish. To you it is a blessing in disguise. To them is a curse because not only did they loose a good person but must live with the knowledge of the treatment they gave you. When you find a good partner you will love her and all those notions of revenge will go away. These partner (women) will love youback and appreciate your friendship and love. Thats what you should concentrate on not on hurting possible good people. What would you gain from that?

2) I think that now is a good time to re evaluate your dating situation. Has it gone through your mind that the problem may be you. Yes, you could be doing these things to yourself. How? by choocing the wrong people. Look at all the people you have dated and have hurt you. Do they have something in common? Probably. Maybe you should pursue a different type of person. We humans are animals of habbit. We tend to do the same things over and over. At some point we must brake that cycle. I think you have found the qualities that you don't like. Take notes of those and apply it to your next venture. Maybe go to a different dating scene. A different type of girl. Also, a different attitude.

Good luck and don't become that which you hate.

Answer 4

Continue to do it. It will bring you no happiness. It is horrible that you were hurt, but this will not make your pain go away. Revenge is for immature people, and you're not even getting revenge on the people who hurt you. What will likely happen is that you will lose someone who may be the love of your life because you're more focused on finding revenge than happiness. I advise you to take time out to mourn your past relationships and be okay by yourself for awhile. Then, when you're ready to have a mature, adult relationship, go out and meet women. Get to know them as people and friends, and just take things slow. Let things develop naturally. You're going to be hurt many more times in life. That's the way love works. Don't rob yourself of true love though. Good luck.

Answer 5

What do you think? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't be asking this question if you didn't know that, deep down, it's wrong.
First of all, not all women are going to hurt you. It's probably just the kind of women you've been with in the past.
Secondly, revenge never did anything for anyone. In fact, it'll just end up hurting you more than it hurts the women you're trying to hurt. Trust me, you'll never feel avenged.
So stop hurting these women. Who knows, maybe you'll find the one that you're meant to be with- the one that WON'T hurt you, and you'll realize that I am, of course, right. : P

Answer 6

I would double check my attitude if I were you. Getting revenge by hurting someone else? Come on, grow up. If you are contemplating dating or a serious relationship, you have to do it in the right frame of mind, or just lay off for a while.
Yes...it is wrong to want to hurt women, but I don't doubt that you'll get what you deserve.

Answer 7

No.
Revenge is bad unless you're the good guy
and the other guy is the bad guy.
Especially for women.
Women have to go through hard work.
Giving birth, cooking, cleaning, washing, and whatever.
Wanting to hurt women physcially and emotionally is a sign of bad trouble for you.

Go talk to a counselor with your vauge emotions with women.
Just because you've been hurt doesnt mean other women have to suffer from it.
Its not their fault.
Everyone gets dumped at least twice in their lives.
And its not gonna make you feel better, its gonna gain more guilt in you.

Answer 8

Feel better because ... ?
Dude, this is a joke, right?
What you suggest is that they are things to be wadded up and discarded. Is that what they did to you?
So this would be giving them back what they gave to you?
Are you sure you want to give them that much of your heart?
Are you sure you want to acknowledge that they could hurt you that much?
Well, if you're going to do it, don't do it anonymously. Choose someone very close to the one that got you.
That way, it's like a signature to your statement.
But just remember,
Revenge is best served cold, without feelings, you still have way too many feelings to move forward now. Give it a month or so.

Answer 9

you need to talk to a counselor, what you are doing is very unhealthy, you still have some unresolved feelings and issues you are dealing with because of the betrayal and hurt, if you keep repeating the cycle then you will never heal from it, because you are using your hurt in a negative way and the person who hurt you is still controlling you to the point where you would like to hurt others, the only way you will heal from it is talking to someone and directing your energy into something more positive while you take the time to heal daily.....

Answer 10

I'm sorry that u have been hurt by girls. Hopefully you'll leave that in the past. Don't bring old feelings to a new relationship. If you cheat on them, you're just as bad as they are, I think your better than that,because your willing to talk about it. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 11

It's wrong because they're not the same women that hurt you and probably been through the same kind of hurt you have and why does it make you feel better to take someone down the same hurtful road that you've come? That doesn't make it better because it's not the same person that hurt you.